I need advise about marriage?

Question

I need advise. I am 25 yearls old, have a good job, very good looking, very healthy. I feel that my biological clock is ticking and I want ot get married soon. I don't have a boyfrined right now. But I am hearing from all my frined, that are married, and seeing from the life of other people that marriage doedn't really work for most people. Every one, who I spoke with, has been married fro more then few years and they all tell me about how they hate it. Also I have witnessed on several ocations husbands have cheated on their wifes. On few of them married guys attempted to cheat with me on their wifes. So I am just thinking here-is marriage really worth it? Are there any happy married couples that are still in love with each other and glad that they gor married? Are there any husbands that will not cheat on their wifes and will still love them, after the first few years of marriage?

Answer 1

Tomorrow I celebrate my 11th wedding anniversary with the most incredible lady in the world! We are happier now than the day we met! I love her with all of my heart and wake up each morning with a smile when I see her laying next to me.
Yes there are good guys out there that don't cheat, that are also looking for love, marriage, family and a long happy life with their spouse. There are also lots of guys like the ones you talked about who cheat, lie and do other things they shouldn't. I would say to you to just be yourself, stay positive, you sound like a great catch for a lucky guy! I know because I married a great catch!
Hang in there and I wish you the best of luck in your life.

Answer 2

I always though that marriage was not for me and I was right. I got married young at 24, and after a few happy years I felt that it was a waste of my time. Needless to say, I got a divorce and now I am single and loving it.

HOWEVER

After learning from experience, I won't say that is marriage is bad, is making decitions in a hurry and not chooosing the right person what makes a marriage go sour.

Now I know better and next time I will pick very carefully and don;t rush to the altar. I know who I am now and what I want, back then I was inmature and didn't know what I wanted although I though I did.

Marriage is a beautiful thing when is done right, after carfeful consideration. I want to get married again, marriage is a beautiful institution and can work when you find the best person for you.

Good luck

Answer 3

Tade your time and date and get to know someone really well before marriage. Make sure they are the right one. Yes there are husbands out there that will love and cherish you as a wife and will not cheat on you ever! I have a great and loving husband and a great marriage so i can vow to this fact! We would not dream on cheating on each other and we work on our marriage all of the time because there are not any perfect person out there so there will never be a perfect person or a spouse! Marriage is what you make of it and love is a choice and so is commitment!

Answer 4

Marriage is worth it if you really take your time and marry for the right reasons. At 25 your clock is hardley ticking. Every year I get older, I enjoy my life more. I am glad that I took life at my own pace and didn't use other peoples lives as an example.

We are all able to make decisions on our own, don't let your friends bad marriages sway you. I only have one friend and myself that are in a happy realationship/marriage. The others are miserable. The reason...each one of them got married to young, because they thought their clock was ticking or they didn't want to be alone.

Just take your time and when its right you will know.

Answer 5

I have been married for almost 11 years. I won't lie to you and tell you it's been roses, but we're both commited to eachother and the vows we make. Your marriage is what you will make of it. The person you marry will most likely always be who they are when you are dating them, you will not change them by marrying them. People will only change when they feel they need to, that's the biggest mistake women tend tomake with men. If I marry him he'll become a better man, wrong. Another thing is very high expectations of one another. The smart thing to do before you decide to get married is to seek wise counsel and get the things out that concern you, for example you want children and he doesn't. Simple things lead to arguments. Two people need to have the same goals in their future because when you are married you are as one, you don't work as a seperate unit anymore. You need to consider the other persons feelings, thoughts and dreams, it's really not all about you. You have to learn to accept that there will be trials and that you can come through them, although it's much easier to give up then to work through things, and that's the attitude that most people have accepted today. The sex will NOT always be like when you first met, you have to keep the fires burning and think ahead to romantic weekends by yourselves without the children and date nights. Have your friends continued dating one another after marriage? That's a mistake to stop dating your spouse ever! Face it there is ALOT of temptations out there for men and woman, and theres not to say that you or him will ever fall into it. The key is to keep the lines of communication open always, and to respect eachother and your boundaries. Don't go to bed angry, talk about things that matter...and things that don't matter, be eachothers best friend. Passion will only last for so long, you have to get out of the bed sometime and live life. Since God is the author of Life and marriage, seek wise counsel from his word and ask HIM what it says/means to be married. If you turn to your single girlfriends for advice all the time, that might not be a good thing. I can assure you that there are couples out there that are enjoying marriage. Don't go into it thinking it's all about the wedding day and that white dress and the party after, yes those things are nice, but that's not what makes a marriage. What makes a marriage is your willingness to put your mates needs above yours always and trusting in God for the outcome, and the help in keeping your vows.
Don't settle for any man, have a list of things you are looking for and make sure you are not expecting too much, think about what you can offer your mate...nobody can offer perfectionism, there's not one person who lives on this earth and is perfect. Allow room to fail, and hopefully learn from your experiences and most of all laugh together often. Best wishes to you and God bless!

Answer 6

Some will and some won't. Depends on:
1. how satisfied the husband is with the marriage. There are many aspects (sexual and non-sexual) involved.
2. whether or not the husband wants to remain faithful. Some like being part of a pair and others have issues that drive them to cheat regardless of how satisfying their marriage would otherwise be.

Shop with care! - Dana

Answer 7

I have been married for only a short time now but i do know that marriage will have its ups and down and both parties will get on the others nerves and there is a lot of compromising but if your really in love it will work out and its worth it.

Answer 8

The reason why marriages don't work is because of selfishness. The cure for selfishness is God. If you want a marriage that will work, look for a man with a genuine heart and a Christian character. If he loves God, he will also cherish His commandments and one of them is "thou shalt not commit adultery". Why? Because someone who knows God has God's love in their heart and love does not cheat because love cares about the other person and wouldn't want to hurt the other person. My husband and I have been married for 6 years and we have been together for 8 years. We have never cheated on each other. God is the link that keeps partners together and keeps selfishness out.

Answer 9

I am 37 and divorced. Not in a hurry to get married again. Don't ever rush it. I rushed the marriage thing and ended up marrying someone who did cheat on me. You need to take time to get to know the person really well before you marry them.

Answer 10

Don't push your self into that? The right guy will come to you one day, you will see. Do not look for him. I've been married for 3 yrs now, I'm 28 yrs old, but I was married before. I got married when I had 19 yrs old and I get divorce 5 yrs later. I'm not saying marriage is bad, IT IS WONDERFUL just that I was like you and look what happened. Again, DO NOT LOOK for it.