My couisns are so loose one already at age 14 had sex and another is always talking to boys 13 and they want to have sex so much and i want to be a good older cousin but i dnt know what to do to make them calm down and relax.
GOD bless you
2006-06-08 10:18:57 · 11 answers · asked by Jetta C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I talk but they dnt listen
2006-06-08 10:21:57 · update #1
show them a video from the health department about STD's and their effects on the body. the more graphic the better.
then make them watch a good childbirth video....if that doesn't do it them then i guess you've got to just shake your head and say that at least you tried....but they will have a lot more to think about and will at least be more educated. good for you that you care cuz;)
2006-06-08 10:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Dig this lil Mama. Your cousins are at the age where they starting to get all hot... and all bothered.... and sometimes they get hot and bothered. Sometimes you just gotta let people bump they heads to find out the hard way. im quite sure you probably told them the demo on sex, disease, pregnancy ect. But they aint trying to hear all that. The best thing for you to do is lead by example. Keep respecting yourself and these dudes out here cant do nothing but respect you back. Your cousins are headed for a life of pain and disrespect. I know its hard but you might want to dis associate yourself with ppl like that because what they do you do it to in a mans eyes (weather your out there loose or not)
2006-06-08 17:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if they were older I would tell you to tell them to have as much sex as they wish to as long as they take precautions, because after all sex is oh so much fun. Since they aren't older I would tell them about some of the responsibilities that come along with having to take care of a child.
I would also tell them abortion isn't a positive option for them either if they happen to get pregnant, because they will go through endless mental anguish and trauma. Also, a baby isn't a choice, it's a life, and if they have an abortion God will hold them accountable for that life when they face him one day.
I would remind them of all of the ST D's that they are taking the risk of contracting. I'd remind them, not only can those ST-D's ruin their lives at such a young age, but they can take their lives as well.
Lastly, let them know that you identify and sympathize with them, and that you are only concerned with their best interest and their welfare. Let them know you aren't some old prude who wants to stop them from having fun, because sex is definitely fun. Only in their case, they aren't old enough to be responsible for the consequences of their actions and the results and/or repercussions of their choices in life. Let them know that you would like to see them become old enough to have children and families, and a good time isn't worth the risk of losing all of that.
2006-06-08 17:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by McReynolds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might sound like narcing but have you thought about telling your aunt and uncle?
Another thing you can do is contact planned parenthood in your area and see if they have some kind of teenage sex education course they can take. Planned Parenthood can also get them on birth control and condoms. They don't need parental permission to do this either. You might not be able to get them to stop doing what they are doing but at the very least you can get them to be as safe as possible
2006-06-08 17:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First how old are you? so you need to sit them down and teach them the side effects to having sex (babies,std,etc) it all depends on the knowledge that you have in this particular thing. You are being a big cuz by worring about them , they may think that having sex is cool but maybe they need to wait
Good Bless You
2006-06-08 17:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by ladylibra247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a video to show them the horrors of prengancy tell them about the ring of fire and STD's. They will never want to have sex again!!
2006-06-08 17:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take them into confidence and tell them there is a time for everything.That it is better to wait for the right age for everything otherwise they may burn themselves out
2006-06-08 17:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by raj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teen age-rs will be teen age rs just tell them the bad thing about having sex
2006-06-08 17:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by jjd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let their parents handle the situation
2006-06-08 17:29:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, tell their parents and your parents, what your cousins are doing. It is very dangerous. Tell them NOW!
2006-06-08 17:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋