if sum 1 has been raped n got preg frm it wat would u do keep it or get rid of it
2006-06-08 21:00:16 · 25 answers · asked by ghetto_princess2290 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i was raped when i was 12 . i know what it did to me emotionally even with out conceiving from the rape.
i know there is a possibility of a complete mental break down when one is raped, especially if conception occurs . i think the it is best to determine the mental status of the woman before carrying a baby from rape to term . i do not think it is wrong for her to abort the baby . i think abortion is wrong when used as birth control when someone willingly has sex and doesnt use common sense .
i think the first thing that should be concidered is using the morning after birth control pill to prevent conception if one is raped .
it is a tough call ,do i think a woman is wrong to abort a child from rape , NO . but i do think medical measures should be taken to prevent the pregnancy if she doesnt want to keep the child .
2006-06-09 02:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by mick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the whole situation. If I were a lot younger, maybe 15 y/o.. without a job etc, I'd abort it. If I were about 2-3 years older than I am (I'm 21), I'd consider keeping it if I were raped. There is no problem with aborting a child if it was not in your control and have no way of taking care of it. There are things such as welfare, and other gov't assistance.. but who wants to use that? Esp. when you are cut off after an amount of time and then need to of had a good job to ensure this child will have the proper care?
2006-06-08 21:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by PlasticTrees 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult situation to be in. I most definatley would not get an abortion. That is me personally. I have talked with many friends who have had one and they, to this day, struggle with that decision.
However, I also understand why the question is being asked. Will the baby be a reminder of a horrible event in your past? For me personally, I know looking at my daughter ( I am a single mom) I am very happy with her, but sometimes feel so irritated about her sperm donor being such an ignorant woos.
I think I would greatly consider the option of adoption. There are so many loving families that want babies and hve the financial means to support a child. They also are not the victim of a crime.
Wishing whoever this is about a peaceful night. Good luck with the decision. I will be praying about this situation.
Blessings.
2006-06-08 21:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by amandasmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny I ran across this question. I have a beautiful 4 month old daughter that my husband and both of our entire families love. Thing is she doesn't look anything like my husband. Its because I was raped and ended up pregnant. Sometimes I wonder how I am going to explain to her when she gets older why she doesn't look like her brother or sister, why she is so dark. I don't want my child to know she was conceived out of such a horrible act. But I wouldn't trade her for the world, she is my very sweet, very special little girl. I guess to answer your question, it all depends on how you are going to feel the rest of your life with that child as to if you can handle keeping them or not. We did not know if it was my husbands or not, the main reason we didnt abort. I dont believe in abortions either so I am extremely glad I didnt have one. One look at my daughters face and I was in love.
2006-06-08 21:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by mememe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely do not believe in abortion, so if this happened to me it would be either adoption or keeping the baby. The rape was not the baby's fault. I think I would try to keep the baby if I could, but I don't know if I would be able to handle seeing a reminder of what happened.
2006-06-08 21:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was rapped a month before my 17th birthday. I was a virgin at the time. Around my birthday, I didn't get my period. I was so scared I was pregnant but I made the decision to carry the baby to term if I was. I wouldn't be able to raise the baby but I could put the baby up for adoption. It turns out I was a week late, not pregnant. I don't believe in abortion for ANY reason.
2006-06-09 01:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call...you would think about the rape every time you looked at the child. Then again, its not the baby's fault. You could have the baby and put it up for adoption...there are plenty of couples out there looking to adopt a child
2006-06-09 08:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you keep it you'll have a daily reminder of the rape and may end up taking it out on the baby one day. depends on how far along you are you could get a d&c. it youre call and its a hard one, you have to decide if you can look into that babys face every day and see that man and and relive the incident or not.
especially if your just a teen, you might want to concider aborting or adoption..
2006-06-08 21:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by carlas420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that every life deserves a chance no matter what the circumstance was that brought them here. It would be very hard because it may not be something you wanted, but the value of life is more important than convenience. The love the baby will feel when he or she grows up, from knowing that their mom gave them a chance at life despite the tragic circumstance, will also be moving for them...
2006-06-08 21:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by uknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I wouldn't know until I had the baby and was actually able to look at him/her.
Some may say "get rid of it, it'll only remind you of what happened to you". Others would say "it wasn't the baby's fault and he/she is half yours".
That is a very personal decision that should be weighed carefully before making.
2006-06-08 21:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋