I had the perfect bf. He was my best friend, my partner in crime, my sexual match.. i loved rolling over in the morning and watch him watch me sleep. when we werent with each we couldnt wait to be together again. he died tragically in a motorcycle accident on the way to my house 3.5 years ago. since then i have dated but no one seems to be able to completewhat i want. they can either be my friend but not my sexual equal, or vice versa, or there is just no spark... i have had what i want and lost it, and i refuse to settle for less. am i wrong fot still wanting the same things? am i just destined to be alone forever?
2006-06-08 09:59:34 · 6 answers · asked by bubblyblonde002200 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you aren't, forever is one very long time. It's true that you may have lost your soul mate, but that doesn't mean, you won't find another.
One big problem, that you have, to my way of thinking is, that every guy you date now, is being measured against your old soul mate.
That's not fair to the guys you date. They are different in many ways from him. They cant possibly be expected to compete against a Ghost.
In your mind, your former lover can do no wrong, and will forever be perfect in your mind.
It isn't fair to his memory, or your life, to live in the past, like you are. Open yourself up, to new ideas, new people. If you meet someone new, judge him on what he has to offer you, and your future.
If you continue to judge the new friends against what is gone, you will never find what you are looking for.
Keep his memory alive, by all means, but don't let it stop you from finding a new love of you life.
It won't be the same, but that doesn't mean it can't be just as fulfilling and bring you much happiness and joy.
So open your mind to new alternatives. You are still a young woman with much to live for and much to share.
Is living a lonely life, what you really want, I don't think so.
You won't be settling for less, you will be looking forward to a new future.
2006-06-08 10:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by johnb693 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am soooo sorry for your loss, and it goes without saying, that once you've had the BEST, it's going to be hard to match again. My suggestion is, as much as be possible, don't compare the new guys to your "soulmate". He was, and always will be, the love of your life. Now, do not settle for less than what you want and need. You are not destined to be alone forever, but that person is going to be hard to find.....and will take a long search. You will no doubt meet a lot of guys before one even comes close, and when he does, maybe you can "teach" him to be what you need.. Good Luck!!
2006-06-08 17:16:10 · answer #2 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad you lost your soulmate.....but I'm sure he is watching you somewhere and wanting you to be happy. And you are right, you should not settle for less, you deserve someone special again and it will happen again one day. Till then enjoy life as best as you can and keep your bf in your heart with a smile. All the best!
2006-06-08 17:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wont be forever alone. Its just a matter of time. Maybe you aren't ready for one yet. It will come in time. You have to believe and keep the faith. In the mean time , try working to improve yourself, hit the gym, take up a class, try being more nice. It all helps ij the end. It'll make you a better person. Most of all, be yourself. Your future hubby will be grateful for that. I have faith in you man. Until next time.
2014-05-20 08:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by steven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my best friend online, she is my wife now, we're in our 40's, keep looking. Where were you when I was single? LOL, your other question about a guy who likes 2 girls, wow, thats every guys fantasy isn't it?
2006-06-09 16:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by gary36330 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg!!!!!!!!!!i'm so, so sorry for u! don't worry, love is always in the air. good luck
2006-06-08 17:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by girl_foxy_15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋