How long is too long between relationships, say after a difficult breakup?

Question

After a great relationship that was unfortunatly cut short, I've been staying out of the dating scene. Alot of great guys don't interest me anymore, but I sort of feel I should get back out there. Am I being too reserved?

Its been about 5 months

It wasen't abusive or destructive at all. I was just severely dissapointed that it wouldn't work out.

Answer 1

I think you are just protecting yourself and your heart from getting hurt again. It is not a matter of being reserved, but you went through a hard break up, and we all wish overnight things would just be a lot better, but that is just not how it works.Give yourself time, and take it slow, try not to judge other guys by your past experiences, and don't jump into anything to fast. When you are ready you would know you are, don't stop your life b/c of it, but mend all broken wounds as well, you don't want to get back out there and make a huge mistake b/c of a rebound.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I don't think you're being too reserved.

It took me 10 years to get over a bad and abusive relationship because I needed time to learn to love myself, time to learn to know myself, and time to learn to trust myself and my own instincts.

I also needed time to grow spiritually. After all, I asked God to protect me from getting hurt again, so He had the right to teach me His way of doing things so that He could protect me.

I found an awesome church home and humble pastors who love God and are real and transparent and really taught me how to live according to God's Word.

Almost exactly 10 years after that bad relationship broke up, I married a man of God who I met at my church while I was serving in the ministry and helping out at the church and learning and growing and maturing.

We now have been married for more than 6 years and still have an awesome blessed marriage because we both made a decision while we were still single that we were going to let God help us change and become healthy and whole. So now, we still have a healthy and whole marriage...we're not perfect, but we are still learning, growing, maturing, and changing...and that willingness to keep growing is what makes the difference.

God bless you with everything, if you ask God, He has promised that He will show you what to do (or not do).
See the book of James in the Holy Bible

Answer 4

your mind is willing to entertain but your heart isn't ready yet!
let time mend the broken heart. then and only then you will know if you need another love in your life.
at this stage, you're vulnerable because you've been hurt and you feel getting into dates would cure the pain. it's not gonna work.
you'll see men of the same level when it comes to relationship because what you see and might feel might be the same thing's happened to you.
i say, move on with your life setting love aside for awhile and let time work that for you.

Answer 5

i mean don't be fast then men wouldn't really want to date you. but also if you just broke up wiht your love go with someone he know and let him get jealous, i bet you he will call in a few days. (if you wanna get back with him)

Answer 6

No - take your time. You'll know when you're ready. If you force it, you'll may end up hurting the men you date without meaning to.

Answer 7

after sometime by yourself...you know, sometime to think about if your needs were met and what needs weren't....then you have a better idea of what to ask for in your next friendship with the next special love candidate

Answer 8

a gazillionbillion years is too long. i think u should go jump some dudes, be kinda a sIut, guys like sluts, but not hoes.