I have been friends with this guy for 5 years now, we have even dated and we both tell each other that we are just friends now,, But I constantly get the feeling that he doesnt want me around anymore. When I call him (which is twice a week) he doesnt answer and when he does he sounds pissed. I have asked him if he doesnt want me to hang around anymore and he always says he doesnt mind my company and he enjoys the times we hang out. whats bad is when he calls me he tells me his schedule so we can plan a day to hang out. He knows that i hate playing games, and i feel that if he doesnt want me around he should say so. So Should I follow my feelings and just quit calling him or should I tell him again how I feel?
2006-06-08 10:50:31 · 12 answers · asked by midori_mika 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It also seems that he would rather hang with the same 4 people everyday then hang with me.
2006-06-08 11:00:07 · update #1
He KNOWS that you don't like games and that you are a straight forward person so you don't have to tell him 'again'. I'm sure he got the message the first time.
Quit calling him is the best thing,because your world clearly doesn't revolve around HIM.
If he has a problem that has nothing to do with you, he'll come around and probably fill you in when he's ready.
If he's really interested in being your friend, he'll call you, even if you don't call him.
For now, it's no use pouring out your feelings to him, when he already knows, trust me!
Just keep your distance.
2006-06-08 11:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sammy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say if you've dated and are now just friends then maybe he just thinks you are hanging around too much. Calling him twice a week seems a bit much even for friends. I think you should just back off and give him some space maybe call him once every two weeks or at most once a week. Or don't call him at all. If he calls you then you know he does want you around if he doesn't, then you'll know the answer there to.
Just give him some space.
2006-06-08 17:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by anku7448 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably blowing things out of proportion if he is telling you his schedule and planning dates to hang out with you, then it sounds like he does want you around. He's probably just in a bad mod some times. But I think you should tell him any ways how you r feeling so he knows then take it from there.
2006-06-08 18:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by suzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would quit pursuing him and let him make the next move. If he really wants to talk with you, let HIM call you. If he really wants to hang out with you, let HIM come over. It could be that he's feeling crowded for some reason, so just leave the ball in his court. He'll call/visit, or he won't, and then you'll know how he really feels.
2006-06-08 17:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by fruitnroo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not calling him. Ignore his calls and sound pissed when he calls you. When girls play hard to get and have the confidence to back it up, for some reason, guys want them more. That is if you like him... If you just want to be friends with him, then be straight up... Honesty + Confidence = get what YOU want.
2006-06-08 17:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit calling, and if he then asks why tell him. Also be sure to let him know you will not be treated like that anymore.
2006-06-08 17:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, then stop calling him. Don't worry, don't feel bad, there's a lots of friend that are crazy to talk to you.
2006-06-08 17:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by rogue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel unwanted then why push yourself on someone?? You know the saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder", I think you should give it a try.
2006-06-08 17:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by couriousinms 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him sweat
dont call for a week and let him come back
2006-06-08 17:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by dirtee diamondz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel.
2006-06-08 17:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋