My husband and I have a daughter, but she passed away last year shortly after birth. I was wondering if I should still get him a father's day card, or would it be too painful? Help please
2006-06-08 21:04:36 · 7 answers · asked by nvrland_believer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would ask him, but I don't want to bring up a sore subject that gets him all emotional.
2006-06-08 21:08:40 · update #1
No. I do not think I would get him a Father's Day card. They will not say what you want them to say. Almost every one would say "HAPPY FATHER"S DAY". He might think "What is there to be happy about?" I know, I lost a child. I think remembering the day is a nice thought, but not with a store-bought card. I would actually get him some flowers and write him a short personal note.
Something like:
"To the best man I could have married and who is the best Father in the World."
2006-06-08 21:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by Raynanne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go do something special with him, but I would avoid the card. They're way too cheery for a situation like this. There are far better ways to spend the day and acknowledge how special he is without specifically bringing up your lost child. If it were me, I would plan a picnic or a hike (or something else he really enjoys) - something to get out of the city for a couple hours and just spend some nice quality time together.
2006-06-09 07:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyOphelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should. Regardless of the child passing away, you are still a mother, and he is still a father. Unless you think getting him a card would make him sad or bring up depression or something. But it shouldn't. Rejoice that you gave life even though it didn't last long. I'm sure you both loved your child with all your hearts, and I'm sure you still do. Good luck in your decision. I'm extremely sorry for your loss. Godbless, and have a wonderful weekend honey.
2006-06-09 04:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Raynanne.Some times is hard to accept the pain but you have to live today's day as a new one and do not let the past hurt you any more,look for the happiness of today and make happy that especial person you still have with you.GOD BLESS YOU BOTH.
2006-06-09 04:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by Miguel Gooffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one to answer. People grieve in different ways. If it was me,and you approached me gentlely and speaking softly,I would probably see it has another way to connect with you (my wife). ..If you do and he does not respond favorable,do not take it personally. He might still be working thru his grieve...as I'm sure you are also. Bless your heart.....
2006-06-09 04:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do it this way, If he gives you one for mothers day, then yes, get him one for fathers day, But, if he hasn't given you one for mothers day, then i wouldn't.
2006-06-09 05:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by nays_83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should still. if the pain comes back, you both should handle it together. i know i would appreciate it if i were in his shoes.
2006-06-09 04:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by hpgallard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋