The first time was definately short, which was expected. However, after that, he found it difficult to keep an erection. I'm sure this is due to performance anxiety; however, how can I comfort him or what can we do to help with this potential problem. He's very concerned.
2006-06-09 03:14:58 · 8 answers · asked by DeZINE-ER 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Chances are, it was the embarassment of finishing so quickly the first time. It weighed on his head thus preventing the erection later. Just tell him and show him that it's ok. YOU make the first move the next few times. This will, in his head, show that you're really ok with it...
2006-06-09 03:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by RCF1977 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had this problem when I had sex for the very first time. He's just nervous it's all in his head. Don't pressure him into having sex, Wait a week or so and see if he initiates it. If he doesn't and a week has past you initiate it. Try to keep stimulating him to make it easier for him to keep an erection.
2006-06-09 10:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by kmbaum2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years is a long time!! there are other ways to please each other and you should try that till the anxiety is gone!! The less pressure to preform the better for both. Don't approach like a "sex" situation. Tell him you don't expect sex, you just want to feel good.
2006-06-09 10:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by Krystle J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't confront him. What the hell are you thinking! It's the first time, have sex at least once a day for the next month and then see how things are, I'll bet they are better. Good luck and don't worry, he is probably a little nervous.
2006-06-09 10:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had sex for the first time "last night", but then you say "after that". How many times did you have sex? Give it a week, at least!
2006-06-09 10:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by powhound 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he haven't had sex ai 5 years that is his problem!!!! but what u need to do is take over in bed and show him what you can do. i'm pretty sure u don't him with that big of respondabilty after not have sex in 5 years!!!
2006-06-09 10:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by Big D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is from the lack of sex, and even anxiety...
he'll do better if he relaxes, you can help him relax...
2006-06-09 10:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one word- Viagra
2006-06-09 10:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋