i am asian who is presently working in UK, have a british bf, who is separated.yet we seldom see each other, we do make love everytime we see each other,maybe once a month or sometimes we are not seeing each other for 2 or 3 months.On the other hand i have a bf who is working in another country..i havent seen him yet he text me and he wanted to marry me and we are on the same nationality. I am so confused since i want to get married on at my age of mid 30s.i still have feeligs of my british bf yet im not sure of his real feelings towards me. i dont know how to decide this time.do i have to marry the man whom i havent met yet is ready to marry me sice he is still single or the man who is separated and i have intimate relationship though i seldom see .. iam really into trouble decision.by the way both of them didnt know of course that i have them both
2006-06-08 11:16:08 · 13 answers · asked by thea_thena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it. You will regret it the rest of your life.
2006-06-08 11:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you aren't sure of how your British boyfriend probably feels then you should definitely explore other options, because it's not good to feel unsure about a relationship. However, though i like the fact that you and this other guy are the same nationality, its not good that you haven't met him yet. What if he's a woman beater, or what if he has a bad temper? There are so many what ifs. You need to get to know him better before you marry him. Good Luck.
2006-06-08 11:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by tbird00719 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, whoa, whoa, no way can you decide to marry someone you haven't even met yet. And as far as the British BF is concerned, sounds like he's just interested in the funtime for the meantime, doesn't sound like he's interested in making any commitment to you in the near future. Keep your communication open, maybe after you meet the other guy, you'll be better able to answer that question for yourself.
2006-06-08 11:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetie Pie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all WOW... someone would say ur a player..TWO GUYS....but lets get serious. I would say DO NOT go ahead and marry this TXT guy, you hardly know him. Knowing someone enough to marry them means there's gotta be trust, companionship, understanding some kind of common ground you both share..these things don't take place over txt messaging..you either get together and get to know him physically and personally or stay as txt friends and concentrate on the bf you already have some commoness and familiarity with already. But thats my opinion.
2006-06-08 11:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is ur hurry to get married? marriage is a sacred engagement.. u cant even decide who u wanna get married too. when u marry its to one person who u want to spend the rest of ur life with b/c u cant imagine living ur life without that person..u dont feel complete without that person..u want to share everything u do and when u see them from across the room ur heart races.. u need to stop and get ahold of ur self and focus on u and the last thing u need to do is think about is marriage.. nothing wrong with being single.. it works for some..
2006-06-08 11:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by wildspirit1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you noticed that it is the year 2006?!?!?! we are same nationality? i need to get married quick? come on... you cannot be seriously considering marrying a man you know only by text messages? please, you cannot be serious. and about the bf, he is playing you, so tell him to f***off. and get a real life, stop living in fantasies. it is called growing up. it isn't easy to find a right guy, i know, but you are pushing it. i am sure you are pretty and smart and you don't need this crap. be yourself and grow up!
2006-06-08 12:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by mimma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT looks to me that you are having fun cheating on the both of them. So why not make up your own mind and decide which direction you wish to go, and do yourself a favor stop lying to yourself.
2006-06-08 11:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez whitickers! what a ridiculous mess you are...having to decide to marry a man you HAVENT MET OR SEEN IN PERSON...and MARRY A MAN who is still presently married but separated...YOU have ISSUES Lady...get counseling
2006-06-08 11:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by celine8388 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to find a partner that will spend time with you and not live your love life through fantasies.
2006-06-08 11:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by grisgris100 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont u have to met someone to marry them, i dont think weddings work over the phone, oh and, grow up, even if your 30
2006-06-08 11:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by woundshurtless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a web cam see before u leap
2006-06-08 11:19:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋