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On my job, I work very closely with this one guy. We spend a lot of time talking, and we've gotten to be friends. That's it-we just talk a lot and joke around.
But his wife is kinda...crazy....and she's jealous of me. I've done nothing wrong, she's the one with the problem. She's very rude and controlling, and she doesn't like me.
If I stop being friends with her husband, aren't I just rewarding her for being a pill? What should I do?

2006-06-08 11:22:19 · 4 answers · asked by cirque de lune 6 in Society & Culture Etiquette

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Married people do not have friends of the opposite sex, or at least I don't believe they really do....but they do have acquaintences. As long as you are not flirting with him you are doing nothing wrong but maybe back up a little because if you care about him as a friend then you should respect that marriage comes first and you shouldn't want to be the center of their argument.

2006-06-08 17:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

It's all a matter of perception. You may perceive nothing wrong with all you do with this man but his wife's perception is different. You were not specific as to what you have done with him and how for unbiased third party to make an accurate assessment. Maybe you have very "friendly" gestures or speech to this man and you don't even know it. Or maybe she's just plain insecured and who knows why? Maybe that's her nature or maybe he did cheat on her in the past or maybe he has a reputation. You need to step back and re-assess yourself and the situation. Without enough info, I can't give you specific advice. Don't think "Oh, it's her problem". It might as well be his and yours too.

2006-06-08 19:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Your job and the people that you meet are your aquaintance not your friends. Friends are very few. That is his problem not yours..if you are not doing anything with him than don't worry about it..Be the good person and distant yourself respectful from him and just treat him as a co-worker. And you are not rewarding her you are rewarding yourself by being respectful to the other person. Put yourself in her shoes. Best wishes:-)

2006-06-08 18:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lylu 1 · 0 0

I think you already know the answer--SHE'S the one with the problem. And she isn't even your problem. She is HIS problem. So, don't worry about it. It shouldn't have to be up to you to decide to stop being friends with him. If there are steps to be taken, they will be the steps of your coworker.

And keep on doing nothing wrong.

2006-06-08 18:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by MornGloryHM 4 · 0 0

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