For christians who will give me a serious and good answer?

Question

Ok so I am by far a christian, I do believe in God but differently to you Christians. My question is that if christians put all this love and trust into God how can not be turned off when bad things happen and whay does he let terrible things happen to good people. Ok, why I'm asking this question: my family are christians, one of thier friends had to give birth tho their still born baby,, i'm not a christian but am married and I consider myself to be a good person, I had a miscarriage and my sister got pregnant at the same time as me so now I have to watch her go through her pregnancy. My cousins ex is expecting his 2nd baby, her 3rd and she has only just turned 20 and they take drugs, etc. Where is the justice here? Why have I lost my baby & now have to watch my sister go through her pregnancy and whay did my mums friend,a God obiding christian lose her baby in such a terrible way. Someone please give me a good answer to this question. It doesn't seem fair of God to do this

Answer 1

You are looking at life from your perspective, which is a natural thing to do. God's purposes and plans are not ours, so we cannot see things from His perspective most of the time. Sometimes we can't even see light at the end of the tunnel, but that only means that He is taking us through difficulty to cause us to look another direction...HIS.

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"It is not true to say that God wants to teach us something in our trials: through every cloud He brings, He wants us to unlearn something. His purpose in the cloud is to simplify our belief until our relationship to Him is exactly that of a child - God and my own soul, other people are shadows. Until other people become shadows, clouds and darkness will be mine every now and again. Is the relationship between myself and God getting simpler than ever it has been?

There is a connection between the strange providences of God and what we know of Him, and we have to learn to interpret the mysteries of life in the light of our knowledge of God. Unless we can look the darkest, blackest fact full in the face without damaging God's character, we do not yet know Him."

Answer 2

I actually know some Christian friends who lost a baby as well and I sympathize. There's an interesting song by Natalie Grant you might be surprised to hear the lyrics to:

http://www.klove.com/lyrics/lyrics.asp?2383

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Two months is too little
They let him go
They had no sudden healing
To Think That Providence
Would take a child from his mother
While she prays, is appalling

Who told us we�d be rescued
What has changed and
Why should we be saved from nightmares
Were asking why this happens to us
Were asking...
Who have died to live, it's unfair

Chorus:
This is what it means to be held
How it feels, when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive
This is what it is to be loved and know
That the promise was when everything fell
We�d be held

This hand is bitterness
We want to taste it and
Let the hatred numb our sorrows
The wise hand opens slowly
To lilies of the valley and tomorrow

Chorus:

If hope is born of suffering
If this is only the beginning
Can we not wait, for one hour
Watching for our Savior
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God doesn't let a Christian have more then they can handle and we have the reassurance we will see those children again in Heaven.

Evil things happen because we live in a fallen world. But as Christians we know this life is not the end and is not the true reality. What matters is the eternal, and God sees with an eternal perspective.

Answer 3

I honestly don't think I could give you an adequate answer in this format. Let me say I am really sorry for what you have gone through and the emotions you are still dealing with. I will make a few suggestions if you really are searching for an answer to that question. Two books address the topic very well; Philip Yancey's "Where is God when it Hurts." and James Dobson "When God doesn't make sense". If you have a church ask the Pastor if there is a grief support group or a lady who has been through this who could help you sort out all the issues. Again, I am sorry and I send this with a prayer that God gives you clarity of mind and peace in your heart.

Answer 4

Solomon answered this at Eccl 9:11 I returned to see under the sun that the swift do not have the race, nor the mighty ones the battle, nor do the wise also have the food, nor do the understanding ones also have the riches, nor do even those having knowledge have the favor; because time and unforeseen occurrence befall them all.

He highlighted how things just go wrong. All the result of Adam's sin-Rom 5:12.

Ps 73 shows the affect this had on Asaph, we're not any different
It's hard to endure, because it's not fair. That's the world Adam passed on to us.

Answer 5

When experiencing these kind of situations nothing seems fair at the time. In the future you may be able to look back at the situation and find something that also occured at the same time that turned out to be a blessing or a good learning experience. God does not ask us not to hurt or feel pain. He asks only for us to trust in Him, to let Him be the one to lead us to Him. You may not find the answers you are looking for in this situation for years to come, but I do firmly believe that in time you will look back and say God did know what He was doing and did have a plan in all of this.

Answer 6

Honestly, you might want to read some science books about the subject. What causes still born births and miscarriages are caused by medical/genetic reasons, it is nothing you did and it is not your fault, it is just bad luck, and it is not God's work. People that sin out of control have healthy children and those who are perfect church going people have horrible things happen to them, if there was a god then you have to ask why he/she would do this. The fact is it is random, if you look at the numbers equal number of believers and non-believers have these things happen to them.

I do however give you my deepest sympathies

Answer 7

Your question is so fragmented that it is hard to answer, but I will try.
It is hard to tell if you are a christian or not, but I think you want to know why your baby was still born and now you feel it is unjust to watch your sister have a baby. Hope I am right.
First off everything in this life is flawed, from our health to the systems of Govt. For some health reason your baby did not grow correctly and came early. Your baby, (soul) is just fine, he or she is with God and is not suffering from a deformed body or health issues. Gods natural process did not allow him to be born.
The problem as I see it is you want your baby. Do you want him to suffer health problems from birth?? Do you want him to be deformed for life? Your desire is selfish and comes from your hurt and wanting of your baby. Let God be God in your life and he will order your life for you. You will probably have another baby and it will be OK and then you will be happy. Immediate gratification is not healthy at any cost. You need to calm down and get your relationship with God in order and babies will come naturally. Life on this earth is not just in any form and this is why Christ came. It will eventually all be put in order, so if you have confidence in God it all works out in the end. The most important thing of all is your baby's soul is in great shape and he is with Jesus. God didn't do this to the world, we did as human beings. 43 million aborted babies and you can't have a healthy one. They killed one of my grandchildren and I am still sad about it. Life is unfair, but Jesus will make it right. Don't cry, only believe.

Answer 8

Actually, God is CREATOR of all that's good & evil. He admits it himself in several parts of the Bible. If only one took time to read it for themselves one would come to that realization.

I don't have a good or clear answer. I myself am a Christian, but I am having doubts about this too. I guess only one thing comes to mind and its cliché but here goes: All bad things happen only to help you become stronger and make you a better person and a better Christian if only you let God guide you through your pain.

I know it doesn't make me feel any better either. I'm sorry.

Answer 9

I don't have an answer that you will like very much. I guess i would answer by questioning God's Christianity. The American version of God is comprised of two hundred years of fire and brimstone culture where God was characterized as all powerful, ready to crush and burn sinners for the least trivial act of indecency. In today's generation God has morphed into a benevolent being who loves unconditionally and is ready to welcome us into heaven if we unconditionally adopt tenets of Christian religion, like "proclaiming Jesus as your personal savior." Note the paradox. So back to your question, with all that stuff happening in your life it seems to me that ... your life is just happening ... without the divine intervention of an omnipotent being. I say that God, if there is a God, doesn't have much to do with your existence. Your existence is for you to live and experience. You're looking for a meaning outside yourself, looking for a God who exists in American ideas of justice and righteousness. I'm sorry you've experienced loss and suffer when you see your friends and family with children. Life is full of pain. I think you will find peace and solace when you learn about your grief, embrace it, and accept it as part of who you are.

Answer 10

Why is it that when something good happens to us, we take the credit for it, but when something bad happens, we blame God?

I am a Christian lady who has seen her share of tragedy...including giving birth to a still born child. Indeed, I nearly died myself. It was a very difficult time in my life. All I can say now, is that I am glad that Jesus was with me through this time, and brought me through it.

Why did this happen? I don't know. Any more than I know why my son's two babies died of some strange genetic disorder his wife had, or why my grand daughter was born with a heart defect. Was it something in my genes? I had a profile done...no.

It is easy to be a "good Christian" (whatever that is) when everything is going well. It is a little harder to "walk through the valley of the shadow of death". Harder? It is impossible!
But I know that my Shepherd is with me, and that He has a plan. In the meantime, I will trust Him.

I will be praying for you, and for your family. "Cast all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you."

Answer 11

Good things and bad things happen. THAT IS LIFE. It is sad that bad things happen to good people but God loves us all. And sometimes bad things happen for a reason. It can help people grow and find strength. it can bring you closer to God. I can not tell you why bad things happen... I have no answer and the mind of man is not the mind of God. All I do is tell you to have faith and everything will work out in the end.