I have been with my husband for just over 5 years. Our relationship did not start off passionately..like we weren't head over heels in love...but we got along as friends so we dated and eventually married. We have had many ups and dows but we have become closer because of our problems and now I think we would do anything for one another. Is this love? or is love the head over heels stuff that we did not experience?
2006-06-09 03:47:33 · 17 answers · asked by applecheeks 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like the two of you have been through some things together that brought you closer. Maybe you didn't fall head over heels in love with each other but what the two of you have now is something most couples don't! I wouldn't worry about what you didn't experience, what you DID experience was much better!
I'm sure the two of you will have a long and happy life together Sienna, I hope you will continue to be as happy as my wife and I are.
Good luck and good question
2006-06-09 06:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I believe that both of you are in love......it may not have started off with fireworks but the older I get the more I realize that sometimes relationships that start off with all the "googely eye" feelings, let's face it ...they don't always last....it's soooooo important to start off as friends...if you can be friends with someone, how awesome is that....you have a very REAL and honest good start....then it just goes on from there....this is a problem I am having right now with a man that I have dated on and off for 5 years...he's 45, I'm 36...so we're not young kids here...but he says he's not "in love" with me...but that he loves me dearly as a friend, we spend every day together, talk on the phone the days we're not together, we ARE attracted to eachother....etc....BUT he's determined to find Miss. Right....he wants that "feeling" which don't get me wrong I understand but his taste in women has never been good....he picks the ones that have nothing whatsoever in common with him, emotionally unavailable....etc.... I'm fearful that it will be too late one day if he should realize that what he has right in front of his face is now gone....I hang in there though...which I question quite often...but I can't let go of him because we share sooo much....and it's all good, none of it is bad. I think you are a very lucky woman to have a man that is your "friend" and that you would do anything for...especially when he reciprocates....you sound like you appreciate the important things....the things that in the end....mean the most and will last. I envy you...count your lucky stars!!!
Good Luck!
2006-06-09 11:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like love to me. When you love someone, you can create that "Head over heals" feeling by doing romantic things to creat the mood. You may never have that "First date feel" again like you did with some, but trust me, that feeling never lasts forever no matter who your with.
Love is so much more that the Lusty feeling of being "head over heals". You sound like you are very close and happy, that is what matters most in a loving relationship.
2006-06-09 12:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those passionate love affairs exist only for the movies, so don;t long for something that comes out of princess stories.... I will quote my favorite movie here " Fairy tales are BS!" so be happy with what you have, you sound like you have a happy and healthy relationship.
If you want some exciment in your marriage, plan on renewing your vows, or go on a second honeymoon, go scuba diving, parachuting ...do something different for you both.
Good luck
2006-06-09 11:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're in love. I don't know about the head-over-heels thing. That usually comes very early in a relationship, I think. If you feel like you're in love, you are.
2006-06-09 10:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think "in love" is the head over heels thing because it doesn't require any work, it just happens.
It sounds like to me what the two of you have now is REAL love.
I am so happy for you. Real love is what lasts!
2006-06-09 10:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are happy, so don't even worry about the head over heels thing.
2006-06-09 11:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by southernlisa37 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even u don't feel the so called head over heels inlove saga.What u both now doing is called LOVE..sacrificing to each other,helping each other,being there when the other needs help.Is more than enough to tell it is love that binds you together for 5 years.
2006-06-09 10:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by effy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set way that love has to be. Love can be a number of things. It could be where you would do anything for your partner. It could be head-over-heals in love. It could be anything. As long as you love that person, it's love.
2006-06-09 10:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by ddevilish_txnfml 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone I think has a different perception to what Love is..for me its accepting the person for whom they are 100 %
2006-06-09 10:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by one_lost_hippie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋