I live in a very dysfunctional family, my older sister lives with a man who likes to verbally degrade her in front of my 2 year old nephew, my dad left when i was 9 and now wants back into my life (im 17) and my mom won't stop making fun of me because im not skinny and she keeps claiming im gay because my best friend is gay, but im not. And while she loves to dump her problems on me im not allowed to even mention what im going through to her. I feel like im going out of my mind and i can't handle all of this bull anymore, any tips on how to deal?
2006-06-08 14:49:52 · 6 answers · asked by dogluver8906 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My family was dysfunctional too. I'm 20 now and I escaped the bull when I moved in with another relative. Not to trivialize your problem but almost everyones family is disfunctional. People may not show it but they are dealing with the same bull you are dealing with at home. Just think about that when you are at home and remeber you are not the only one. Others before you have been strong enough to endure it and you are strong enough too. THIS WILL PASS. You are almost there, one more year you'll be 18 and you don't have to put up with the drama.
Talk to you sister. Really talk. Try to get her and your nephew out of that emotionally abusive relationship.
Your mom is beyond any reasoning if she doesn't know who you are enough to know your not gay and help you loose weight the right way. So, put up with her while your there. But when you get a job/move out forget about her.
My dad tried to pull a similar move on me. Give him a chance. You need someone to be close to right now anyway. If you find out he is not what you want in your life, forget about him too. If these people weren't in your family would you put up with this? Think about that when you are faced with decision on keeping a relationship with them as an adult. If you wanna talk email me. I wish you the best.
2006-06-09 06:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by xtraluvly03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up in a dysfunctional family, my father was a violent alcoholic and my mother was a very cold, unsympathetic woman.
I think this is easier for girls/women because we open up more readily and share our "feelings", but I always seemed to find people like my teachers, friends parents and my bosses who took me under their wings. I had a few women I called mom while growing up.
Find someone you can look up to and share your feelings with them. You really need someone to talk to.
Just remember, you are a special person. You had no control over what family you were born into and the way they treat you, specifically your mother, has nothing to do with who you are.
It sounds like she is incapable of being a mother and you were unfortunate to be her child. Good luck and God bless you. Please remember to always love you, you are a worthwhile, valid person. You have a whole life ahead of you that you can do with anything you want. Make it worthwhile and don't make your parents mistakes. You can change the pattern.
2006-06-08 15:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by fasn8n_67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll be 18 soon. Look forward to going out on your own and know that everything you're going through now will only make you stronger as an adult. Good Luck!
2006-06-08 14:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by tom8o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn some Conflict Resolution skills and strategies, when the world is crazy around us its good to know how to calm it all down.
Have a look at this site to learn more
http://www.crnhq.org/
2006-06-08 14:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by citalopraming 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
psssh no deal i desire my £10,000 good day do you feel there honestly is a banker on deal or no deal? or is noel simply speaking at the mobile to himself? or some thing foolish like that
2016-09-08 22:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore, ignore and ignore
2006-06-08 14:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by mystery t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋