I think all he needs to know is that I was with another guy, but he wants t know things like, how many times, how long did it last, how did it start, did you use protection, did you give him oral, did he *** in your mouth??
*should I tell him everything, or just keep it simple?
2006-06-08 12:25:38 · 20 answers · asked by killer b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
simple. If you tell him everyhting you did. you will never hear the end of it. He will be constantly comparing himself to the other guy. It will cause friction and jealousy. don't do it. for your sake. Its not his business
2006-06-08 12:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend is having trust issues. He wants you to tell him something that is hard for you to talk about because he needs to know that you will be honest with him in the future, even if the subject is difficult. You may be able to get out of giving sex details by finding another way to win his trust, but real trust from a partner only comes when you're being honest with him and yourself.
Did you give him notice before you left him for the other guy? Did you tell him that your feelings were changing? Do you have to be with someone all the time? Were you not willing to risk the chance of being alone by telling him about the other guy while there was still time to talk about it, before your mind was made up to leave him? Has anything changed? Do you love him enough to be completely honest now? Do you care how much you hurt him? Does he have anything he can base his future trust upon?
I don't know if these questions are relevant to you or not. You haven't given us enough information, but if any of them are, you should take a hard look at why you are with this guy. Love is enough respect, trust and caring to give the other person information without fear that they will use it against you. If you don't have that, then you are only using him as a crutch, a sick addiction to fill that part of you that will never be whole until you can rely on yourself enough to stop fearing being alone.
2006-06-08 19:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by Zephram Stark 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame the guy at all. He really loved you. Then you left him for another guy. He is destroyed inside knowing that you had all kinds of sex with the other guy. You betrayed him so bad that I really don't think the relationship will work out for to long. What you did is going to eat at him until later in life, when he forgets about you. I am not picking on you for what you did. Please don't feel that I am. I just want you to know that what happened between the two of you, Is killing him inside. He can't stand it. He can't believe that it happened. As far as sex goes, If there is some way that you could play it down, do it, because if you tell him the facts about you going down on him, he may freak.
2006-06-08 19:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say keep it simple. The only reason why he wants to know is b`cos he's still jealous and hurt..giving him details would be like feeding a hungry lion..you do not want to be in that situation. He more wants to know if you liked the other guy more than him.....but then the real point he's missing is..YOUR WITH HIM NOW!.... every man has a bit more or different from others..so its not about more is about different and in that way..u liked him(the other guy, i mean). so, now ur back with ur old bf, and like him for him..thats it. If you every HAVE to give details remember to always polish it with "you loving him for him not becuse he's more or less that the other guy"
2006-06-08 19:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your boyfriend is concerned about his safety and he has a right to be. If he is having unprotected sex with you already then his questions are moot and I would not answer. because he's just being morose.
But if he is witholding sexual activities until you answer, and you had ALL safe sex with the other guy. I would let him know that without additional details. If it would make him feel better and the realationship means a lot to you, go to the doctor and get a clean bill of health in writing.
I applaud your boyfriend being good to his own body. He may be too nosy, but if he needs reassurance you should give it to him.
2006-06-08 19:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by earthling4luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the feck? I don't even know why he's back with you. And he's probably asking the questions to see if he's better than the other guy, now that you're back with him. If the other guy was say, better in bed, he'll prob feel like shet and everything. Dunno, honestly. But I think his curiosity is fishy, and personally, I'd keep it all simple and tell him to leave it at that since you're not with the other guy anymore.
2006-06-08 19:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him look im not questioning you about what you did when we broke up and what we did together is between me and him and when i feel ready ill tell you, and stop pushing me to tell you because the more you push the more ill keep it a secret from you
2006-06-08 19:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want a good relationship then dont keep secrerts if he wants to no thn tell him but try not to go into to much detale, just keep it simple dont make him feel like the other guy is better it will only make your reationship go down hill
2006-06-08 19:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by babys_girl88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even say anything. Just tell him that it's in the past and I don't even bother to remember.
Be careful on handling this one. The less he knows the better
2006-06-08 19:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by uu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of this one, he is a control freak. It sounds like trouble down the road for you. We will be seeing your story on Forensic
Files if you don't be careful. Use your head and grow up.
2006-06-08 19:30:48 · answer #10 · answered by owllady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋