How can I, a 11 year old, keep from stealing/ lying to my father?

Question

My name is lil mike.
I really dont like living with my father. he have me do to many things that i am not use to. I nevered had to do things around the house when i stayed with my moma. I moved with him when he got out of jail a year later. I always be taking his stuff lying but i feel he treat the other kids better t han me. when my mom came up here i lied and told her that his girlfriend do not treat me right. can any one tell me what can i do to be gooder?

Answer 1

What are the possibilities of you going back with your mom??

Tell your mom how you feel and tell your dad too. I think all you need is a little more attention.

Answer 2

First of all: congratulations on being honest with yourself. It takes a lot of courage to do so, and I'd say , you are already on the path of being "gooder".
You should start by telling your mother that what you told her was not true, you seem to have a better relationship with her than with your father.Talk to her the same way you asked your question, in total honesty.She'll prefer you being honest, trust me. Try to stop stealing from your dad, it's not going to help in any way....besides parents find out a lot of stuff without necessarily talking to their kids about it (i am mother you know) I know it's easier said than done for a lot of people, but try really hard. Also explain to him that you are not used to picking up around the house. Maybe he can have you do a few things, without it being " too much". But if taking out the garbage when it's full, or putting your dirty dishes away, or picking up your room is too much , then you have to start realizing that is just the way it goes. You maybe only 11 , but adulthood is going to be knocking at your door a lot faster than you would like to. Communication is the key to success, tell your dad you don't like living with him...he MIGHT understand...but choose your words wisely,cuz I'm sure your intentions are not to make him feel cheap and abused. If you need to talk,e-mail me [e-mail]

Answer 3

First, to be better, you need to ask your Dad when he has some time to talk with you alone. I know it's hard , but you need to talk to your dad about the fact you are new to all these things he's making you do. Be nice to his girlfriend, and let her know you are new to this too, because your mom didn't have you do these things. Maybe they can write a list for you, of your regular chores and you can make sure they get done each day by checking them off? Try to remind them you are just a kid and your trying really hard, but it doesn't seem to make them happy. Tell your dad you'd like something of his that is special, because it would make you feel special to him. I bet he would give it to you. Tell your dad you love him and hug him, let him know you need his help most of all to grow up into a man.

Answer 4

Oh, Sweetheart, you sound like you're pretty mad at your father and not just about having to do chores... I think you should talk to the nurse at school or some other adult you trust so they can help find someone for you to talk to and maybe to talk to your mom and dad, too.
You already know it's not right to lie or take stuff that's not yours, but that's not the only problem and it's not fair for you to have to try to fix it all by yourself. There's nothing wrong with asking for help when you need it.
Good luck.

Answer 5

Hi, Mike! Well, you can talk to your father about giving you an allowance. Most kids, like adults, feel better about working if they are paid for what they have to do. And whenever you feel like taking his stuff, put your hands in your pockets and walk away. It really works.

Answer 6

Call the police or have him commited that will show complete discipline do not hold back if you are serious call 911 and I bet you after 2 or 3 calls depending on his mentality he will stop

Answer 7

sory child but you have to learn you dont always get what you want and not matter how your dad is treating you think about it hes your dad he has to work for every thing that he has and so should you.