ok. im 13 and i wanna talk 2 my mother about my period and sex and other stuff like that, but my dad and older brother r always there. wen they arent, my younger nosey sibilings r there. wut do i do?
2006-06-08 11:10:06 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
my mom doesn hav an e-mail address. she keeps on sayin 2morrow, but wen 2morrow comes, its the 2morrow after 2morrow.
2006-06-08 12:04:59 · update #1
I know how you feel..
I have 4 younger siblings and I can barely ever find a time and place to talk to my mom just the two of us.
One thing that works for me...
When your mom is driving you to or from an activity or school and your siblings are not in the car is a great time to talk to her. I am always telling my mom about things that are going on in my life on my way back from school. Sometimes we even sit in the car for a few extra minutes after we have already gotten home- just to talk.
You should not have to sned your mom an email or letter to let her know you want to talk. Just start talking! If you tell her exactly what you are wanting to talk about, I'm sure she wouldn't mind sitting down with you sometime and tell you all you need to know.
And if you have already told her and she hasn't shown any intrest in talking to you about it alone, then maybe she is avoiding the subject because she doesn't know how to talk to you about it.
Good Luck
2006-06-22 06:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by That Chick acisseJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I have 2 brothers and a sister. My mom and I used to bake together all the time (no lie. us girls grew up in the kitchen.) My family is from down home. And we have a very close and open relationship. Which I attribute to God. You name it we baked it. And that was when I had my opportunity to ask q's and talk about things. So maybe the best time for you to talk is when you 2 are doing something. Like a common routine. DO you 2 wash dishes together or laundry? Take that time to get her attention. Try to get in a quick question there. Let her know. Be like hey Mom, as soon as you have the chance, later I'd like to talk to you. It's great to hear of a young lady in this day and age having an open and honest relationship w/ your Mom. Good luck and God bless!
2006-06-22 10:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by mammita27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, with no intention of sounding harsh, she might not be putting it off, she might be avoiding it altogether. My mom is slightly old fashioned in this sense and it was very difficult to get straight answers that did not involve odd names for body parts or comparative actions to substitute the proper words. in all truthfulness the explanation I received sort of confused me more and did not answer the most important questions. Maybe your best bet is talking with a more open minded relative or talking with a teacher at school (a science teacher or guidance counselor maybe) this may seem uncomfortable but it will be more informative.
Its good that you are trying to find out, most of my friends found out with porn or actually having intercourse and that was not the best option...but they all have beautiful kids! lol.
2006-06-22 09:48:33 · answer #3 · answered by high_on_life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your mom.
Just go to her when you see her and let her know you want to discuss girl-stuff.
Let her know it's important to you to talk about certain things.
Ask her to help you create some private time for the both of you.
Trust me she will be happy to.
If she isn't tell her you'll ask someone else if she doesn't have time.
You can contact me or ask a relative or family friend. most adult women should be willing to help you with this.
This has been a kind of odd time for the most of us and none of us have discussed this over pudding.
2006-06-08 12:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by woekkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring your mom aside one day maybe when your dad and bro are outside and ask your mom for some mother/daughter time just the two of you. I'm sure she'll be more than happy to set that time aside so you guys can bond.
Lot's of luck to you.
2006-06-08 11:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by jthoms9800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try writing her a note and slip it to her.Or wait til everyone settles down for the night and If you can catch her ask her hey mom got to talk to you about the birds and the bees most moms love it when you ask and are willing to talk to you.Ask for a girls day just you and her
2006-06-19 18:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by Sin 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that there are some issues that you need to talk to her about and you need to do soon and you would like it to just be you and her. If she says tomorrow then say you said that yesterday. Keep on her. And if she still doesn't then talk to a best friends mom.
2006-06-22 09:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by cboyce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes mothers do not feel comfortable about discussing these things. Perhaps she is not sure about what to say to you. Maybe you can ask your mom if you, her and the school nurse or your family doctor can talk about these things. Good luck.
2006-06-21 18:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am part of a big family and when ever my mom and I needed to talk I would just find her alone like when she was folding the laundry or cooking dinner and just say, mom i think we need to talk. I need some alone time with you. that always worked for me! good luck hun
2006-06-08 11:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by icanansweryourquestions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to talk to your mom about that is I'm sure there is a day where you can just ask her to go out to lunch or ice cream whatever or maybe just you and her go shopping even to the grocery store or where ever. just tell her you two need one on one time.
2006-06-20 13:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by yup yup i know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋