bad maid of honor?

Question

my best friend is getting married and she chose me to be her maid of honor! I'm not a wedding person i've never even been to a wedding so i think i'm uspposed to make a speech or a toast or something please help i have no clue what to say! i want something funny yet sentimental... thx

Answer 1

I was my best friend's matron of honor a few years ago, and I had a blast. It seems like alot of pressure, but really, just remember that you are helping your friend celebrate her upcoming nuptuals. I handled the shower, which her mother helped with, by planning a few games (not lame ones) and buying favors at Bath & Body Works when they were having their sales; I also helped prepare the food, and hosted it at my house. The Bachelorette party was held jointly with the Bachelor Party, and we went out to dinner with just the girls, and out to a couple of clubs and got loaded with the guys. You can't do everything, so if you need help, ask for help from the other bridesmaids, moms, sisters, cousins, etc. Most people are more than eager to help.
On her big day, I made sure that I was ready early, and I helped her by having chilled champagne, running to the drug store when she needed pins for her hair. I also made a bridesmaid's first aid kit, with extra nude hosiery, a sewing kit, a small bottle of hair spray, a bottle of water, a stain pen, blemish cream, chapstick (cherry, so there is a hint of color), bobby pins, safety pins, band-aids, Tylenol, pepto-bismol, straws to drink out of (don't ruin the makeup), etc. I just tried to think of things that could go wrong, and stuff I would need to fix it.
There is also a great book that I had - I can't remember the name, but I bet you could find a good one at Amazon or any other bookstore.
Oh, and to actually answer your question, you don't have to say anything. I was nervous, but I drank a few glasses of wine, and told a few funny (but sanitized and family friendly) stories about our friendship and finished up by thanking her for letting be a part of their day, and how I wished them much happiness and joy.

Answer 2

Sometimes you do need to make a toast, other times you don't... it all depends on what the couple wants and what you feel comfortable with. My advice would be to sit down and have a conversation with the bride about what she would like to have happen on her wedding day, and what types of parties/events she would like. As long as you find this out and try help her fulfill her wishes the type of wedding she wants, you will be an awesome maid of honor. Usually the maid of honor is responsible for the shower and bachelorette party (if there is one). One idea for a toast is to share a special memory that you have of the bride and/or the couple... think of a time when she said or did something funny, or a time when she did something only a really good friend would do. Hope this helps!

Answer 3

Actually as Maid of Honour you don't have to do anything other than support the bride and help her out. Traditionally it's the Best Man who toasts the couple. As a guest at many many many weddings I have to say that this new tradition of EVERYBODY toasting and making a speach just makes for a very long and drawn out time. It's kind of like everyone having to get their two cents in. I think every guest there wants to wish the couple well so the traditional one speech by the best man is fine. (There will also be a toast to the bride usually made by a male relative of hers ...toast to the bridesmaids and one to the parents, other than that keep it short!)

Answer 4

You should be honored your best friend asked you to be her maid of honor! Don't worry that you're not a "Wedding person," whatever that means. Try your local library, most will have some really good books on making toasts. Most importantly, keep it short, sweet, and to the point. I'm sure the internet has plenty of resources for this type of thing, just do a search.

Answer 5

I don't think you have to make a speech at the reception. Normally that is the job of the Best Man. Your job would be to throw a wedding shower for the Bride to be. Good luck!

Answer 6

Just go with the day, nothing to it and when the time comes you ll be able to lift your drink and say"I wish you two to be happy for the rest of your life"and thank them for choosing you as their maid of honor,simple just relax

Answer 7

I was my friends Maid of Honor but I dread public speaking and she knows it. I just told her ahead of time that there was no way I could do a speach and she was okay with it.

Answer 8

In your toast, maybe recall some funny things that have happened with you two....when she met her husband....some feelings about the husband...and welcome him to their family....