Only those who can be respectful about my beliefs, please.?

Question

Alright, I'm a Christian, but I'm pretty sure people from other religions would be able to give a pretty good insight into my problem, as many of them have the same view as the one in question. I'll even take answers from athiests/agnostics, provided they're not just a variant of "God doesn't exist." And please, try not to fight each other. Just answer my question.

In the Bible, it says that Christians aren't supposed to marry non-Christians. However, I'm pretty sure God is telling me to be with this guy who is most definitely NOT a Christian, or a member of any religion. Now, I'm SURE he's telling me (or I'm schizophrenic and God doesn't exist. One of the two.) What's your explanation? Advice?

For your information, I'm not already dating him and trying to justify it. As far as I know, he isn't even interested in me.

Answer 1

The cost of religious disagreement within a household, particularly when it involves kids, is terrible.

Christianity has gone through a reformation (several), and few Christians still take the Bible literally as if it is eternally true in every age of man.

I'm not saying that is necessarily a good thing. It just is.

If you do, you cannot marry this guy. Period.

You can be his friend, help him see why you choose what you choose. Don't try to convert him as much as lead him to his own truth, which if it is true, and yours is true, will be the same. Then you might marry him.

If you do not take the Bible literally, then you must recognize that the political and religious climate of almost all countries at the time had no freedoms in these areas, and a mixed marraige of ANY kind was doomed to heartache, and often, bloodshed.

If you live in the U.S.A., you'll be in very good company, will have two views to lovingly share with your children, will respect the free speech and free expression of your two views, and support the right to choose of your adult children, regardless of their direction even as you disagree with the choice itself.

Good luck to you and the gentleman.

Above all, don't marry anyone without ethics. You can't teach ethics except in childhood or through extensive trials and tribulations.

Oh, I'm not religious. Bless you Christians for all the good you've done. Keep up the good work. Keep speaking up.

Answer 2

I do try my best to respect anyone's religion. Each is accountable for his or her own life and not the life of another in respect to personal beliefs.

Where in the Bible does it say that a Christian shound not marry a Non-Christian? I have read the Bible over 100 times cover to cover and I never found that verse. Did I miss something or is it that someone for their own selfish motives has tried to sell you a bill of good to take control and to own your soul?

I will accept that the Bible does say, "Do not be unequally yolked" but that does not say "a Christian should not marry a Non-Christian". The word Christian is not even used except by those who want to control you.

Is it not a fact that no one, no not one is born a Christian in the true meaning of the word as defined by the bible? If a true Christian did not come along side of a Non-Christian in life, how would the Non-Christians ever find a way to see the truth in action? Is not coming along side and walking together a view of being yolked if both do walk together in stride to serve a purpose? Is not ht yolked a binding together and in a side by side walk the binding is maybe to serve one another? Did not the Apostle Paul even make reference to a Christian being married to a Non-Christian and in it he did not condemn either party?

Please my friend you learn from the recorded words in the Bible and not from all these so called teachers and preachers who just want to tie you up and to own your life. You are free if you do accept the pure truth, so stay free and do not return to slavery again except as a slave of the True God.

Please do give my opinion some thought and smile while doing it. You can accept it or reject it, for that is you option.

I will close by saying, "Do listen to your God only and if you are sure He is telling you to marry this Non-Christian, do obey Him. Just be sure the guiding is from your God, the true God. Be an obedient slave to your God, the true God only.

Answer 3

This came directly from the New Living Translation website.

A Christian should be a positive influence on an unbelieving spouse.
Because of their desire to serve Christ, some people in the Corinthian church thought they ought to divorce their pagan spouses and marry Christians. But Paul affirmed the marriage commitment. God's ideal is for marriages to stay together--even when one spouse is not a believer. The Christian spouse should try to win the other to Christ. It would be easy to rationalize leaving; however, Paul makes a strong case for staying with the unbelieving spouse and being a positive influence on the marriage. Paul, like Jesus, believed that marriage is permanent (see Mark 10:1-9).

Answer 4

How do u think God is telling u to be with this bloke? I dunno maybe u have feelings for this bloke and really wanna be with him. I if u like him got I think go for it. I don't understand why the Bible says ur not suppose to marry people who r non christian. I think the most important thing about being with someone is that they're a good kind hearted person who's cares and respects u what ever there religion or non religion. I guess u do what ever feel right to u. But I don't see what is so wrong about being with someone who is a non Christian.

Answer 5

I would be sure God is doing the leading. You as a Christian are not to be "unequally yoked together". This could go deeper than just marriage. Lets just assume marriage for now.
IF, God is leading you to this person, lead him to Christ FIRST.

I would only want to try to save you from what could be a major heartache to come. A Christian marriage is just that.

God Bless You. You are doing the right thing by asking before hand. I hope you find your answer.

Answer 6

With all due respect, what could possibly make you believe God is "telling" you anything? Seriously? Did you hear His voice? Or is it that you really only want Him to approve so badly that you imagine He is telling you?

I really can't understand how it is that you Christians can believe that God is all-powerful, and at the same time believe He would try to tell you, a lowly human, something by "whispering", or leaving little hints. If He wanted you to know anything, why wouldn't He simply say it in an audible voice? Surely, that wouldn't be too much to expect, would it?

Answer 7

Do you get other messages in the same fashion? If not, I'd say to listen to the voice and be observant. Not necessarily to act on it. But it sounds as if you are having some kind of insight and it won't hurt to simply watch what happens.
If you do, you may find a visit with your doctor to be a good thing. Not that you are ill, or mentally unstable, but there are medical conditions that can cause people to hear messages that aren't sensible or safe.
Good luck!

Answer 8

God says that we should be with people of like-minded faith because it is easy for us as humans to be influenced by the ones we love. Just like the children of Israel when they were ordered not to intermarry with the neighboring people... they ended up worshipping pagan idols and turning away from the Lord their God.

Like someone else said, if God is truly speaking to your heart, I would witness to this guy. Tell him the Good News of the Lord Jesus Christ and if he accepts the message and asks the Savior into his heart, then by all means, have a happy life, WITH THE LORD'S BLESSING. But, if he refuses to accept the Word of God, you should not become involved with him.

Answer 9

I think you should do what you want and not what a voice tells you. (I am not being disrespectful but I think God wants you to have a free will.)
last time when some body did what God told them to do, about 10000 people died and still dieing. So I think its best, to do what you want to do. If you like the guy, go and speak to him, worry about the religion and every thing later. may be he not the right person who knows?

Answer 10

My belief is that if u pray to GOD, he will show u who your husband is. U have to be sure that your ear is tuned into and with GOD. The devil can come to u as a sheep but be in wolves clothing. GOD will work it out for u. Fast and pray and he will more than show u the right person. I prayed for my wife and i never knew who she was. I waited patiently and i met her 6years ago online in a chat room and now we are married and have been married for 5 months and I LOVE IT!!! Be patient my friend and let GOD and u will never go wrong with GOD chosing your mate!! Be blessed and remember,, BE PATIENT!!