you've been together for so very very long under the same roof, but unhappy and neither of you can afford to live on your own and yet there's no real "love" -- and also even if you could afford to leave that there is a fear that you might end up being alone and dying alone so that is the reason you don't leave?
2006-06-09 02:15:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you have now become room mates. you need to discuss this and see if you two can come to an agreement that you need to begin seeing others.
2006-06-09 02:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In other words your like half the couples out there....your life is what you make it...if your afraid to leave because you don't think you can find another partner and end up living alone for the rest of your days, I'd say you have a very poor image of yourself and you need to improve your self esteem whether you leave or stay in the relationship...Don't count on your partner to provide the fairy tale life you used to dream about, but at least do your part and become the person you hoped you would be...you can do it and perhaps your life will turn around for the better..good luck.
2006-06-09 09:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a situation like that,, miserable and was only staying because of the kids and had no money,, but when the kids got older things were still getting worse,i couldn't take it any longer,, i left ended up living in my car for 3 months while taking a course to become an Lna , luckily i was being paid to take the course,, i saved my money , started my new job, eventually got an apartment , now i have a nice place to live, my kids come to visit and even have a new car, so it is well worth taking that chance ,, and you wont be lonely unless that's what you want,, there are plenty of potential friends out there, and you never know when that special someone is going to come knocking at your door,, good luck
2006-06-09 09:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by moonspirit422 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You are inyour comfort zone...I have been in my own comfort zone for five years up until a week ago.. Let me tell you, since I left, I have been sick...like you know nervous stomach, etc. Anyway, you may pr may not have pushed away friends, but you need to find one and move out, even if you are afraid to. You will thank yourself. Even though I am still sad over my situation, my logical resoning tells me that I have to suck it up because I deserve to be in a relationship that is not based on fear of being alon and being in love with the idea of being in love. Best wishes. E-mail me if you want to talk.
2006-06-09 09:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by jrhod263 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave if that's how you feel, everyone deserves to be happy and no one should live in a loveless relationship, I believe there is someone for everyone and yes you can do it on your own, besides that, if you both are unhappy together maybe you would be better friends apart.
2006-06-09 09:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by Minustone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but no on the afraid to be alone. If the love and relationship is gone the just be roommates...set some ground rules, split everything 50/50 and be friends.
2006-06-09 09:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the relationship before you kill each other. Your not happy then your miserable. Find the love you both want. But what I hear is that you need to find the love you two lost. You don't want to leave her you just don't know what needs to be done to fix it.
2006-06-09 09:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your case is beyound counseling, just live your life and except the fact that you will be two miserable crazy people.
2006-06-09 09:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont even stress it if u dont luv dat person its jus the sooner the better if u et 2 old there is no way u finding somebody but if ur not happy don't stay there
2006-06-09 09:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be strong and back yourself that things will be ok. You only get one shot at life so dont settle for mediocrity.
2006-06-09 09:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋