I am in a small city of japan (almost rural). She is 100% japanese, cant speak english,i neither speak japanese fluently. She introduced herself 3 months ago, told me where she worked,and that she remembered seing me last week ago riding bycicle!! asked me if I had a girlfriend,she said she had no boyfriend ( all this is extremely strange for japanese woman to do).
We have been going out for the last 3 months, she has taken meny pictures of us together,she even took me to a hair saloon to get a new hair cut!!she even let me hug her and kiss her cheek( unusual for a japanese ). Finally she tells me that she has a boyfriend that is getting angry, and she cannot see me anymore! What can I do, what should I do!?? Answer fast and wisely because I am stupid!Bettter if the answer comes from a japanese .
2006-06-08 23:31:45 · 8 answers · asked by Solraknauj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It isn't strange for a Japanese woman to do all that. I have lots of them working in the same company. Hugging and kissing and more are common. You need to do a search on what Jap schoolgirls are up these days - it was in the papers here. It'll open your eyes.
Most of them (and most Asians) are very modern in their outlook like their western counterparts as Japan is a highly industrialized and modern Asian country. It is stereotypical to think that they should be demure and chaste (you'll get a shock when you come to Asia if you think that). Women compete just as much as men in the job market and they are decidedly aggressive like their western counterparts. Only difference is that they speak softer when they compete but they are not less competitive / not less political when it comes to office politics nor less outspoken. Above applies to all Asian women.
Well, you were played & she's one of them (lied when she said she didn't have a BF right?). She's just flirting with you & she's certainly not serious about you. And now looks like she's done flirting and moving on. What you described is a gal who's a pro at this. Gets on with him, gets bored, brings up jealous BF to lose him & say sayonara. Having a BF did not stop her in the beginning now did it? How modern can that be? You didn't know what hit you? Sorry.
PS: Of course nice gals exist like in the eastern countries. But she's not one of them from what you described.
2006-06-08 23:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lived in Japan for over three years and have a lot of experience with the local women. If she made such a forward advance to you I'm sure you are capable of hooking up with another Japanese girl. She has already proved herself unreliable and is probably not the kind you want to waste your time with. So tell her bye bye and start saying "hi" to every good looking available Japanese girl you find. Ask them to teach you the language and do some studying on your own as well. That will prove to be the most beneficial and rewarding thing wou can do.
2016-03-26 23:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! I am not Japanese but I think you should stick with being friends with this girl. Dont expect it to go any further than it has and expect to see a little less of her since she has a boyfriend who is obviously getting upset over the friendship the 2 of you have. I am in a similar situation myself where as the guy I am seeing has a girlfriend but he still makes plans with me and asks me out on dates but he hasnt ever made any moves on me other than hugging and putting his arm around me and kissing me on my head or forhead. I dont want to lose his friendship and I imagine that you dont wanna lose this girl even as a friend.
Hope this helps!!
2006-06-08 23:37:54 · answer #3 · answered by His Sunshine Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this is strange...im not japanese but maybe she's tryin to get outa her r.ship wit this guy and started moving towards u ? But then he found out and is too possessiv of her? Hmmm thts reali strange but if i wer u id jus 4get bout her nd move on bcause u dont want to get deeper into this issue now and cause a bigger scene... good luk
2006-06-08 23:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by Evie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask a japanese guy and find out their culture before I made another fopah
2006-06-08 23:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im sorry im not japanese but i love japan and i live in asia so my culture it's not really different .. yea it's unusual if she let you kiss her cheek .. but i know it's really hurt you .. because the samething happen to me .. but forget her .. it's hard i know .. but you will know that many girls are waiting for you ..
2006-06-08 23:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you forget about her, coz if she can cheat on her curent boyfriend, she can cheat on you too, so move on, there are a lot of fish in the sea!
2006-06-08 23:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by cominatsha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is taking you for a ride!!
Be Careful
2006-06-08 23:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by Bolan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋