She was working 2 jobs going to school and taking care of almost all the house work and our 2 kids. She told me she needs to be alone that she isnt sure she loves me. But we slept in the same bed untill the day she moved out. She has told her sister she knows I'm a good guy and a great father, and doesnt know why she feels this way, but she can't continue this way. She misses the hugging and cuddling couples are supposed to do. She even told me before she left she wasn't sure I loved her. But I do love her and already miss her very much. In the last 3 weeks we haven't spoken much just when we meet for the kids. I was over there on Sunday morning and she was in her silk pijamas I had given her, I complimented how nice they looked on her and she said you were the one who gave them to me. She asked me to let her make the first move, and I want to respect that but after another month would it be ok If i attempted to ask her out on a date? I think she is feeling somewhat lonely.
2006-06-09 03:41:59 · 22 answers · asked by josepainhas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since she has moved out she is not able to stay home and is always with her sister. The kids have complained to me that they always get home late and she puts them to bed right away. She stopped coming to the kids actiivities... I dont ask her why. But really miss her and would love to call and speak to her. How much more time should I give her?
2006-06-09 03:43:45 · update #1
Pray about it. ANd just Trust in God to make it work
2006-06-09 03:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Danny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's working 2 jobs going to school and taking care of almost all the house work and 2 kids??!!
Dude! She's burned out!
I hope you're working two jobs as well and helping around the house so she doesn't have to come home (after work) and work some more!
See if you can somehow alleviate the work she has to do everyday. Maybe if you got a beter paying job she wouldn't have to work 2 jobs to support the household.
A month is enough time for her to do some soul-searching and if I were you, I would try asking her out on a date and see if her sister will babysit the kids so you two can spend some quality time together.
There probably hasn't been much of it as she's working so much and going to school.
I'm sure there is a reason she's working as hard as she is as with any family, you to have a goal you've set out to accomplish by working as much as you are. Remind her of this goal, she's probably forgotten why she's busting her a$$ for this marriage.
Good luck.
2006-06-09 03:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by Shep 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's been overwhelmed working two jobs, taking care of the kids, taking care of the house. What were you doing while she was doing all the work? I don't mean to be mean, but it doesn't sound like you were very attentive to your relationship and her needs.
Now she's probably had enough. It's very possible she's found someone else to give her the attention she craves. It's wrong that it has come to this, but you need to face the facts. If she was on the edge of being with someone else, you gave her the push, whether intentional or not, to jump. Now she's making up for lost time, by thinking only of her needs. Unfortunately, your kids are caught in the middle. It's them I feel for.
2006-06-09 03:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by michael s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a great father and a great provider too but you missed out on one very special person - your wife!
You better do more than just win her back and get back to normal you better prove to her that you DO love her and give this love neglected woman all the emotion and cuddling she needs to feel like you love her.
Pay attention to your wife and stop letting other things in the world take up all your time. She married you because of the spark you had together and now the spark is a wet soggy dead matchstick!
2006-06-09 03:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said she doesn't think you love her. Maybe her moving out wasn't only to see if her feelings return but to see if your feelings return. You say you love her but you obviously didn't make her feel like it. She misses hugging and cuddling which she should have had from you. I think you should make a great effort to continuously let her know how much you love and miss her right now. She wants to make the first move but that doesn't mean you should just step back and leave her alone. You would only be reassuring her that you dont really love her.
2006-06-09 03:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she asked you to let her make the first move i believe thats ehat you should do. if it goes another month i wouldnt ask her on a "date" maybe just when you go to pick up the ids try to talk to her or maybe call her i would start out talking before you ask her on a date if she was having these feeling you dont want her to be overwelmed. i would also pray and trust that what ever happens is the way God meant it to, which i know is hard to accept if it doesnt work ut your way. but i truly hope this works out for you and that you and your wife can live he rest of your lives together.
2006-06-09 03:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu seem like a nice guy and I believe you deserve to hear the truth. I think she is cheating on you. WHy else would she put the kids to sleep early? Why else would she need to think about you? It's obvious. Maybe you don't want to see it but I believe deep down, you already know. I am sorry. But move on. If you want to save the marriage, the only way is to get therapy for the both of you. If she wants to, that is. Otherwise, forget her. There are lots of women out there who are looking for a good guy.
2006-06-09 03:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by DELETED ACCOUNT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....that's a toughie...I'm sorry for all that you are going through...the only thing I'm thinking is maybe she resents you for HER having to work so much and take care of the kids and the house by herself for soooo long...why didn't you help out? How many jobs do you work? Why was all of that placed on her like she is a single mother???
2006-06-09 03:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, Its time to cover you ASSets, go to a lawyer. You are the best thing for your kids, you need to step up and protect them. I know this is not what you want to hear but it's the brutal truth. You can mope about it or just get on with it. Looking at the situation she left I don't think any sane person would want to go back. Would you?
2006-06-09 03:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by bd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now she is probably very very overwhelmed. Maybe she just need some my space and a clear mind. Just keep doing what you are doing and that is being a husband and great father. Pray and hope that she returns.
Good Luck and best wishes in your situation.
2006-06-09 03:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by ronce_1118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man u r in truble if u wana save urself n ur family
then just do one thing n ask ur wife ab ur feelings to her untill she is not being ready to say u yes to u ok
& donnt be shy to say her that u love her as many times as u need to win this game ok. bcos this is the question of ur life.
n u no life is looking very long if u r alone
2006-06-09 03:50:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋