should i get married at 18 a and start having kids at 19?

Question

because i want to but is that to young what would yall do

Answer 1

unless you want to be a single mother by 22, I would suggest you wait. People change a LOT from 18-22, and couples don't always change together. My suggestion is to wait. When the time is right, that's the time to do it. And first you have to find the man... and make sure you find a MAN and not a boy or a boy-man.

Answer 2

Are you kidding?! If you have to ask that question, then you're much too young to get married or to have children. Why is it that you think you want to do this? Are you engaged? In love? Are you on some kind of a "schedule"? You haven't even had a chance to live yet. Enjoy your youth -- go to college...or travel...or do something that would benefit others...get to know people and the world. You have plenty of time to get married and have kids. What happens if you "start having kids at 19" and then decide that was the wrong thing for you? That child becomes your responsibility until he/she is 18. What I would do is WAIT... give it a few years; by the time you're 23 or so, you'll be more intellectually mature and capable of making the choice that's right for you.

Answer 3

At eighteen, everything seems simple and you probably think you have your life planned out. However, there are several things to consider...
1. Your brain is not yet thoroughly developed, and won't be, until 21 or 22. Therefore, the way you process information and make decisions now will be very different in a few years.
2. One way to make decisions is after there is a little history of experience out in the "real world." You don't say where you are living or whether you are employed, but at your age, there are many experiences yet to come.
3. Believe it or not, the person you love now may not be the person you love in two or three years. As your outlook changes with age and experience, so will your attitude about relationships. What you think you want now may not be what you want in a few years.
4. Life is to be lived! Live it! Make certain that you are your own person, have a good sense of who you are and what you want, and most especially....go out and enjoy young adulthood! Do all the things that you want now, because once you have children, that will change, even if you think it won't.
5. If you have to ask if you should get married, it's likely that you are not quite mature enough to be married and have children.

Relax and enjoy life at this wonderful time in your life!!!

Answer 4

It sounds nice, but it's a whole different ball game (marriage is one thing, kids is another)!!!
It's a whole lot of resposibility (mentally challenging, financially disturbing)!!! This age is too young to even think you are ready for this!!!
Enjoy your life first, see the world first, discover who you really are first, because once you have kids life would not be the same for you! 18 is a tender age to get married (you are both still maturing)! 19 too young to have kids! You have your whole life in front of you! Learn from other people's mistakes and the problems they had to deal it. Really evaluate this! Okay!

Answer 5

The fact that you are asking this here shows that you are not quite certain yourself.

I would urge you to wait a few years to get married - if you are able to - travel - see the world, enjoy yourself - life is too short.

Once you have a child, you will be limited by what you can do.

You could be married at age 18, having children by age 19, and divorcing by age 20.

Take your time - you have plenty of time to have a child/children.

Answer 6

No cause I wanted to at 18 and I kept taking my birth control because I wanted to make sure I was financially set after college. Now I am 25 and I could wait 2 or 3 more years. You go through that mommy stage but trust me in a couple months you will grow out of it and know once you have a baby there is none of you doing what you please anymore. The baby is it!!!

Answer 7

That is a personal choice. I think for most people it is better to wait and do a little more growing up before taking on the responsibilities of raising kids. The key is to base your decision on not only what you want but what will be best for your kids when you have them. You need to have a place to live, a job to support them, and time and support to deal with all the responsibilities of having kids.

Answer 8

Miss Lady,
You should definitely not get married unless you can handle sharing your life and everything you do for the rest of your future with someone else. INCLUDING kids. Marriage is a committment and vow to one another. It should not be taken for granted nor be mimicked. Children are Gods most precious creations in the world and they also should not be taken for granted. They will need to be cared for and loved. They will want until they can't want anymore.....ARE YOU prepared to handle this right now. Can you picture yourself...young, married, working, taking care of a child, getting up in the middle of the night, changing diapers, making bottles, all while still trying to be a wife to your husband who will have needs too. I think that you should definitely hold off until you know exactly for sure what you want your future to conclude to. Not saying that you will, but, what if your hubby gets too stressed and leaves you and your baby, can you work fulltime, trying to make a living for you and your child, while trying not to end up in a shelter. Do you think you can live off of a child support check...WHEN HE DOES SEND MONEY! all I am saying is for you to think things through till you can't think anymore, and when you do make a decision, let it be one that you won't regret. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

You should wait....that's what smart people do....I wasn't one of them....glad to have my son but marriage didn't last...if you want to have a marriage that lasts.....WAIT until you are older!! Beleive it or not another 10 more years would be smarter....you'd be sooooooooooooo ready for both....you just think you are now...Live together and use birth-control...If the shoe fits...you'll KNOW!!! I bet most people would like to do things over again that got married young....look at ALL the divorces!!! I wish I had waited and had the same exact kids!!!

Answer 10

Wait until you are totally sure. it sounds like you are not sure and if there is any doubt then don't do it. Once you ahve children it stops being about you, and if you are unwilling to be unselfish, then don't get married or have kids.

Take your time. I didn't have a baby untilI was twenty-three and I am glad I started at that age. I am twenty-seven now and married with two kids. I love my family and my life. Good luck!