My boyfriend doesn't really talk to me all that much. I try starting conversations all the time with him but he never seems to start them himself or really talk long about them with me. My best friend says I should dump him but I really like him and I want opinions on why I shouldn't dump him and stuff like that.
2006-06-09 02:46:29 · 14 answers · asked by chellegirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm not going to sugar coat what you want to hear. Personally...Go with your gut feeling sweetheart. If all you do is make excuses to cover the truth you will end up heartbroken. Love sees no wrong!!! But everyone has flaws.
Monkey see....monkey do. An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth. Treat others how you are treated. See how he likes it, and if it doesn't bother him. He's telling you with out trying to start an arguement that he doesn't care or want to hear what you have to say......and that to me.....is TOTALLY DISRESPECT!
Respect yourself and find someone who will respect and adore you for who you are. There IS that person out there...
And from a married womans POV....if he doesn't communicate now, and marrage is in the future.....It will NEVER work. You must communicate to understand each other. If you don't understand ... there will be conflict ... and you can't resolve conflict by ignoring it. Face the facts and if he doesn't put into the relationship....why should you... It takes two people to have a loving relationship.
However, there are men out there that are soft spoken, and doesn't like to talk much. But since I don't know this guy and you do.....that's why you must be particular and observent of his actions. Is he normally a talker? Does he act different around his friends? or around other women? Only you know how he really is, none of us do, so like I said....go with your gut. or if you are a religous person....ask God to show you or understand or give you emotional strength to get thru this. No burden is too big or small for our Creater. In fact, it praises him when you realize you need him in your life.... GOOD LUCK
2006-06-09 03:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by Krazy K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know, he might just have a hard time initiating conversation. Lots of people are like that. How long have you two been seeing eachother? Find out what he is really interested in then talk about that. If you know nothing about the things he's interested in then ask him to tell you about them or teach you some things about it. Show intrest in him and the things he likes to do. That normally can spur off any conversation. It sounds like you still have a lot of getting to know him. Don't dump him because he's a quiet one. If he is showing you disrespect by ignoring you, then that's a different story. Then you should maybe explore other avenues.
2006-06-09 03:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by ♥§weetiepie♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, ask him why isn't he talking to you. You could possibly find out the reason that way. I kind of agree with your best friend...if he barely has a conversation with you, then you need to let the relationship go. Relationships are based on communication mostly and you do not have that. You need to be with someone whom you can talk to and share your inner feelings with. It is not you, the problem is with him. If he does not take the time to talk to you, then you need to let the situation go and find someone else who would spend their time chatting with you. But then again, you should not dump him because you have not found out the reason yet of why he is not talking to you much. If you do not think the reason is valid enough, then you need to drop him. But aside from all of that, the whole purpose of a meaningful relationship is to communicate with your partner, not to ignore them.
2006-06-09 03:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by spyder90tishuez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing for 6 years... My fiance would cme home from work and go upstairs to read and relax after work... I would fix dinner (having to watch 2 children while I was cooking since he was STILL upstairs) and then we would eat WITHOUT HIM since he was STILL upstairs.... he'd come down to eat at about 9pm, (and by this time I was exhausted after chasing after 2 kids all day) and so I'd go to bed and we wouldn't talk....
I tried discussing it with him but in 6 years nothing changed. Finally I got tired of feeling alone in the relationship so I had to end it. I don't regret it. Because I ended that (which made me feel like crap anyway) I met my husband. We get along great and everything is right in my life now.
God puts you through "tests" and you will be wiser after this one. Although I will not say to dump him or not dump him... I will say to think about this..... Do you want to feel alone for the rest of your life?
2006-06-09 02:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by coconut_parrothead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he shy or introvert. If he is thats not a bad thing. Some people just are calm and quiet by nature. Try to accept him and try to talk to him anout something he likes, say music or sports or stuff like that. Make him feel comfortable and once he realises that he is comfortable, he would open up more. Give him a chance!! ( I am just like him, and my girl-friend did this stuff so I think it'll work!)
2006-06-09 02:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by Billy Talent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he talk with other people or is that just his nature? If it is his nature to be taciturn then let him be.
But on the other hand it just does not seem like he is really into you. Appears you are forcing yourself on him.
2006-06-09 08:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by violeo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay.
Since I know what you want to hear, I'll say it.
Try telling him you feel ignored. Magically everything will be alright, and he'll start to pay attention to you.
Now I'll say what I think you should do.
Dump Him.
2006-06-09 02:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by Karmically Screwed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should listen to your best friend. if he was interested in you, he would start the conversation, and he would talk to you for that matter.
2006-06-09 08:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by babygurl_abp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try being more like him....find out what his interests are if he likes to talk about his man-hood join in his words and just maybe you could be his best buddy.......not just his "lady o the nite" try to find out his potential life !
2006-06-09 02:57:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby is also very quite and most of the time it is me who is always speaking. If you luv him then don't mind. Is he listening to you or not?- this matters
2006-06-09 02:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by pretty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋