The whole time growing up, seriously at least once per day, she would yell and say "I can't wait until you damn kids turn 18 and get the **** out of my house!" Now I'm out and states away. So now that she has what she always was so adamant about wanting, how does she have the nerve to call me up and beg me to move back to my home town? What is she thinking? Why would I want to?
2006-06-08 14:33:17 · 12 answers · asked by Gabrielle 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm 32. I have 2 children of my own, 10 & 5. Even though I get pissed, I certainly never treat them the way I was treated.
2006-06-08 15:01:41 · update #1
That certainly wasn't very "MOM" like of a comment. Although I don't condone what your mom said, I am sure she misses and loves you. Although my children are small and can't imagine saying those things, try and evaluate your mom. Is she a single working mom working several jobs?, were you a hand full growing up? Just remember we all do really rotten things that we are ashamed of and no ones perfect. I am sure she misses you a whole bunch. Try and be gentle with her and don't repeat history by punishing her like she did you.
2006-06-08 14:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Yoshiko 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she probably realized what a mistake she made in treating you that way. she's probably too proud to admit that it was wrong. (moms always think they're right), so in order to make up for the wrongs she did you, she probably wants to spend more time with you and your children now. people always grow and change. you're not the person you were, and she may or may not be the same person she was when she was screaming at you. i completely understand what you mean, because my relationship with my mom was awful, and it's still not perfect, but it's better now that i'm not in her house. even if you moved closer, you wouldn't be living with her, you'd have your own place, so if your mom pissed you off, or offended you, you could always take your kids and go home. as much as your mom hurt you, she's your mom and you will always love her. we're not here on this earth forever, we need to make the best of the time we do have.
2006-06-08 22:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Tessa ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all moms and dads say they can't wait til their kids turn 18 :) I am on the count down 2 months and he will be 18 !!! Ok, it is we really don't want you to go. It is our children are now 18 and gorwn up, so as for myself, I am ready to start living for me, as for the last 21 yrs, I have dedicated my life to my children. So now it is my turn to have a life kids free.
Does that mean we don't love you. NO, it means we are tired old parents ready to have our place to ourselves, not worry as much about what your doing and when your coming home. Or OMG there was an accident, and I drive to make sure it wasn't the boys. So she is just being a mom. Now she wants you closer to enjoy being adults together that is all.
2006-06-08 21:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moms can be interesting creatures. My mom and I used to hate one another. I was apparently the "biggest ***** she had ever known". I was 16. You can never tell what is going through a mother's head when she says the things she does. (not defending the fact that she spoke to children that way) but remember--until you are a mom, you will never fully appreciate yours. There is not much you can do about your mom, but you CAN be a better mom to your future or currently existing children. Think about how you felt when you heard her say those things.
2006-06-08 21:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by jrod0923 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT TILL YOU HAVE YOUR OWN CHILDREN AND YOU'LL SEE WHAT'S SHE THINKING, HONEY.. IT'S NOT THE NERVE OF CALLING YOU UP AND ASKING YOU TO MOVE BACK.. SHE'S GROWING OLD AND JUST WANT THE JOY OF HAVING U GUYZ AROUND.. LIKE THE OLD TIME.. SHE MISSES YOU.. THAT'S ALL I CAN SAY.. MY MOM BI*TCH AT ME THE SAME WAY.. BUT I NEVER LEAVE HER, CUZ I AM THE ONLY CHILD. I FEEL LIKE TAKING CARE OF HER NOW IS MY WAY OF PAYING HER BACK THE WAY SHE RAISED ME AS THE PERSON, I AM NOW.
2006-06-08 21:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by AzNgUrL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moms say that out of anger theyre all like DAMN YOU CHILDREN I CANT WAIT TILL U LEAVE I NEED A BREAK!!!
Then your gone and theyre lonely, what can you expect theyre mothers they will always care and want theyre children near.
2006-06-08 21:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your kids are 10 and 5 she wants to see them more often (that should make you feel good) and by the time they are 12 and 17 you'll be ready to send them to her for a long visit as you refrain from yelling at them just as she did you.
2006-06-08 22:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might not have realized what she had until it was gone. if she hurt your feelings when you were younger tell her that and see if u get an apology. tell her that sinced she wanted you out of the house so bad, you moved and you are staying where you are.
2006-06-08 22:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by dancer0211 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that...remind her of the things she said while you were growing up...maybe she didn't realize how much she loved you guys until you were gone...that's the way it always goes...talk to her about it though
2006-06-08 21:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by nikki_mh02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOM IS JUST TAKING THE ANGER OUT RATHER THAN THAT COME BACK TO HER.
2006-06-08 22:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by LULU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋