My boyfriend has been pressuring me for a n a l sex alot lately. We have done it at least 8 times already. It hurts sooo badly. He doesnt even want to accommodate me when we do it. He doesn't want to use alot of lube because he said he can't feel a thing. He only wants to do the positions he wants to do. He gets furious when he i want to take control. I told him let me prepare myself for it and he says he wants to prepare me for it. He doesnt even ask me how i feel when he puts it in or is he hurting me. what should i do?
2006-06-08 17:44:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He tells me if you say u love me so much u will take the pain.
2006-06-08 17:55:38 · update #1
Why are you with such a selfish man? Not to mention have you looked up the damage something like that can cause you, if you don't have sufficient lube and are ready you can do a lot of damage and that tissue doesn't heal. It's not the same as vaginal tissue that is made for that sort of expansion. You really need to talk to him about this and be firm and stand your ground or perhaps you should be with him. You may love him, but maybe the better question is, does he love you ?
2006-06-08 18:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't respect you! He is actually abusing you, do you realize that. He is causing you pain and he knows it, but he doesn't care, anal sex is enjoyable if done with lube and if the guy is gentle and careful. Dump this guy.
2006-06-08 17:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by nascarhorselover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dogy style is suitbale for anal sex. It can eliminate your pain. Also try to hold you hips during anal sex with your both hands so that your bf dick may be slides in and out easily. It will make you feel enjoy too.
2006-06-08 18:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by Summer s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do what you don't want to, sex is supposed to be enjoyable for the both of you... tell him you feel pressured to do it and if that's not good enough for him, take away sex from him for a week as punishment...
2006-06-08 17:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIND ANOTHER MAN HE SOUNDS LIKE HE HAS SOME ISSUES, IF YOU DONT WANT TO DO IT DONT. IF IT HURTS YOU DONT DO IT, IT YOU ARE THAT TIGHT YOU CAN SERIOUSLY MEDICALLY GET HURT.
TELL HIM TO F.U.C.K OFF NEXT TIME HE SAYS IF YOU LOVE ME YOU'LL TAKE THE PAIN . TELL HIM BABY LET ME STICK SOMETHING IN YOU A**.
2006-06-08 17:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by mrsurgtech09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him hes an abusive jerk..plus he is forcing u to do it so call the cops and have his butt thrown in jail for rape ...he sounds dangerous get the hell away from him before he hurts u badly
2006-06-08 17:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb. If he knows it hurts and that you don't want to do it and still pressures you...it seems to me that he has no respect for you.
2006-06-08 17:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by optionseeker1989 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should try giving urself an ennema 1st. alot more enjoyable
2006-06-08 17:49:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. that is very mean and you have a say in this too!
2006-06-08 17:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by m_rae0232 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very selfish. You should tell him so.
2006-06-08 17:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋