self esteem?

Question

i am having major issues with confidence annd self esteem. i just can't seem to quit being down on myself, and it's getting to the point where i am paranoid that i am not good enough for my husband and that he might find someone who is. he has never done that to me, nor would he, but i feel so inferior that my mind believes it. it is ruining my marriage and my life. how do i get out of this? medication has not helped, nor has talking, counseling, making "lists" about myself....... i am ready to give up. anyone else ever beat depression this bad?

Answer 1

I think that there are times when everyone has suffered with self esteem issues. Focus on the things that you are great at and when these negative thoughts come into your head, put them aside immediately. Recognize them for what they are, depression, and while you may feel this way, understand that they are not Representative of you as a whole. Are you a good wife? A good citizen? Compassionate? The more you stress about it the worse it will get. Obviously you are loved and good enough for your husband or he would not have married you right? Also don't give up on doctors. Keep going until you can find someone that can help you. Don't give up, the first major hurdle is recognizing your feelings, and that you don't want to feel this way. Recognition is a very important step in the healing and getting well process. My family has a history of depression. My grandfather, mother, sister, and myself. In the females our depressive state had a lot to do with hormone imbalance. My hormones have been wacky my whole life, thus it leads to imbalances elsewhere. Get a complete medical check-up, if you haven't already, including blood tests, thyroid tests, hormone tests, etc. Rule out the medical side first, and then go from there. You should find a good internalist to help you with these tests. Mostly realize that you are not alone, your husband loves you, and there are many support groups out there to help you. The best thing is to keep talking about it, don't try to do this alone. There is no need too. Confidence is a great thing, but more important is a sense of self and a peace of mind. There are different levels of confidence, don't try to make yourself something that you are not. If you are a passive person by nature, then you will never be as outgoing as people who are aggressive. The most important thing is to find the level of self esteem and what your definition of confidence is. Don't give up you are loved by many and have a purpose in this life. Maybe your path is to teach others that it is okay to talk about depression and not keep it in the closet. It is nothing to be ashamed of. Your confidence may come with helping others who are in the same boat, or worse then you. Keep on trucking, you can do it.

Answer 2

Yes sometime a new friend is the best cure. You are just fine and can't be more desirable to men. Your husband is fine too he needs what he needs and is still your mate. You can search for the spirit husband or spirit wife for some new ideas. That will leave the marriage almost the same . Well maybe you won't have to break up. Remember depression is all about friends and family. Your family is waiting for your expectations to be a little more real.

Answer 3

Sometimes a good friend is the best cure. You gotta just keep fighting. The mind does like to play tricks on people. I have went through depression and nerves so bad while a teenage I was throwing up before getting in a vehicle. I would even throw up as soon as I arrived at school. You just have to fight it and not give in to it. Focus on rebuilding your self-esteem no matter how hard it becomes.

Answer 4

you need to figure out what it is that will make you love yourself ...other wise you will never believe that he could love you
do things like take a walk every day just to get some air ....do you work? get out of the house go to a museum, something ..exercise (whether you believe it or not) really works for depression... and figure out what it is about you that you are not liking ,,its the only way you are ever going to get over this.
and if you start to take medicine with the thoughts that it wont work, then it probably wont ...have good thoughts knowing that you can over come this and you will

Answer 5

I had to take it one step at a time and get out and make myself do things. It took a long time but I built up confidence and was able to do it again. Meds can help but I dont like the way that they made me feel. I didnt try much though.

Good Luck and God Bless!!

Answer 6

yes i have take medication it helps me you need a friend that can help you or your husbands dont giveup on life try to stay tall with yourself you need to trust your hubby or your marriage willl end i was like that once . it was hard for awhile. but look at the greater side of life and what you have. it sounds to me you are low on yourself. you can make your life better. go to the doctor and get other medcation that willl work . well you need to try . dont give up hope you will get better get help

Answer 7

find something your really good at and do it all the time. that should take your mind off of all the other things

Answer 8

Try this link if ur feeling stuck, or going in a downward spiral.

www.emofree.com

Answer 9

just love ,and develope your positive attitude
no problem will come