Then things go wrong with your new girlfriend and you go back to the first. I told what I did and that didn't go over well.
2006-06-08 22:55:21 · 18 answers · asked by alysonhell 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen, SHE broke up with me and would not talk about it. So I moved on, I thought.
It wasn't the first time she did this either.
I tried for 7 years to make it work.
2006-06-08 23:30:50 · update #1
"It didn't go over well", huh ? You mean that SHE broke up with you and you dabbled around with someone else, then you two got back together and she is ticked off ? if that's what you are saying, then she is merely not in control of the Green-Eyed Monster. You see, what she meant by breaking up with you was "See ? See how much you will miss me ? See how empty your life is without me ?" ....she didn't mean that you two were really "broken up" - it was just a test for you to see how important SHE was to you and when you went on to someone else, - WELL - that wasn't exactly in her plans. And she is hurt and she is angry.
Well, you are not responsible for either emotion that she is feeling, although it would not hurt if you understood them. She did this to herself. You can empathize that she feels bad that you were able to so quickly "replace" her (because that is what she feels....and, to tell the truth....that is what happend.) We human beings don't like to think that we are easily replaceable. But, indeed, we are. (Ah yes, for all our talk about "soulmates" the truth of the matter is that many people can be our "soulmate" and that means it is not quite so much destiny as timing.) She may well have expected you to pine away after her and when you did not, she is angry.
Life is all about growing up - all the way until we die. You both have gone through an episode that should have taught you both some lessons - different lessons than the other could have learned. Now you are back together and going forward, hopefully not backward. (She is looking backward, by the way.)
And, as a side note, this idea of full disclosure - telling new girlfriends or boyfriends about your past - not a good idea. Not particularly respectful of the people in the relationships in your past. The same holds true for interim relationships - you weren't "with" your current girlfriend during the time you were broken up, you should not share details about whatever you did in your interim relationship. It is not her business and it is disrespectful to the other girl. (None of this "oh, if you loved me you would share with me" - see what it got you ? She's pissed.)
And no, it wasn't cheating.
2006-06-08 23:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. But then again the relationship wasn't even cold yet and you were already in some other girls bed. That's sad. So, I could relate to your girlfriend being upset with you. It kinda makes you wonder if you had it planned this way; so you could get you some on the side without being responsible to your girlfriend. You know, break up with one to see how the other one works out - then run back to the ex because you found out the new chick was as freaky or even freaker than you were. All in all - you need to stop playin' games with peoples lives. -peace.
2006-06-09 06:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look fellow. is it cheating if u keep a rotten apple back and pick up a better apple? hey no offence, but she chose someone she liked better than you. well, just relax fella. its ok to get rejected in a realtionship once a while, that's how u learn about life. so just chill out. be cool. keep an eye oen for some one u like and then start a fresh with the new experience! take care caio!
2006-06-09 06:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by sunny98012 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has another guy when she is still with you, that is called cheating. After you two break up, she has a right to find someone who is more suitable to her and you don't have any rights to stop her as you two don't have any relationship after breaking up. I think you feel angry or upset or hurt about she finds another guy so fast but it doesn't mean she is cheating.
2006-06-09 05:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Earthman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not cheating ur relation was over u met a new girl dated broke up .then went back to ur old gf what part of that she did not get its not cheating.
she for sure had sex with another before she met u is that considered cheating???
2006-06-09 06:07:58 · answer #5 · answered by Factor X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not cheating, man. Thats playing the game fair and square; the game in which you are losing.
2006-06-09 05:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you go back.at htis point you don't want your ex, you just want the comfort you had with her. don't get back together. take some time to get over it and only then can you consider getting back with her.
2006-06-09 05:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not cheating if your have already broken up with the last girlfriend.
2006-06-09 05:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u didnt do anything wrong, if she thinks so get rid of her. she will only keep bringing it up in ur face.
2006-06-09 06:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by feathersnake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no she is stupid of course its hard to hear or see what your ex did with someone else
2006-06-09 05:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by nikki b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋