Ok well i just wanted some input. I'm sort of dating this almost 23 year old. I'm almost 17 We've both set limits, like it's not a relationship built on sex. He's had his heart broken in the only other serious relationship he's had, the girl was screwing around on him. I've never had a serious relationship and this one just feels right to both of us. My parents are completely against it. They won't even meet him and give him a chance to see that he's not after me for sex but a good long relationship, which is what we both want. Anyone have any comments/suggestions???
2006-06-08 15:29:22 · 14 answers · asked by kansas2535 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, Life is short. To short to not be filled with love. In my opinion, age ain't nothing but a number. Factor on intelligence, Maturity, and the amount of respect and love you have for another. I only believe to a certain extent that things are "meant to be." I believe that some things in life, you DO have to work for, and god will guide you through. If you love him, and he loves you, you can make it work!
2006-06-08 15:40:01 · answer #1 · answered by rors 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your maturity levels probably match better than if you were with someone your age. as you get older, that 6 years is nothing. It's probably just that your parents think you should be with someone closer to your age. He should just pop in on them sometime when you're not there. that's a great way for them to get to know him...better if you're not there and it's a surprise to them. You can also see what he's made of by suggesting it to him. If he's willing, then that would indicate how serious he is about your relationship. Most people, not to mention (your) parents, would have a hard time believing the relationship is without sex. hard for most to fathom. I'm assuming that you've shared the info with your parents the same as here...?? If not, you should. Keep in mind that you are to honor thy father and mother and that you do live in their household. If you wish to persist against their wishes, you should be prepared for the consequences. Also, if you present your side in an intelligent, honorable, and unemotional way, I think that they will be more receptive. best of luck..
2006-06-08 15:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by TN Seeker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are right. That is a big age difference when you're that young. Especially considering that you're not even 17 yet or 18 which is legally considered an adult. Your parents are just trying to protect you from heartache or being used by an older guy.
2006-06-08 15:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by missiceprincess74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not seem that much a gap for you, but 23 and 17 is huge in terms of your emotional IQ. Trust me... even 21 and 18 is a tough gap. Your maturity levels are way out-of-sync.
Having said that, all I can say is take it slow... as you seem to have described your situation as a bit serious.
2006-06-08 15:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by MikeSideline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 17 I was dating older men as well. I wont date a guy now unless he is at least 24 [and thats still pushing it..]. Parents can be weird about it tho cuz you are their little girl and she probably thinks he wants you for one reason. Just try and fill em in on whats really the situation. If they don't listen, at least you tried.
2006-06-08 15:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a pretty tough situation. To me, the age thing doesn't really matter, I mean, love is love no matter what the age difference is. On the part about your parents, prove them wrong. Date this guy so long they have to accept the fact that it's love and not sex.
2006-06-08 15:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Roy N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna have to play the MOM card and agree with your parents here. Sorry. If he truely is as great as you say he is, he'll wait for you to be legal. In the mean time, check out the guys your own age just to comparision shop. You might be surprised.
2006-06-08 15:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 20 and i have dated a few guys that were in their 30's, none of them worked out too great but for a while they were fun but it became clear to me that they were in a different phase in their life than i was, newly divorced, getting their careers on the right path etc. age isnt as important as where you are in your life, if you think youre really on the same level then it might be okay, that is not that huge of a difference.
2006-06-08 15:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by Hez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is way to old, his a child molester. If he was a real man he would be with someone his own age and not a 16. Find some one to love your own age, because you friend is sick.
2006-06-08 15:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by shelia j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents sound like they're afraid. You need to remind them that you'll never get good at relationships if you never have one. They need to be supportive of you while they can still protect you.
2006-06-08 15:33:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋