We originally moved into our apartment in october, she payed have the deposit and half the rent until December. Now it's June, she still doesn't have a job and until the end of last month, her biggest contribution to the household was watching my son from Friday evening until Saturday afternoon when his father picks him up. Now she is supposed to be watching him during the day and she does a half-assed job at best. I am sick of dealing with her attitude and I truly get the feeling that she feels like I owe her something. I can't take this crap. I am trying to be nice because she has a daughter (who also lives with us in my little two bedroom apt., and has a smart mouth, too). She doesn't pay ANY bills, she only cleans when the mood strikes, or when somebody has already called and said they are definitely on their way over. And she gives me a nasty reply everytime I ask for a favor that would help me out. I am getting married and moving to TX in September, kick em out, or what?
2006-06-09 01:33:42 · 21 answers · asked by YOUR OPINION COUNTS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Girl I know exactly what your going through.. I have been n this situation plenty of time and all you have to do is speak up, tell her right out to get her sh** together, punch her kid in her smart a** mouth and when you get married leave without a word (holla). Be strong God help though's who help themselves!
2006-06-09 02:33:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation. She obviously has some personal problems that she needs to deal with. There are a lot of books out there that could help her to better herself so she doesn't end up raising her daughter as a delinquent. If you've put up with it for this long, maybe you should let her stay till September. That should give her an opportunity to get her act together. It sounds like you're angry. Try to understand that she is sick. Give her a Bible to read, tell her you care about her. You're leaving in sept and she needs to be ready to take care of herself and her daughter by then. Tell her that since you are carrying the financial burden for both of you that you expect for her to take care of the house. You will all feel better about your situation if she'll contribute in some way.
2006-06-09 01:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by TN Seeker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her she needs to get her act together because your not going to be there for her forever. She obviously knows that your leaving in September, and that she is gonna have to find some place else to go. I'd just sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Tell her your doing everything you can to help her, but you don't think she appreicates any of it. Let her know you don't appreciate her attitude when you ask her for favors. I don't think that its time for you to kick her out because for one your leaving in a couple months two you never told her to get a job or she was out. If you really want her out you need to give her a date, for example, you need to have a job and be helping me by such and such a date. If she doesn't then you have warned her! My one question would be, how is she suppose to find a job when she is watching your son? I mean I don't know if he goes to school or anything, but if she is with him all day how is she suppose to find a job? I am not siding with her so don't get me wrong she needs to grow up and start taking care of herself and her daughter. I hope it all works out!
2006-06-09 01:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by maward4881 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ii think of hes taking an exceedingly demanding line yet if truth be told its him and your mums domicile so as that they get to set the guidelines. Is it obtainable so you might visibly do extra around the domicile so he can see your making a contribution of time in case you dont have funds. or you will would desire to come to an contract including in case you havent got here across a solid interest in a month you will take a minimum salary one. I dont see why you cant take a minimum salary interest area time at first. in case you probably did weekends or nights it would not get interior the way of ability interviews and you will have funds. i think of your dad would have a legitiamate worry that in case you get into the habit of being domicile all day and not working then the interest looking will slowly slack off adn next concern your mendacity on the settee all day gazing daylight hours television, i'm no longer asserting thats your reason yet i've got considered it take place. besides thats my take, solid success with the interest looking.
2016-10-30 10:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation with my sister. I ended up giving her a specific date by which she had to move, no excuses. She tried her best to change my mind, but I wouldn't allow it. I told her that she was moving whether or not she had to pick up her stuff on the lawn, or not.
It did work out in the end, and we are still close. But she'll never live with me again!
2006-06-09 01:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by foodlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree she is taking advantage of you. Its great and all that you are trying to help her in her time of need especially if she has a daughter, but she has to be responsible as and adult and mother and stand on her own two feet. Maybe she just needs some tough love and a little reality check...you might as well be the one to give it to her.
2006-06-09 01:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has to go, but kick her out nicely. Explain your terms, be firm but fair. It seems that the communication between you two has broken down, this may become a bigger issue if you kick her out by being nasty eg. waiting till she goes out then changing the locks!
2006-06-09 01:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by StatIdiot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i want to beleive that the reason you allowed her move in with u in the first place was because you loved her,it's like she irritate you now by her vices. i advise you call her, explain how you feel about her and your plans then go ahead and eject her, but if i were you,i'll get her a small apartment where she can manage for now until she get a job because of LOVE
2006-06-09 01:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of her!without any doubt!what are you crazy???i know she´s your blood but she is only using you.she knows that you love her and that makes her think of you as about weak person who would NEVER kick her out!first make her understand that she really isn´t helping then that you have your own life and at last that you are not her MOTHER an she should start taking more responsibility for her and also her DAUGHTER!!!don´t tolerate her sloth and childishness,you don´t have to!!!get rid of her promptly only in this case she´ll understand.
2006-06-09 01:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by marikuska 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to approach her n tell her how u feel. tell her she needs to have more of a responsibility and help u out. she should be gladly willing to help u out with other things, n not do a half-assed job. if she didnt have u, then wut would she do? she needs to learn how to support herself and help out with the bills if she's living there. its only fair that she helps, n u shouldnt be doing all of the work. dont be mean to her; jus let her kno that she needs to help out or she cant stay with u anymore. its for the best; she needs to grow up sumtime, u kno? . n it would be hard having ur sister living with u since ur getting married. it could interfere with ur relationship if u let her get in the way. i hope things work out for u, n she realizes that she needs resposibility in her life
2006-06-09 01:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by soccergrl1489 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋