I am going to give him my virginity?

Question

I am going to give him my virginity soon for my boyfriend, but I am not sure I confuse. I don't want to lose him He told me sex is must between us for staying together. Is that necessary making sex? when I give him does it hurt me? Do you thing good idea to give him? I don't know what am going to do I need idvice please.

Answer 1

Sweetheart let me tell you i married my wife a virgin. I know being a virgin is not popular nowadays because people make it look as if you are from the ancient world. But the truth is that your virginity is a very precious gift, its the symbol of your purity and innocence, its definitely something to just give to a guy who is not trying to be understanding.

If he loves you, he will wait like i waited 6 years for my wife. I knew she was a virgin and i appreciated her for it and i helped her keep it. Till today, i am so proud of her. My advise is that you don't give him, he does not deserve it. Don't worry about losing him or not. If he really loves you, he will not leave because you objected, instead, he will stay with. But if all he wanted was sex, he would be angry and leave to look for another girl that would give him what he wants.

Even if he leaves, wait for your true love, he will come.

You asked whether it was necessary making sex to stay with someone? Let me tell you he will leave you immediately he gets what he wants. In fact from the way you have talked about him, it is clear he is still with you only because of what he plans to get and that is your virginity. As soon as he gets it, he will move on. Please don't give him, maintain your dignity and Honor.

Answer 2

Ultimately it is your decision - if YOU feel comfortable, confident and understand ALL the consequences of having sex with this person then yes do it. It will probably hurt the first time.

BUT it will hurt more if he then leaves you after you have given him your virginity - it is a huge step and YOU need to be ready to do it.

If you really are serious about doing this then go to the family planning clinic (or talk to someone older ie over 20 and mature, who can advise you) and seek contraception.

But please do not sleep with this boy just because he demands it - if he loved you he would wait until you were both ready and not issue threats "we have to have sex otherwise we won't stay together" thats not fair on you.

Be careful what ever you decied to do and only do it if you want to.

Answer 3

This is not good. He is blackmailing you into something you do not sound ready for. If you are both 16+ then it's legal, but your body, your choice. If either one or both of you are under 16, then don't go there, as it is illegal, and there may be trouble ahead. Other factors to consider: Do you want to make love to him? It should be a romantic, passionate, pleasurable experience for both of you. As he says it's a must to stay together, then he is not worth hanging onto, and you can do better for yourself. If he loves and respects you he WILL WAIT until you are ready, and will not put pressure on you. If you are both fully aroused, then your natural lubrication will help to make it easier, if not then vaginal dryness will not help. Use plenty of foreplay first, get to know your body and what turns you on, so that you can guide him, and get the responses you both want. Ask him what he likes and what he doesn't, work together on this and you could have a good experience. Either way remember, It's your body, you decide. Don't give into pressure or blackmail. He sounds bad Lose him and get someone better. Why? Because your worth it!

Answer 4

Don't do it. Sex is something altogether different from love, and if your boyfriend says things like "sex is a must between us for staying together" that sounds like he wants you to believe only him while he's telling you the same stuff that all players and pimps tell their "girlfriends".

And if he said that, he's old enough to know that it is not true at all.

And he's probably taking advantage of you, just because it feels so good to him physically he doesn't care that you'll feel regret later and be miserable about it.

Virginity is something very precious that you should keep for someone who loves and respects you enough not to say such selfish, stupid things to you and take advantage of your confusion. It is very cheap of him to do it this way. It is as if he's asking for a gold ring and wants to pay a dime for it.

Sex never saves relationships, whatever boys say. The guys who answer your question know.

Just like having children doesn't keep people together.

Answer 5

No, it is not a good idea. Virginity is something you can only give once, so you need to be sure you are giving it to the right man.

If your boyfriend says you must have sex to stay together, then he is not the right man for you, no matter how much you love him. The right man for you would say it is okay to wait, even if it means he has to wait until you are married.

I understand that you don't want to lose him, and I don't blame you. Please understand that what he is asking for is a big thing. If he really loved you, he would not ask.

Answer 6

You sound uncertain which leads me to believe you should wait. He's pressuring you to do something you aren't ready for. You can be together without sex. Actually, sex is supposed to be for married people. Your first time will likely hurt at least a little. Also, you probably won't find it very enjoyable. If he doesn't want to be with you without sex then that shows a lack of respect for you as a person. I'm guessing you need to learn to love yourself first and then be concerned about a boyfriend.

Answer 7

If you are unsure about having sex with him then do not do it!

If sex is the only thing that will keep you both together then your relationship will never last. Think seriously about this! The first time you have sex should be with your full 100% consent. When you are with the right person - sex is wonderful. Do yourself a favour love and move on then you will find a lovely guy who will not pressure you into having sex with him.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Ive got to say this guy sounds a little forceful..

At the end of the day it should be your decision when u should lose your virginity, it only happens once so take my advice and take your time thinking about it till your ready if your man has an issue with that tell him to walk..

And this is coming from a man..

Good luck girl

Answer 9

Lose him, if he cared about you at all he would wait until your ready. I am still married to my first. We he was ready and I wasn't I told him truefully I was not ready. He respected me for that. We still continued to date and did other things. This was when I was 19 almost 20. When I was ready I told him so, and there was no confusion about my decision. It does hurt and it takes a caring partner to love you through it. Think of the future, when you look back at your first time and explain le'ts say your future daughter, you want to look back and be able to smile and be proud not be forced. It should be special. Your body is your pride and joy, don't let someone abuse it.!!!!! There are more fishes in the sea. In other words, you'll find someone better.

Answer 10

please don't do that, you will probably break up even if you do give him your virginity. your virginity is so precious and you should not be forced into having sex. he does not love you, if he did would not say such things to you, the fact that you are having doubts is probably cause you are not Ready to have sex which is a good thing. if you do you will regret it, and you can never get it back.
the right guy will come along and love you the way you deserve to be loved, He will respect you and then you will get married then you can have all the sex you want.
PLEASE DON'T HAVE SEX, FOR YOUR OWN SAKE.