My ex husband died 2 months ago, I started dating almost immediately. (one of my ex boyfriends) just found out that I am pregnant, Not sure if ex husband or boyfriend. boyfriend does not want anymore children. I don't either, lost!!!!
2006-06-08 18:09:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
The first question to answer is whether you really want the child. I personally don't believe in abortions. There really are loving and capable people out there who are willing to adopt an unwanted child. If you decide you don't want the child, I think you should seriously consider giving it up for adoption. I may be able to connect you to someone who can help in the matter. If you don't want the baby and decide to have an abortion, would it do the father any good to know that you are going to abort, or have already aborted? I'm a male and 64 years old. I would have wanted to know and I would have wanted the opportunity to raise the baby myself if its mother didn't want it in a situation such as yours. But that's me. You're going to have to think about the implications and make the decision. If you need a shoulder or sounding board, email or get hold of me through Yahoo Messenger.
2006-06-08 18:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by quietwalker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a right to know! Many men don't want children until they find out they are going to be a father, then they decide that it is the greatest thing in the world. Have you considered that you may regret not having this baby if it does belong to your deceased husband? Don't understand, though, is he an ex or were you still together when he died? My first husband died and I tell you after 34 years I still love him as much as I did then. I had a 10 month old when he died and she became my life because she was a part of him. You can go on with your life but if you loved him when he died you will always love him. I have been re-married for 32 years and I love my husband very much and cannot imagine my life without him. However, you never stop loving someone that was snatched away, you just make room in your heart to love someone else. Just be sure that you give yourself time to know what you want. You should find out who the father is so that you can make your decision with all the facts. Good luck and God bless you, I hope things work out well for you.
2006-06-15 16:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by georgiapeach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Onslaught of opinions.....
1. I'd tell the boyfriend. He has a right to know. -If he was an ex.. probably not, but if you're really with him and you're keeping stuff like this from him it sounds like you have another issue on your hands.
3. Abortion after the 4th month is sick unless there are valid medical or ethical concerns.. Did you know a baby only two monthes farther along has a great chance of survival? Think of adoption also. It's giving a little life a chance.
2. Be sure it's what you want to do. Consider all implications throughly because a dangerous lot of emotional elements are at stake here..
2006-06-08 20:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by belleofchernobyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know, it sounds like you are going through a lot. If you are positive about the abortion and no longer dating, I would say you don't have to tell him. If you are still in a relationship with him then I say yes tell him. Focus on you a bit, talk to your friends, get some counseling, you are in mourning. Just make sure you are clear on what you want before having an abortion, don't make a choice you could possibly regret when you are sad and confused. Good luck, hang in there things do get better!
2006-06-14 05:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by jodi M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. The man has a correct to mention he isn't capable to be a father however nonetheless the resolution on how one can take this topic furhter will have to be made by way of either one of them Also if you're in that style of dating that there's a likelihood that you simply would get pregnant then I suppose they could have a significant communique main issue right here. Either you each consent for unprotected intercourse and are living with the penalties otherwise you simply converse with every different earlier than you even get to that level of conceiving a little one. The likelihood is there while a person isn't capable for it or it's going to simply have come to quickly it could scare him, altough my opinion nonetheless is that communique is the important thing right here. Children are a huge dedication for each events concerned. And if the case is that the man quite is terrified of becomming a dad or now not capable for it, they will have to be in a position to speak approximately it earlier than even conceiving a little one. If you're now not capable for it, use anticonception until you're capable for it. If both social gathering concerned feels that they're trapped and so they wish to have an abortion since suddenly they are not able to deal with it. I do not consider an abortion is a correct desicion if so, speaking it over with eachother continues to be the great and also you will have to now not be afraid to converse along with your associate on both discipline, if that's the case then it could now not be the great enviroment to carry one other existence into the sector. Scissors reduce each methods, so will have to a desicion be, each events are involved right here and will have to attempt to uncover an answer that's the great for either one of them made by way of either one of them. And there may be the problem of the conceived little one right here, it doesn't matter what level the unborn is in, it's there and will have to be viewed. Also to be viewed is the care when you had an abortion, it isn't simply cross to the health center and get it over with process. It generally is a very disturbing occasion or even result in melancholy and guilt afterwards. Do naked in brain that this isn't as sensible as that, there is not any sensible factor as oops I are not able to deal with it correct now, eliminate it. Just seem on the better photo and all that it includes and the afterwards. Well that's how I suppose approximately it, desire it is helping, well success.
2016-09-08 22:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well by the sounds of it, you already know that you dont want anymore children and neither does he, you have to search your mind, and make a decision. I was in that position, and I decided to abort, afterall its your body, and take precautions in the future. Good Luck.
2006-06-08 18:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3mth old daughter she is the most beautiful little girl, why don't you give this baby up for adoption if you don't fall in love with it when it's born, every child has the right to life.
2006-06-08 18:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by lisa A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need for abortion when there is adoption. Many people want children even if you don't. This can happen when you have sex. This is how babies are made. C'mon, be responsible...it's not the baby's fault.
2006-06-08 18:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by Emillea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry about ur hubby and yes u should tell the other guy that your pregnant and your wanting an abortion he has a right to know after all
2006-06-08 18:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should really think about having an abortion before you have one and then make it a point to get your tubes tied, i would tell him he might want the baby....there is always adoption
good luck, i hope you make the right choice
2006-06-14 08:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by what2do? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋