my husband to be and i have each others mail passwords, i havent checked his mail in a while, today i found porn from another woman and his sent her a romantic card.....i have asked him he says its nothing what do i do?
2006-06-09 02:02:24 · 8 answers · asked by cold heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You were suspicious to begin with, hence you "checked" his email. Now your suspicions are confirmed. I would call a marsvenus coach to find out a) what to do and b) how can you regain your trust in this or any man. You cannot have a healthy relationship where there is no trust. Time for you to address all your past relationships and childhood wounds to determine why you were suspicious in the first place--was it his behaviour or your problem that drove you to check the email?
2006-06-09 03:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by marsvenusgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is hiding things from you and causing distrust. Viewing porn and sending romantic cards to another woman is not "nothing."
Do not accept that as an answer and blow it off like he wants to do. Get to the bottom of this and let him know this is something you will not tolerate under any circumstances or there will be consequences to pay.
2006-06-09 10:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop inmediatly. No one sends a romantic e-card to someone when is nothing.
Stop this now before it turns from harmless flirting to romance.
Keep your hubby occuopied and satisfied so he doenn;t have time or will to seek for emotional or physical retribution somewhere else.
Nagging or disconecting the internet is NOT going to work. Try to have a family meeting, while you calmly explain why this hurts yu and it's jeopardizing your relationship.
Good luck to you.
2006-06-09 09:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That could be sign of what is to come and that is trouble, and it could also just be a guy trying to play around. I must tell you sometimes it happens to men, maybe its because we fantasize a lot. What you need to do is talk to him about it. Try and find out why he is doing this. If he is trying to hide things and have an extra relationship, then maybe you should think of bailing out.
2006-06-09 11:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by Murphy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOTH OF YOU SHOULD GO TO A PREMARITAL COUNSELING. This will help you both settle any struggle (weaknesses, etc) before you get married.
It is sad the way your fiance is taking this lightly. It is not healthy and if he doesn't choose to be faithful to you then why bother marrying this guy.
All the best.
2006-06-09 09:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see how you can but it is your choice if you can or not. Seek help and counseling and go from there. Talk to the girl he is talking to and see what he has done with her. If he wont let you talk to her then he is derinitley cheating and hiding something and i would seperate from him for a while and maybe even file for divorce!
2006-06-09 09:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most women r scared of XXX but that does not mean he is cheating
2006-06-09 09:34:33 · answer #7 · answered by jsjr12469 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God knows everything..Who will be punished.The one who is lier.
2006-06-09 09:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by sky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋