after 2 months of marriage, i started feeling that i had to motivate my husband for love making to me each night. there was no derth of love towards me from his side, but just that his urge to make love to me is gradually declining. he has no biologial problems, but just that his urge urge for love making is reducing drastically each day, i feel. i tend to motivate him for love making, but that doe not work, and it leads to fights and family tensions, spoiling the peaceful environment of home for days together. i feel i'm getting short tempered and frustrated for an unfulfilled sex life with my husband at bed. i really want things to improve soon
2006-06-08 18:36:57 · 15 answers · asked by mail_muffet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi, my husband is "kinda" going through the same thing, BUT we have been married now for going on 23yrs.now. So my family Doctor says that a mans"LIBIDO",(SEX DRIVE) has ALOT to do with alot of different things!! Number one, check for him foolin' around on you, which since the wedding has only been 2 months ago, I wouldn't think that on him already. Number two, AGE. As a man grows older each year, his sex drive lowers too, this is my husbands problem!! And another thing could be kids. If there is kids already around, a mans libido drops more then a man who doesn't have kids yet. There has been studies done on this stuff I'm telling you. Well, hope this helps some, I can tell you more things if you like, just e-mail me anytime OK. jaynay@midmaine.com GOOD-LUCK
2006-06-08 23:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by nays_83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something new!!! Change your looks, try things you have never tried before, go on a little vacation, go on a picnic and talk! If you need help in opening up, play a game that will get you both to be open and intimate.
In the bedroom:
Lots of foreplay, use TOYS and experiment, guys love using toys on a woman, thats the fun of sex is experimenting, and be open to new ideas, you may think it's something you won't like, but in the end it may surprise you.
Try all variations and see what stimulates you most.
You need to be creative to avoid sexual boredom. Try a new location, rent a hotel room, experiment with new positions, buy new lingerie, rent a sexy video, try a hot bath, candles and a massage. Cast your inhibitions to the wind. And then get busy !
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2006-06-09 01:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you pressuring him for it all the time I imagine is killing it for him maybe a few nights without bothering him may help. He could be having problems at work it could be alot of things nut nagging all the time and adding tension within the household is not going to help. trust me been there done thatYou will need to talk with your husband no raising voices no accusing of anything and if your lucky you will find a happy ending to this situation, you might also have to lower your libido alot of couples don't have the same sexual hunger and couples need to find a way to meet in the middle. this problem really can break up your marriage so you should really evaluate your needs before you speak with your husband Best wishes
2006-06-09 01:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by theresa l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask him what the problem is. It might be the change of lifestyle, the expense worries or did you guys live together before?
Have you thought about a sex therapist? sometimes they suggest massage, and working your way up to foreplay, which can be very ******.
Definitely talk to your husband, he's the only one who can help change the situation.
2006-06-09 01:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats terrible only after two months of marriage.. i know this is a terrible question but could he be cheating on you? a man has to have it and i have never seen a man not try so this is really weird to me.. ask him to go to the dr and see if they can give him something to motivate him more.. strip in front of him ,something .. if he still doesnt want sex than really you need to either get him help or watch what he does and where he goes
2006-06-09 01:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by t_ibrahim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him honestly about it. Try to find out why his sex drive is getting less. Try to know what pleases him most. Every man has a key. Try new things and techniques. If it still does not work then check if he is cheating on you! if negative: seek proffessional help.
2006-06-09 01:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so ur husband might need some rest or dont mind but he may have some external affair with other lady. plz check that if there any such problem & just reply me. i will give the solution to that specific problem
2006-06-09 01:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by helper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I commend you for hanging in there, but to you are human as well.If you are fighting over making love well it's time to get help for it or taugh it out.........till death do you part. Counselling is one thing, group help.....question is how was it before you got married?
2006-06-09 01:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by smiling guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hahaha, looks like that "honeymoon" period has worn off, it can last up to seven years, looks like you got screwed. Maybe you should have thought twice about saying "I do"! ahahahaha!
2006-06-09 01:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same problem is with my wife. If you found any solution plz maile me at arzoo1974@yahoo.com.
2006-06-09 03:17:58 · answer #10 · answered by arzoo1974 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋