2006-06-09 03:42:25 · 29 answers · asked by karen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
everyone will say YES - but no one could be 100% sure until it happens to them - No one is perfect and we all make mistakes but can you live with him mistake "forgive and forget" is harder to do tham people think . I depends on how long you have been together, do u have any kids, was it just a 1 nite stand ot an affair,
Take time out and think what is more important to you your life with or without your partner .
2006-06-09 04:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by fabbymummy 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say. The gut reaction answer is " Hell yes- break up.."
But, that gets sticky when you are on love or married or have kids together, pets together, etc.. It depends on how strong the love is. Do you think they'll do it again? I mean, stuff DOES happen once in awhile. Is the love strong enough? Usually, people cheat because there is some unresolved problem deep down. Do you know what that problem is? Is it a fixable problem(Something that maybe getting counselling could fix- i.e intimacy issues, not enough sex between the two of you, trust issues, etc?) Or is it a problem that will never go away ( They are a horn dog- their daddy was a horn dog, their grandaddy was a horn dog, etc.) Also- what kind of person are you? Are you the forgive and forget type or can you hold a grudge forever? It's such a hard question to answer- there are so many variables....
2006-06-09 12:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always said that I would break up/leave a guy if he cheated on me, then it happened when I was married to my ex. I stayed for 6 months after finding out the first time, then left for 6 months. The second time I left again, but was forced to move back in with him because of certain circumstances, even though I didn't love him. This last time I left for good, divorced him, and haven't looked back. I now have an awesome boyfriend that doesn't believe in cheating and treats me with the love and respect I deserve.
You just never know until you are in that situation what you will actually do. You may stay to work it out; you may kick them out or leave yourself. I learned that lesson the hard way.
2006-06-09 12:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is always difficult. If it was just a casual flirtation and both of you knew the score it might not be so hard. But the real hurt and angst comes in when the relationship was deeper, lasted a long time; you may have lived together, or even worse, been married. Once you've broken up it is natural to go over it again and again in your mind..so think cooly
2006-06-09 10:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by cad109 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easy for most people who will say yes but every situation is different. For me, if my partner cheats, i wont leave him (no way). I know what we have got and it is good. so if he cheats, then something is wrong which definitely hasn't being addressed and we will work on it together.
2006-06-09 14:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by God4real 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I alwaysed used to say YES! DEFINATELY! however, when you have been in a situation, you can never tell what you are going to do until you are init. Its shameful for a lady to take back a man who has done the dirty on her, but at the same time, love an insecurities makes everyone do mad MAD things. so by asking this question, you will never really know if the responses you get are 4 real. they might think that they wouldnt, like i did, but its one thing saying something and one thing doing it. na i mean.
2006-06-09 11:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by london lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have changed, but that usually doesn't happen, and the fact that he's canceling dates suggests that he's still playing you.
As long as you give him some rope he'll likely string you along. The only way to rein him in is to demand his loyalty and drop him if he continues to play games.
The past is only important if it affects the future or offers clues to it. Can you believe that he changed or will you always feel like you're being played? If you can answer those questions, you'll know what to do.
Best wishes! Dana
2006-06-09 10:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by a1_guy_4_fetish_gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-06-09 10:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by okayalder62 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, depends on how serious you are about them. If you also like the freedom of an occassional fling, why be so hard on your partner?
If you believe in being faithful then remember, once a cheater, always a cheater!
2006-06-09 10:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by Miss H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess this all depends on your relationship. My wife cheated me with a family friend and moved in with him for 3 months but l took her back all l felt was l love her so much though l was hurt and am still hurt
2006-06-10 04:09:48 · answer #10 · answered by rythimic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋