well my mom is sooo mean and unfair to me... i.e. i was driving home and i was goin down the steep driveway and she starts yellin at me..." you dont know what ur doin ... slow down .." and i was tellin her that i am doin fine and she told me to not question her and to shut my mouth.... well my dad is usually the nicer one and im a daddys girl and when mom does things like that he just stands there and he tells me later not to listen to her.... why doeswnt he stand up for me??? and what should i do about my mom???? (there has been WAY worse things that have happened besides that)
2006-06-08 11:56:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oveningskor: she does it all the time
2006-06-08 12:02:08 · update #1
Hon, it is called PMS
2006-06-08 11:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by oveningskor 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would recommend that you have an one-on-one talk with your mother regarding the abusive nature of your mom. Mostly people are abusive because they cannot control anger. You need to say that you would like your relation with your mom to become better. You also tell that you appreciate nicer behaviour from her - If she is having difficultly controlling anger, suggest an anger management class. Or a counsiling time with you and her. If you have difficulty in doing that get you dad to support you before you tell this to your mom.
2006-06-08 12:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Little Bhishma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be its hard for her to deal with the fact that you are growing up. Don't disrespect her. Talk to her when she is calm. Don't act out. Talk to your dad about why he doesnt stand up for you. It is not right for your dad to tell you not to listen to your mom. Are you a rebelous child--maybe that's the cause. Talk to your school counselor. Maybe things just seem way worse because they are not what you want to hear.
2006-06-21 10:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by mother of 5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell ur parents that you need to talk to them. and to please let you talk b/4 they respond.....not to interrupt.......Just use the same words you used on Yahoo....It all makes sense. Tellthem you love them both. But that you are tired of getting the third degree everytime..(doesn't ur Mom drive) Sometimes parents don't know how they sound. even when they give advice, it sometimes sounds mean. but they don't mean it that way...Don't tell ur Mom that ur Dad said not to listen to you...(he just ddn't know what to say) he is in the middle as her husband and your father. he would rather crawl in a hole..try to talk things out first. good luck.
2006-06-17 16:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husbands know better than to argue with their Wives. That's one of the first rules of marriage. Your mom just sounds tough. If so, then there's nothing you can do about that. If she's hitting you, well, you should report her to the cops---that is, if your father isn't willing to step up.
Aria
*The illnovelist*
2006-06-15 16:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by illnovelist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom is just like that an i HATE IT. she yells at me for absolutly nothing. it is so gay. i dont even know what to do but i have come to the conclusion that when i yell back at her she doesnt know what to say. and when i make fun of her she is speechless. it may not be as easy with your mom though but if u can just ignore her, it may be really hard but then it doesnt give her anything to yell at u for so then ur dad might tell her that it is dumb to yell at u when u did nuttin. but yea moms r gay just be glad at 18 u can move out. yay!!!
2006-06-21 20:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by ♥hannah banana♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes parents don't understand how much their words can affect their kids. You should tell your mom (without yelling) that she hurts your feelings at times. Your mom loves you and she'll understand. You should also look at your own behavior and see what you can do to keep the peace.
2006-06-08 12:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by kissy972001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually in parenting there is one nice one and one bad one. It's like the good cop bad cop situation. Don't stress, go with the flow and know that you won't be living there for the rest of your life.
2006-06-21 13:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by owllady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a little bit of: listen to your mother, she may know something and a little bit of learn to talk to your mother so she hears you too. Really think about what you are both trying to do and i bet it is help each other.
2006-06-22 11:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom that you don't like being treated that way and tell your dad to stand up for you more often. and if you get in the car with her again... and she tells you stop. just stop the car really quick. and just get out and walk home. i did.
2006-06-08 12:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by riddicks_babe69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How hard would it be to listen to her and / or do as she says? Why try to impress her with your incredible driving skills? - Next time slow down.
Move out now! while you still know everything, I say
2006-06-17 20:52:26 · answer #11 · answered by scummibear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋