if you r married and want to have a 3 sum is it a sin if you both agree to it does god frown on it ?

Answer 1

I think since you mentioned God, then i will answer you according to what i think the word of God, the bible says. It is clear in the word of God that sex was intended for couples and them only. So it is a sin, it is a sin to bring in somebody else even though you both agree to it. Yes husband and wife can do almost anything when it comes to sex because it is their own bodies and they belong to each other, but things must always be done in line with God's word.

Answer 2

You know adultery and fornication is a sin, and you KNOW God hates sin. I mean Adam agreed to eat of the forbidden fruit, but that did not make God excuse them for doing that which He had forbidden, He threw them out of the Garden of Eden though between the two of them, they had agreed to eat of the fruit.

That is not to say that you cannot be forgiven, if you have sinned and repented, but it does mean that once that bell has been rung, it can never be unrung. Once a sin is on your soul, it's THERE, even if you have been forgiven of it. You can take my word for this, that not only will the sin linger, but the 3rd man or woman will remain in your bed. If not in real life, then in your memories, and what you and your wife share that is supposed to be special and intimate will forever be ruined.

Do what you want (most people do anyway) but do not expect God and everyone to give you their stamp of approval when you put your business out here for us to see. By the way God sees EVERYTHING, even the sins you commit in your heart and mind!

If you want to keep your marriage, I would advise against bringing other people into bed with you and your wife.

I am pretty sure God frowns about things like this even if they are only in your hearts or minds.

Answer 3

Since you don't say one way or another, I'm going to assume you're asking from a Christian perspective, so let's go to the Bible and see if we can find any relevant passages on the subject. We'll start from the beginning. Adam and Eve were the first couple, and they certainly never had a threesome with their kids. But they weren't exactly the perfect couple... the whole fruit thing. See the first couple of chapters of Genesis for more details.

Now lets skip a few generations to Noah. He had one wife, and each of his children had one wife. Again, not a perfect family, but certainly better than Adam and Eve, and Noah was called perfect in his generation. (Which always sounded to me like, "Eh, not bad... not good, but not bad.")

Abraham had a small harem after Sarah died, and there's the whole incident with Sarah's handmaid. That ended badly for everyone. We'll say that's a mark that sexual experimentation happened, and the experiment was a failure.

Isaac was Abraham's son, then Jacob came after that. Jacob wasn't exactly a fine, upright boy. He was a liar and a cheat. But seven years working for Laban seemed to cause him to come to his senses and try to work with God instead of against him. We'll call the marrying of sisters one of the things he did before seeking God's will, and we'll just assume he didn't have a threesome with the two of them for two reasons: (1) Eww!!! Seeing your sibling doing THAT with HIM? and (2) Gen 30:14-16, sounds to me like they weren't sharing at the same time. But back up to the beginning of the same chapter, and it sounds like Rachel and Bilhah might just have been together with Jacob at the same time, and God blessed the union, and even allowed Rachel to conceive later on her own! And look at how happy the whole thing made Rachel? But it was RACHEL'S idea, not Jacob's, and Rachel chose the other woman, not Jacob. Jacob was not master of his own body, Rachel was. (Well, Rachel and Leah. Read the whole chapter and the few that follow.)

Skipping ahead because there isn't a whole lot that relates after that, we come to David. David had a harem, and this didn't seem to bother any of his wives, but when David went out in front of the ark and started to dance flirtatiously, this bugged his wife. He was taking charge of his own body, leading the way. That was her right to do! 2 Samuel 6, and most of 2 Samuel in general.

On to his son, Solomon. Solomon wrote the most erotic love story in history, in my opinion, the Song of Songs, also called the Song of Solomon. (The Hebrew Title is "The Song of Songs, which is Solomon's.") Solomon also had a harem. Now, look at the last chapter of the Song of Solomon. Solomon and Shulamite have already been married. (Chapter 3 and 4) Now she's talking about a friend of hers (a little sister with no breasts) and they talk about inviting her to bed also, and having her join Solomon's harem. (Note, there are other ways to interpret the Song of Solomon as not being narrative, but really, read it! I say narrative. And really, what then is the vineyard in Baal-hamon? How does that relate to Shulamite's vineyard?)

So far, definitely a preference for strict monogamy, but by no means is it presented as exclusively the only alternative. The general sense I get is that a man is not the judge of his own body, but his wife is. I don't really see anything else in the Old Testament that relates. In the New Testament, there are a couple of things that I think relate. 1 Corinthians 7:4 confirms what I've said, and makes it clear that it goes both ways. 1 Timothy 3 says that a leader in the church should only have one wife and should be beyond reproach. I'd take that as meaning a leader in the church shouldn't do a threesome either. Other than that, the only thing in the New Testament that I see that even might be applied is Jesus's statement that Adam and Eve were the first couple created, and therefore divorce shouldn't be allowed, because the two were made one. However, I don't see that three couldn't be made one just the same, and the Jewish leaders of that time didn't seem to have a problem with that either, since polygamy was allowed in Jewish culture.

So, I would say that God doesn't smile upon such an act, but that as long as you are master of your wife's body, and she of yours, then it's up to the two of you.

Answer 4

um yeah,

You are suppossed to treat each other and each other's bodies as the most precious treasure on earth, kinda defeats the purpose when ya pass it off to be pawed over by someone else. Where is the love in that... that is just carnal lust... no love in that my dear.

Think of it this way. Each of you are God's gift to each other, and you are willing to let someone else USE that gift...

I'm not a sexual prude by any means, but passing each other off for someone's carnal pleasure and the possibility of inviting in a myriad of sexual diseases is just not something I am willing to accept.

Before you do something like that, ask yourself, can you live with the fact, that A. what if you wife enjoyed being with the other man more than being with you. B. Can your wife live with the fact that you enjoyed being with the woman more than her. Will this eventually ruin your marriage? Is it worth risking?

Is group sex or a 3 some a sin even if your married and all parties are willing? I don't know.. as the survivors of Sodom and Gommorah... it wasn't just homosexuality going on there my friend.

But in the end, your going to do what your going to do. You just decide, whether your wife/husband is trash or treasure and how precious they are to you, and how you intend on treating them.

Answer 5

Yes God will still frown on it big time! This is not right no matter if you both agree on it or not! It is sin and imoral and adultery! Wrong no matter what way you look at it. God does not smile on this at all! Even though you both agree on it it is still wrong and sinful!

Answer 6

Yes it is a sin. The bible clearly states to not covet thy neighbors wife. In other word, adultery is a sin. Even if you agree, having sex with someone else is adultery. In the vows you made before God (even if they were done in a courthouse, God is everywhere) you promised to "forsake all others". You are obviously religious if you are worrying about this so don't do it!

Answer 7

What do you think, God's going to look down on you and congratulate you with a party and balloons? That's disgusting, immoral and definitely NOT what God wants you to do.

Marriage is a promise and a blessing, not something you hold on to but still screw people in the meanwhile. That's part of the reason why the world is so screwed up nowadays.

Answer 8

Well if you look at the country your named after. You will notice how multiple partners can be deadly. More than half of the Aids infected people live in Africa where they are pretty pernicious sexually. They also believe that having sex with a virgin will cure aids, Thus passing it on and on. So you answer your own question? Is it good, or is it bad???

Answer 9

yes it is still a sin because it is adultry and fornification because the 2 of u are not married to the 3rd party. Even if u were married to the 3rd party even that would be a sin

Answer 10

How about you read the Bible?...yes it's a sin!, and why would you want to defile your marriage like that? If y'all can't satisfy each other then y'all need help, that's a big issue in a marriage.

And think about if y'all need to have a threesome then someone ain't getting satisfied and they could like the other person better and leave...do you want that?