SHE HASN'T HAD PAYING JOB IN 7 YEARS AND HAS MEDICAL ISSUES.
2006-06-09 04:15:27 · 16 answers · asked by BIG G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her that the relationship is not working out and that you think you two should break up. Tell her that she can have a few weeks (set a definite number, like three weeks or one month) to sort herself out but that after this period she will need to move out. Be firm but fair.
Don't burden yourself unduly with all of her problems. As long as you don't act like a total jerk and kick her out on the street then you have no reason to feel guilty. You can't be with someone out of sympathy, and you are not responsible for her however much you might feel like you are.
Best of luck...
2006-06-09 04:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by Hmmmm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow Well if you are serious about breaking it off with her I would do the following;
Tell her that it isn't her (even if it is, spare her feelings), it's issues that you need to work out.
Tell her that (that is if she can't get a disability check, or social security) that your not trying to hurt her feelings, but that she can't always depend on people to support her. Let her know that being co-dependant can lead to a dangerous road and that regardless if you two are together or not you both aren't going to be here forever and that it's a good idea to stash some money for some cushion.
Or ask her what would she do if you got laid off from your job, Give her the con's of being co-dependant.
If she still doesn't get it or understand I would just leave it as that , still be friends since you guys have history.
Good Luck!
2006-06-09 04:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by kizzykay86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that your not happy in the relationship. Let her know that you will help her within the best of you ablity but that she is going to have to find a job to support herself and her medical bills. She can baby sit children are whatever. Medical issue shouldn't be your excuse for not supporting yourself unless a doctor tells you that you can never work again.
2006-06-09 04:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by geriyourstudent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) you pack up her stuff in HER bags
2) you put the bags in front of the door
3) you change the lock of the door
4) when she gets home, you stand in front of the garden entrance and just say bye now...
5) give her cash for a cab plane and "get lost" indemnity.
6) buy a trained dog that will deter her from stalking around your house for some time
7) get a younger, fresher and cuter gal
enjoy for few years, and repeat points 1 to 7
2006-06-09 04:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by Mr ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you trying to say you dont love her any more ? if so tell her and explain why you are done if you cant then go on being miserable. also if you still care try not to leave her in a bad way, after all you have been enableing her for a long time and she may not know how to care for her self,medicaly or emotionaly,
2006-06-09 04:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its gonna be hard but if you dont love her you cant stay in that situation. And dont continue to let her believe you do love her
dont give her hope if there is none. You need to talk to her about how you feel and see if there is family or friends she can go live with.
2006-06-09 04:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her, you don't own her problem...and get out man! 7 years without a paying job...yikes!
2006-06-09 04:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by adrian_biccum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by medical issues i take it she is sick and that's why she;s not working?its 1 thing to bail when u don't luv someone quite another to be so selfish to want to leave because she's sick and can;t work!!!i bet she supported u before she got medical issues.what a jerk1what goes around comes around!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-09 04:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by southernstyle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to let go. You love her so much that you have to let it her go. By you staying with her that's allowing her to continue doing what she is doing, because she has you as a security blanket. So LIG it and let it go!!
2006-06-09 04:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by angie418 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very carefully. Be honest, straightforward and don't back-peddle. Good luck.
2006-06-09 06:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by Simplystunning 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋