2006-06-09 04:10:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I truly thought I knew this man, inside and out, we were on the same wavelength. Then after 25 yrs. you discover you know nothing about this person......that the person you thought you knew, never existed. Only part of knowing him were true.
2006-06-09 09:59:22 · update #1
I don't think we can ever really get to know many people. There may be a few rare people who are so stable and predictable, who have an inflexible set of thoughts, values, routines that we can say we know them very well. But since we cannot "get inside their heads" or read their thoughts, we can't know that for sure. How many times has a friend or acquaintance shocked and surprised us with a word, action or deed that we never in a million years thought they were capable of? We can only hope we know our friends and our families, because it is comforting, assuring thing, but there are no guarantees. As a general rule, what we know about people is what they allow us to know.
2006-06-09 08:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Possibly.
There are some people I know 'pretty darn well'. My husband, for example. I can finish his sentences. I can predict his actions. I can predict his reactions. I know how much he adores me and our daughter. I know he will always work hard at any task that he's given. I know he will always do as he promises (even if it takes him a long time). But, with the good comes the bad. I know he is like a turtle (slow and steady....did I mention slow?) I know we will always butt heads on many topics of conversation. I know he will always use the last piece of toilet paper and not refill. I know he will always roll his eyes when I ramble. The good, the bad and beyond them both....I know him.
Or do I? *shrugs* Maybe not. It 'seems' like a do.
I once had a friend a 'lifetime' ago. We were like sisters when we were very young (7+) She pulled the old "et tu Brute?" on me. Didn't see that coming.......did I even know her? Yes. But she obviously was hiding some part of herself.
My point is this. No matter what, I will always attempt to get to know somebody. It's who I am. I ain't changing that now. I'm a people person, what can I say? So, I just have to go into it sans rose-colored glasses. I would hope people would see that I am who am (or at least who I THINK I am) and I will give them my all. Maybe this will prompt them to do the same. *shrugs* You can lead a horse to water.............
2006-06-09 18:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Sky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends.
There are some people that truly show themselves inside and out on the first meeting. I love people like this. You honestly know where you stand at all times. Then there are those that show you what they want to show you and you accept that is as far as your friendship will extend with that particular person.
But the true connection is when you someone opens up gradually...bit by little bit without even realizing they are doing so. The safety is there......the comfort is there. The timing just happens on is own. And over this time you see this person in various situations and then share with you how they felt.........how they are feeling......how they solved what they were going through. By golly......its times like these that you truly get to know someone. And as years go by and this never fades.......and the person holds true to who they are........you can safely say.........."yep...I know her. That's my friend there!" :)
2006-06-09 16:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, synchronicity... I was just going to ask this exact same question. I was rereading "The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle" in court because I had nothing else to read.
The first lines of chapter two read:
"Is it possible, finally, for one human being to achieve perfect understanding of another?
We can invest enormous time and energy in serious efforts to know another person, but in the end, how close are we able to come to that person's essence? We convince ourselves that we know the other person well, but do we really know anything important about anyone?"
2006-06-09 19:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by opifan64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People Change! Someone you knew 20 years ago will not be the same person today! So no we never really know ourselfs or someone else!
2006-06-09 17:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by Retarded Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone lives with secrets. You only let others know what you have already decided to be tolerable if confronted. Having one find your secret from a source other than your choosing may be costly to your freedom.
2006-06-09 11:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by einstein 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you not met someone who is always the "same"? I think they are people we truly know. There is no inside outside to them.
I have met some of them.
2006-06-09 11:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by pixpaxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we might get to know the parts we need to know. Sometimes I think there are parts of my brain that are uncharted by anyone but me, but that doesn't change the fundamental part of my relationship with any of my loved ones.
2006-06-09 17:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it takes decades to really know someone. Most people do not want to invest that kind of time. So I say we think we know someone.
2006-06-09 13:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by ♠♣♥Rogue♣♥♠ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you will never truley know, you can judge a person, you can anticpate actions the may take, . As you can read minds you will never know. You can only take chances
2006-06-09 11:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by hththted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋