bad luck with men...help?

Question

ok i always pick the worst kinda men. mean nasty scoudrels with no scruples. how do i brake the pattern

Answer 1

start thinking like youre not yourself. this might seriously work. list to yourself the NESSESITIES in a man. what WILL make you happy. for example, as rotten as it sounds, love is not all you need. you need happiness. and if you will not be happy raising your children in a trailer park or appartment, with little or no yard, in fact, YOU won't be happy in a trailer park or appartment, then you need to get rid of guys who seem dead set on taking the easy (crapy) way out. it's the only way!!
same can go for anything.
if you start seeing a man who was cheating on his prior girlfriend with YOU, then you already know the most important thing: he's a cheater. and don't underestimate yourself...you know way more about these men ahead of time than you give yourself credit for.
For now, just try not to date anyone you're immediately interested in, because you KNOW it will be the wrong sort.
Do something fun. let your friends pick the next guy you date...or something like that.

Answer 2

First, eat some chocolate. I'm not talking about chocolate cake. I'm talking straight bars of Hersheys. Chocolate simulates the feelng of falling in love. Most people who keep dating jerks and loosers are actually "Falling in love feeling" addicts.

Now, stop dating for a while, maybe 6 months. Do what you have to if you have... urges, but don't date anyone until you're really over it.

Next, pull yourself together. You can't get anyone good if you're not good yourself. Learn to trust, and learn who does and does not deserve to be trusted. Learn to be affectionate, and learn who does and does not deserve yoru affection.

While you're doing this, talk to your happily married friends. If you don't have happily married friends, get some. Mr. Right likes doesn't date women without happily married friends, and Mr. Wrong likes to sleep around with friends that are not happily married.

Your happily married friends should be able to tell you where they met their wonderful life partners, how they got to know each other, when they knew it was time to marry, and how to stay married without killing each other.

Armed with this knowledge, and the understanding of some of your previous... mistakes... you can now step into the dating scene, and more intelligently begin again.

However, you may not have to. I've been told repeatedly that the best way to find a perfect partner is to stop looking until you come across someone else who has stopped looking.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I must go eat chocolate so I can stop looking for another 15 minutes. Hot date, you know...

Answer 3

Look Hon! Men are very simple! There are the ones that feel like they have something to prove to everyone, there are the ones that are quiet and don't seem too interesting. The majority of the ones that have something to prove look at you like a sniper looks at a target. They have you in their sight and are going to take the first shot they have. The quiet guys are probably more what you are looking for and would interest you more. Most of those guys can go and be loud and crazy, but choose not to. They already have and know what they want, they are just looking for the right person to share it with. When they see a woman walk in they observe and watch who she hangs out with and how she acts. That helps make the decision. The loud guys are the ones who are looking for their next one night stand and will feed you full of BS in order to get it!

Answer 4

The good thing is you have realized what you are doing. NOW YOU MUST STOP lowering your standards. YOu have to think why you are choosing these kind of men. If you can try staying out of a relationship for a while and really understand yourself and realize what it is you want and that you won't put up with disrespect. If you let it slide the first time they will continue to do it. Don't worry if you don't meet the right one right away. You learn :) GOOD LUCK AND DON"T LOWER YOUR STANDARDS . YOU KNOW WHAT THEY SAY IT IS FAR BETTER TO BE ALONE THAN TO BE IN BAD COMPANY.

Answer 5

The only thing that's consistent with all your bad relationships is you.

You attract the kind of guys that your personality would attract.
For example: if you are a golddigging fake person, you will attract the type of people who like fake golddiggers. Most of those would be "mean nasty scoundrels with no scruples."

Answer 6

don't let the looks be the first thing you look at, sometimes the guys that have a little extra weight on them or have those geeky glasses are your knights in disguise! My best friend was one of those and once we fixed up his style he had every girl at school crawling after him...not only was it his looks that got them but he still had that amazingly sweet side and respect for women.
Get to know them as friends before you actually start going out with them! That will give you a chance to see both sides of them, the sweet persuasive side and then the ugly cocky jerk side!

Answer 7

well for all i know many girls who end up with theese kind of men always have a guy who's always tried to be with them but they thought to be cooler than that so they just go for the worst kind while they know that they could have a very satisfaying relationship with the guy in love with them. this happens in most cases but the trouble is that the girl will care too much about what her mates say thus she won't have her happiness just to keep cool. if u know u can have a guy who's not as cool as u are but can give you happiness and respedt you then it's only your choice after that.

Answer 8

I know what you mean. What I did in the past is to take a break from dating. I still kept my guy friends and I asked them questions about me. If you have a great circle of friends who are advising you about your dating patterns, have them set you up with someone totally opposite from you tastes. You never know. Mr. Right may be an unexpected surprise from what you were used to going after.

Answer 9

Try changing your pick up routine. No bars or parties.
Try a health club or some place where hard working normal men go.
Don't be afraid to investigate them a little.
Find out where they work, how much they make, what they do on spare time, do they go to church, what thier home looks like, ect...
Good Luck!

Answer 10

i think you settle too easy.you go for someone who is nice. that should not be the only criteriea. look for someone who is educated,comes from a good family, understanding, loving. start by making good friends first. just dont jump on a date with anyone who asks you out.also have you had a bad childhood? people who has strict parents tend to choose ,without their knowledge,partners who take after their parents.