My husband has panic attacks every day.?

Question

he is 48 and has had this problem for most of his life. he also has been diagnosed with parinoied skitzopheina. he has tried all the drugs, tried booze, he has tried God he has commited himself 2 times, . Huge mixup at the hospital both times. going there was a big mistake. He says that he just can't go though the medication thing again. None seemed to bring relief. he trust no one. I am his only friend, and that gets awful hard on me. Now for the big piece of information His mother told him when he was a child, , he was the off spring of a ET. She also told him 6 years ago that she had tried to kill him by thowing him against the wall when he was a baby. This is not a joke. She told me she was what she called a white witch. She is on heavey med now at 81 years old because she took a butcher knife to her daughter about 4 years ago. I need help for my husband. Dont tell me to leave him. I married him for better or worse. But the worse has lasted 19 years. I want some better now. Help!

Answer 1

I am 38 years old and I have had panic attacks many times a day. Hospitalization does not work and sometimes people can not find the right meds to use for them, but I have found a good medicine for it, but I would recommend that he sees a specialist and get Lexapro.

Answer 2

Three years is a long time for a marriage partner to not be able to take out his wife and have fun with her and the kids on an outing or a romantic evening for the two of you. You didn't say anything about medication or therapy but I should think behavior modification therapy should have resolved your fear of outings for you long ago so your husband has a point. Call the universities if you can't afford a psychologist. Call the Women's Centre in your city and call the Family Counseling Centre and keep calling until you find someone who can work as your therapist. Anti-anxiety medications are available but tend to make people sleepy so talk to your doctor about what meds might decrease your panics and increase your mood. I'd even suggest an anti-depressant could help balance you. Now stop focusing on the problem and start focusing on the solutions and don't stop until you get the right balance for you. Otherwise it will cost you your marriage and kids! See the signs and get help!

Answer 3

I feel for you. I have a brother 39 and sounds exactly as you describe. Sometimes nothing helps him either. I have to have him committed at least twice a year. But when he comes out he's better....for awhile! The medication is the only thing that will help, provided they stay away from alcohol, caffeine and nicotine. Those three interact with the meds and makes them worse. Medication and psychiatry are all I know. I'm in the same boat you are. I wish you all the best. And keep your mother in law away from you both. She's only aggrivating the situation.

Answer 4

First off don't let that crazy mother in law of yours near your family. Sounds mean, but it seams best for all of you. Second, your husband sounds like he needs therapy more then meds. I know that he only trusts you right now but after awhile he will open up to someone else. Maybe yall could do a marriage counseling and see how that goes first. If he seems at ease with that after a few months...then he should try single counseling with the same counselor if possible. This problem won't clear up over night, I'm sure you are aware of that by now. But it seems like a lot of his problems are rooting from his past. He just needs help trying to put his past behind him and focus more on his future and how he can make it a more full fulling life.

Answer 5

girl, my dad is a well known psyciatrist and works in phila, and arizona. there is no way that a person can not be off meds for this. he needs very important care. this thing he's got is due to a chemical imbalance in the brain and believe me, the longer he's off meds it's gonna get a whole lot worse. he could very well get phsycotic and hurt someone. people hear voices, delusions, see things that are not real and act literally crazy. he must be seen or else you'll have him on a 302 commitment. the grandmother or mother could have it to. it can be inherited and it's not funny and its not a joke. sometimes this also can come out of nowhere. you need to get to a doctor and have him seen. either that or he"ll be in jail, or a mental institute for a long time. and with health care now, you only get as much care as the insurance co. says or a 180 pass day. so you decide.

Answer 6

Ouch. Rough life. You're going to have to basically keep him away from his mother because she is just bringing back awful memories. Maybe try to get him to express himself pretty good. People can say that they're telling you everything but there is always something deep down that is causing so much pain. Panic Attacks can be controlled without the meds. Take him to see a professional for awhile then things will clear up. Good luck. ♥

Answer 7

Hi there, I just laugh about my past 3 years of panic now. I was not able to go anywhere without carrying xanax. Fear of having another attack was the most important subject of my days.When i first found joe barry's web site i started to cry because of my happiness.

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Answer 8

Paranoid Schizophrenia is VERY serious not only can your husband be in danger but you can be to. I would recommend going to a doctor and referring you to a Psychologist. As something as serious as that you need medication to help what is going on in his brain. He would probably also benefit from counseling. Find someone you can trust-it helps! I have suffered from panic attacks too and the first thing I did was read and studied it! So many books recommended A LOT of exercise and a change of lifestyle. Good luck

Answer 9

Let me begin by saying I commend you for staying as long as you have. I assume you married him knowing his mental health conditions and went along with it anyway. That makes you a very brave and patient woman or not to brig...let's just say committed (jk). If you haven't done so, I hope he's seeing a qualified psychiatrist and he's taking whatever medication he needs on a daily basis. It may be hard for him, but if that's what he has to do then he has to do it. The only thing you can do (IMO) is you take things day to day.

Also, be there for him. Do as much positive reinforcement as you can. Listen to him. Be there for him. Afterall you signed up for this.

Answer 10

That's just terrible.. mainly for him.. but I'm glad you would "stand by your man"... I understand him not wanting the drugs.. those things make people really crazy! It does sound like he needs to stay away from his natural family, though. perhaps this would help with the panic attacks? Y'all should try a D.O. rather than an M.D. they tend to try harder to help without immediately resorting to the horrible chemicals. You are certainly due some good times, though! Look it up in your phone book: Physicians and Surgeons, D.O. (osteopathy)
Really, best wishes to BOTH of you!