Why is it so hard for women to ask a man out?
Isn't it the 21st century? I thought women won equal rights and equal treatment?
2006-06-08 18:30:46 · 22 answers · asked by Curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because most women do not feel that they're attractive and desirable - they strongly believe that they would be rejected by all men. Women who feel attractive and lovable do ask men out.
2006-06-08 18:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by superfish 3 · 5⤊ 4⤋
Women don't want to be sex objects. Actually that is what leads men into attacking us in the first place.
Secondly, we may have equal rights, and all, but chivilary doesn't have to die because of it. Also, it's not that men are the only ones chasing, but come on it's the fun of it all, it's so exciting and it's great when you finally end up together it is so worth it, and even thought I would rather not do the chasing, some women perfer that you just have to find the right woman.
2006-06-08 18:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually, my friend, you're quite mistaken . . . indeed, the opposite is so very true after three million years of evolution that for a huge majority of men who follow that "romantic manifesto" you're advocating: it makes their love and sex lives a living hell.
Women are NOT comfortable on the pedestals that romantic customs have established in the last 800-900 years. Woman prefer to put men on pedestals instead (Do you doubt me?) Well friend, when is the last time you bought a romance book? I don't know of any men, even by hearsay that buy romance books but this type of literature outsells every other genre COMBINED!! And just what happens in those books?
What happens is that the woman has to find a way to attract a less than willing mate into her life, love and family (via marriage). And just what kind of man do they go after?
Bad boys are the heroes in at least 90% of the romance literature. Regardless of the differing characters of all bad boys they have one thing in common . . . all bad boys play hard to get with a vengeance and all women love the unpredictability of this type of challenge. AMEN!
Women want equal rights and equal treatment everywhere but in lust and love. Good luck!
2006-06-08 18:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by rajjpuut 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is still a man's psyche that still needs to be the aggressor. A relationship is different if a woman makes the first move.
From this woman's view - I'm worth pursuing. I'm worth the risk and expense to ego if you get rejected. That's part of the woman's psyche.
I would be totally willing to go dutch or plan things for a third date and on if you wanna talk about equal whatevers.
2006-06-08 18:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by as_myself 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
micheypop said a lot ... your first answer is bs - at least from "most" women's point of view. Only "some" women were sucked into women's lib, honey. Not all of us. Some of us still appreciate a door being opened or a man calling and making a date. I have asked a few men out - michey's right - depends on the individual woman. But we all have fear of rejection. In a woman's case, it's not only the fear of rejection, but also the fear of appearing desperate, rather than "liberated." Ask the lady out!
2006-06-08 18:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by patticakewithfrosting 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Equal rights and equal treatment...Because it doesn't work alot of the time. If you're keen and hes not then it wont make him like you. It's just setting the girl up for getting hurt or burned-badly. We all know that its probably still hard for a guy but girls are generally more accepting.
2006-06-08 18:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by pink_strawberries99 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well some women are old fashioned, while other embrace the concept of the whole women being liberal thing. Each woman is different, and their values should be respected. If you are looking for the type of woman who asks men out, then you are just gonna have to wait around until that kind of girl crosses your path, otherwise you are gonna have to respect the fact that some women like the old fashioned way of dating, and stomach it up and ask a woman out.
2006-06-08 18:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh come on now! I can't stand when men talk about that equal rights crap! Look how about you carry that baby for 4.5 months!! (now that's what i call equal) Instead of us being the transporters of human life for 9 months. Women are special and should be chased after, we are a gift from God to man! If you feel that a woman is not worth chasing then maybe she is not the one for you. Believe me if a man wants me, he'll have to prove it or step the heck off!
2006-06-08 18:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by browneyes04 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Now, now....if I was single and seen a good man.......I would definately let it be known that I was interested. It has nothing to do with being equal. But attraction and courage.
I am assuming that you like someone, if she isn't willing to make the first move, maybe you aren't sending the right signals....maybe you should just straight up ask her out instead!
2006-06-08 18:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no such thing as equal rights when it comes to men and women, women are to insecure to ask guys out or make the first move. They want you to chace them because they have no self esteem.
2006-06-08 18:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by god_of_new 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let me put it this way some women are raised to be asked out on a dinner and nevfer make the first move but, on the otherhand if i want i man i will get him no question asked and no years of waiting so if it made you feel any better hit me back at www.samoyab2003@yahoo.com
2006-06-08 18:43:56 · answer #11 · answered by Moya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋