I'm a man 23 yr,haven't had sex before,about to marry,how can i excite my wife & enjoy her in our intercourse

Question

please every body ( men & women ) know a thing about sex relations, love , intercourse, making love, how to excite a woman, what woman loves in her husband, please help me with any small information you have because i have no idea about this topic and going to marry soon, please take it seriously and don't kid

Answer 1

I agree that the two of you will figure it out. Especially if she's also a virgin. The two of you will work out what you like together. Go ahead, read books, watch videos (although you must realize that they are not especially realistic), try new things, but the TWO of you can decide what you want to try. You will learn what you like.

Also, I disagree that you have to research or experience sex before a certain age. I was a virgin until I got married, and my husband and I have a very satisfying love life. Although that train of thought (waiting for marriage) is pretty rare these days, it CAN work.

Answer 2

To those who are asking why he would be 23 and have no sexual experence or why he would be getting married without having had sex prior to, I don't think any of that is relevent. Sex is a choice, and the choice to wait makes it all the more sweeter when it does happen (or it would seem that it would anyway)

what to do:
foreplay foreplay foreplay.
if she is a virgin too (and even if she isn't) go slow to start with and take it easy. maybe even be a bit romantic (unless you know for a fact that she is not that type of person)
spend a great deal of time just touching and caressing her as well as making out with her. this will help to get her in the mood for making love.
reading the book that someone suggested before "She comes first" good idea.
remeber you cannot just shove it into her... you have to get her ready. manually. some people don't really like to do this too much they think it's icky or gross, but just remeber if you don't perhaps it would actually hurt her, possibly quite a bit. and for the sake of sparing her pain all you have to remeber is you can wash your hands afterwards.
Do NOT constantly be asking her "is this ok" "did you like that" "how does that feel" "am i doing ok"
afterwards you can ask her what she likes most or something but during it's often a mood killer.
now if you wanted to be slightly adventurous in the beginning you could start off by describing a fantasy to eachother (nothing too extreem or kinky like "I wanna bath you in pepto bismol") but just something to get eachother down and dirty with it and it's quite erotic and can get many people quite aroused.
Also if you get her to tell you one you wuld then know some of the things she would like in the sex.

Be adventourous, try different positions, a KamaSutra would be a good thing to invest in, but start off with the relatively simple and common positions...
You on top
Her on top
Doggy (Her on her knees, you behind her)

Do not be afraid to try oral.
see how she feels with the idea of it, as it can be quite pleasureable. Now the thing about it is your not always going to be amazing at it the first time, and maybe not even the first few times... but eventually you'll get the knack of it...and keep the same thing in mind for her.
If shes willing and interested get her to proform oral on you, again she might not be good at it the first time but that doesn't mean give up and never try it again.

see what her take is on anal play, once you see how she feels about those sorts of things then you can move into fingering rimming and full blown anal sex. Not to mention toys.

toys.
you can bring excitement into the bedroom by addinf toys or costumes. perhaps she could be your naughty nurse. perhaps while you finger her and lick her you could use a dildo in her behind.

Porno videos.
depending on how she feels about this you could watch one together and either just have it going on in the background or you could mimic some of the actions on the video, however make sure your more into her then the tape, because if your not she'll know and won't be happy.

sex is about give and take and making the other person happy.
yes it is pleasureable to you too but your concern is to pleasure her and hers is to pleasure you...but remeber to enjoy yourself too.

if you reach your orgasm and she hasn't been sufficently satisfied, don't automatically stop.... keep trying to please her until she has haad enough. and Vise versa.

I think i'm running out of things to say.... or i forget what i've already said and i don't want to be repetative....

Be safe and have fun!
Good On ya buddy... make your new wife happy...and make her scream!

Answer 3

My friend, uhhh, why do you with so many years behind you, not know anything about sex? Why would you ask a woman to marry you if you have not studied or experimented on the subject of sex? Please try looking up some sexual techniques online in your search engine, one of the best ways to have sex is using kama sutra techniques, I would like to say that the people who wrote to you about watching pornos are idiots because that is only sex and not love, that is your worst teacher because they are led by lust,..... let your heart lead you while you are kissing your bride and you will know what to do and be willing to please her.

Answer 4

there's a book called "she comes first" i forget who wrote it bu the guy's last name starts with a K. it's in the sex section of most book stores. if you're not to shy read it. your wife will love you. he also wrote a sequel called "he comes next" in case she's interested.
other then that use lots of foreplay. follow your instincts and then ask for feed back, but wait until after you're done, there is nothing more annoying then a guy who keeps asking "do you like that". if it's not doing anything for her she'll tell you. if she's also a virgin take it slow at first and you can learn together. if she's done it before ask her what she likes.

Answer 5

try foreplay first!
at least 10 to 20 mintues. this will get you both excited enough before you start intercourse.
if you are unsure about what type of stuff to start with check a porno magazine or video.
but try to keep it simple for the first time, and experiment later.!!!!

Answer 6

Watch some pornos. You'll get some good tips but when you are actually having sex don't be as over the top acting as the people in the porno.

Answer 7

Do you love her and does she loves you? If the answer is yes, you dont have to be an expert in sex to excite her. Don't force it, just give in to your natural urge. LOVE makes sex enjoyable, not LUST.

Answer 8

Try having a look at these websites

www.themarriagebed.com

http://honeymoons.about.com/cs/wordsofwisdom/ht/RelaxWedNight.htm

All the best and have a lovely married life

Answer 9

I was just going to say watch some pornos! LOL. That is the best advice you can get and also use that tounge trust me.

Answer 10

Since it is your first time, you don't want to go in with a loaded gun.

Other than that, remember that this is a manifiestation of your feelings. You will know what to do.