Now i have problem about social. I dont know , it is uncomfortable when i be with people. i am learning to be friend with people at my office but finally i will go back to my silence world. Sometime i may hurt people feeling when they want to be good friend to me.ex i left 3 friends when we were in shopping mall becos i feel they can enjoy together. i think they feel disappoint when i say goodbye. Later i think ,i should not do it. I know my problem came from i was alone too much when i was a girl.
2006-06-09 02:15:51 · 16 answers · asked by boathouse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
try to gat out this boring world of yours. do not limit ur life within a circle. always try to stay cheerful and happy. after all ur parents died at your young age and god has made u still live to enjoy life. so go ahead.
2006-06-09 02:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by sweety pie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both my parents died when I was 13. I was homeless and on the streets, begged, stole and did it all. I still made friends and did not use drugs etc. I however went to school because I knew thats what would give me better life ahead. What I am saying is that be around people and choose friend carefully. Its a big world out there and dont get corkey but treat people just like or better then you would like then to treat you. Be truthful and you will be able to talk to your friends and lean on each other for support. Remember, everything is isd possible if you work hard. Dont ever blame society or others but take responsiblilty for your own actions (good or bad actions.).
2006-06-09 02:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let go of this insecurity you have and allow good ppl to come into your life so as to influence you for the better. Everytime you meet a new friend who genuinely likes you and who you want to be friends with go for it and whenever u get that feeling where u wanna leave them, just remember how terrible you feel when you're all alone and how you would prefer the company of someone. Also think about how fortunate u r to have met such a good person and try hard to tune into the friendship so it's not a one way effort and your friend doesn't feel left out.
2006-06-09 02:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also a only child but my parents are still alive. But I also don't like social life. I also feel uncomfortable with a lot of people.
But there is a little bit difference between you and me. I only feel uncomfortable with certain people. I don't know how can I define who I want to be with them and who doesn't want to but at least, the people who I called friends that we can talk and communicate. If you put me into a group of people who I can't talkt to, I am also very silence and don't talk much and want to leave as soon as possible. the porblem you have right now maybe you haven't find the people who you can talk to. Just try to meet more people and it can increase the chance that you find your friends. I never force myself to talk to someone who I dont want to. Be yourself is the most important thing.
2006-06-09 02:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by Earthman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real problem is that you are lack of parental model. Family is the first personal affair that learns you socialization. You insist that you feel alone but I think you have low self-esteem. Maybe you should go to phychologist to offer you real help. Don't hesitate to ask for help!
2006-06-09 02:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE COURAGE. There is hope.
What you need to do is reinvent yourself. It means, you need to develop yourself by unlearning your mistakes and learn something productive.
Go to the gym, learn some skills, wear presentable clothes, improve your communication skills, wear good make up. Invest your time, money and energy on things that are productive and you will be surprised to see that there is life when you don't quit.
All the best.
2006-06-09 02:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be more open. try 2 create a good friends circle.don't criticise urself & stop blaming urself.just know the fact that god has created u for some special purpose.
BEST OF LUCK.
2006-06-09 02:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by kari_bubbly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i understand you have a bad pass, if you keep trying to meet new people go out and just say hi to a new person each day you we break the old ways, try it
2006-06-09 02:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by IndyMM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may benefit for some counseling, talking to someone about some of the feelings you are having might help and some advice from someone who knows what they are talking about will help a lot.
2006-06-09 02:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, now that you know your problem. Try to work on it. Try to be more open and spend more time with people.
2006-06-09 02:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋