His job sent him away for a couple of weeks and I can't stop thinking about him. I don't want to be with anyone else and I cut off all of my male friends. He doesn't believe that I really care for him and I don't know if I should use the word "LOVE" to convince him. I want to marry this man. I want to be the one he looks forward to seeing. I want to be the one he depends on and trust. I believe that we make a great team. I don't want to rush anything but I just want him to know that with me he doesn't have to worry about anything, anymore now that I am in his life. I admire him and I would be so proud to call him my husband. I want my family to meet him and love him the way I do. I believe he is the one.
2006-06-09 03:20:41 · 29 answers · asked by Let's See 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When we first met he said that in six months he is going to ask me to marry him and I laughed at him and changed the subject.
2006-06-09 03:37:04 · update #1
I met my fiance 3 months ago the nite before i moved out of my husbands house to another state. I continued my moved. He visited me the next week. We talked on the phone. He moved me back 1 month later. We are so in love and are planning our wedding in Aruba. All things are possible.
2006-06-22 05:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think that saying "I Love You" is a way to reel him in, you might want to rethink it. You can express your feelings better by telling him that you really enjoy his company or that you look forward to seeing him. Saying "I love you" is not always the best way to express your feelings because LOVE has become a very generic word. It is often a scary word to men, it begs commitment or something more from them and the something more is often more than they are willing to give after only a month-long relationship. Don't push too hard. When it is appropriate to use the word love between the two of you, you will not have to ask whether it is appropriate or not. You can express the feelings that you have in particular and it will have a less forceful impact if you say these things gently and not overwhelmingly, or all at once.
Good luck on your journey.
One more thing. . . REAL LOVE does not even ask of you that you give up friends or anything. REAL LOVE accepts you and all that comes with you. REAL LOVE shares your life, doesn't ask you to change it. Just something to consider.
2006-06-09 09:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by Kyra P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Com'on girl...you just said that you don't want to rush anything but you just did!!! Think carefully before you choose somebody to be your husband, a partner of the rest of your life!!! No regret after that!! This is serious!!! You haven't know this man in only one moth??? It's not enough time even a year....we have to built a relationship by steps, known each other well first, his background, his family, his attitude, habit, character, his weakness and strong....etc until you really sure that he is the one right for you.
For women the happy marriage is depend on our husband....if we found jerk, he put us into hell. if he is the right man, he put us into heaven and make us the luckiest woman in the world.
I know my husband from 1993 and start being my boyfriend in 2000 and we got marriage in 2003. And i found my marriage no regret at all, it's going smooth and we both happy.
wish you luck.
PS : Do not rush in making decision, do not thinking with heart, think it with brain...especially now when you are in deep in love. You know sometimes love is blind it cover us from seeing the bads.
2006-06-20 19:44:41 · answer #3 · answered by Fie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whooaa Nelly, Slow down. You may just be dreaming about him because he is away and you can't see him. Make sure you aren't fanatazing about who he could be, without seeing him for who he really is. Take some time and get to know the real person. Don't say I love you, without some more time together. Even though you have this feeling in your heart, it may take some time for him to grow these feelings for you too.
As a traditionalist, I would always follow the guy's lead in this matter, because if you come on too strong, he may run away.
2006-06-09 03:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him but not rush into marriage or engagement just yet. Get to know him much better and see if he feels the same way about you that you feel about him. Love is spelled TIME. He may like you alot but there is not guarantee that he loves you the same way that you love him. You dont want to scare him away by trying to rush it either. Take your time and think and breathe! Pray about it too and see what God shows you!
2006-06-09 03:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no, wait, wait. You are not in your right mind right now. We all have this type of sensor in the back of our brain that releases like a drug, like being high. It's called the "amygdala"...*research it.* That feeling of attraction, connection, lust, or just plain floating on air; that is the drug your on. It's strongest at the beginning and it rises to a peak, where it holds for 12-18 months-then begins to decend. That would be a better time to decide something so serious.
2006-06-21 22:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy now girl. you've known this guy for just over a month, he's been gone a few weeks already and you say you want to spend the rest of your life with him. take it easy. i can understand you have feelings for him and maybe he is the one. i wouldn't go making plans for a wedding just yet. be careful with what you say to him as well, you may cause him to run like the wind from you. one month, sheesh. do not use the love word yet and definitely do not mention marriage. good luck.
2006-06-09 03:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by prof56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is premature at this stage for you to make a decision - what with knowing him for such a short time.
Having said that, don't be ashamed to admit you feel the way you do after only 1 month - that's normal. But please do not confuse your feeling of ecstasy and feeling of commitment at this point in time. Know where those 2 feelings separate and you're sure to make a sound decision when you do.
REgards
2006-06-09 03:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by blucille2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say "Basic Instinct"??? My goodness. Even though you can't say how long it takes to fall in love with someone, it usually helps that you spend time with that person!!!! You might just be falling for the man that you think you know & that you've been thinking of, but he might be totally different. Plus, how do you know that he hasn't found someone else where he is now.
2006-06-09 03:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by leecarh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slow down slick....
A month??
Hell... I even get a 6 week trial on my vaccum..LOL
Enjoy courtship honey.. what you are feeling right now.. is DEEEEEEEEEPPPPP infatuation.... you are all giddy... and have all those fuzzy feelings you can't get him off your mind.. blah blah blah.. doesn't mean love. Means you are in deep like, deep infatuation. Give it more time darlin... Get to know the REAL him first.
I can't tell you the amount of women I have run across who have gotten divorced, or who have been battered, or who got impregnated and dumped... all because they jumped the gun...
Its great to have all those happy feelings... its wonderful as a matter of fact... just let them linger a bit... draw them out, draw him out.. see if he can still be wonderful in any light.. not just the light of the rose colored glasses you currently have on.
You need to see him in all of his glory, angry, sad, in tender moments, in times of stress, emotional strain.. and all of that takes times. See how he handles life to know how he is going to handle you and more importantly how he would handle your offspring.
Just my two cents....
2006-06-09 03:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋