Home isn't too good right now. Can anyone help?

Question

My parents keep fighting and putting me in the middle of it. My dad is also disabled and in a wheelchair. They're thinking of gettting a divorce and I would have to move. What am I supposed to do if my whole life is where I am now?

Answer 1

Bless your heart Darlin' - I would recommend a family counceller - sit with your folks sometime when they are not argueing and express your distress over their situation - assure them that you love them both and you know they love you and ask if they would consider councelling - if not and if the worse case happens then you will need to adjust your thinking and try to find a silver lining in the cloud - if your homelife is bad with them together perhaps if they do split up things will improve at least on the level of the amount of argueing and stress - Bless your heart! I'll say a prayer for you and your family -

Answer 2

I don't know how old you are, but change starts right from the beginning of life and doesn't end until you die. Speaking of death, we all suffer little deaths each day, including the break-up of a relationship. Everyday we lose a little and gain a little. Do what you need to do, you will get the courage to face it after the fact.
Fear keeps people from moving forward and that is what your parents are fighting about. They may need to move on with their lives, but the fear of being alone (a big fear), the fear of what will happen to the other person, the fear of not being able to make it on their own; these are all things they are mulling around in their heads right now and the fighting comes because they are stuck. It's not you.....you are cool. You also need to find yourself and move forward. Get into a group of friends that are good for you, that boost your self-esteem, that make you want to wake up tomorrow looking forward to the day. This is all from a woman who has started over again many times, each time with a lot of fear, but also with a lot of hope. Keep hoping and dreaming and doing; don't let them wreck your life. Keep this hug around you all day long and you will be fine (). - The old lady

Answer 3

You're comfortable with the familiarity of your life, but it doesn't sound like things are all that great. Change can be scary, but if that happens just go into it with an optimistic frame of mind. I think that if your parents can be happier away from each other then you will be happier too. I'm sure they love you very much and will make things as easy as possible for you. My parents divorced when I was 7, and I hated it but my brother and I were SO much better off. Don't worry, everything will be fine!!

Answer 4

Go to your pastor and talk with him. also go to friends and talk with them as well. You need to tell your parents
all this is troubling you and you feel you can't stand much more of it. You are too young to have to deal with such grown up issues and you do not want any more part of it.
tell them being in the middle is killing you on the inside and you will have to do what you have to do to get away from it. Tell them you should not have to choose.. this is their lives crumbling and either work it out or move on what might have to be. say you just don't leave a kid hanging on as some sort of pawn between you 2 to fight over.
Do you have a aunt or other relative where you could move to until they decide what they are going to do with their lives/ If so call your aunt and ask her if you can come there for alittle while.
God Bless You.

Answer 5

Well that is a bad situation to be in, but life is all about change and you just have look at the positive side of things. Maybe your parents need to be apart so that they are no longer unhappy and fighting. Divorce is hard, but fighting and stress is worse. Let them know how their fighting makes you feel. try to talk about it with them.

Answer 6

Just always believe that theres a good reason for everything thats happening in your life. This could just be the slope you have to climb to get to the top of the mountain. Dont blame yourself for what is happening to your parents and just be patient with either one. This has happenend to me and the dust takes a while to settle its going to be rocky for a while so just keep looking forward to the future when everythings ok. In the meantime keep yourself busy by having hobbies to pass the time..its also good therapy.

Answer 7

It isn't your fault. It isn't your fault. It isn't your fault. Life is full of changes. Don't be the victim, scapegoat, enabler or hero. If you have to move then you have to move. This is a horrible thing but always pray and ask to be able to forgive two parents that can't keep it together. Make sure you learn something from this. That is all you can do. You can't change ANYTHING.

Answer 8

u need to tell them to keep you out of their arguments. you love them both and you do not need this in your life right now. just because they are not getting along does not mean that they need tto screw up your life by putting you in the middle. they might not see it but you ultimatly will be the one who suffers because they can not rationalize things out like mature adults. these things you need to tell them and they need to really hear you. as far as choosing a place to live i can not help u with that one becuase u need to be the one who decides that. good luck and sorry that you have to go through this. parents can obviously act less mature then the kids

Answer 9

This is the kind of thing that counselors exist for. Are you in school? A lot of times school counselors will do appointments for free and without saying anything to your parents.

Answer 10

I'm afraid there's not really much you can do but let your parents know how you feel. I pray that your parents won't get a divorce.