WHAT DO GAY PEOPLE bash straight people for the way we believe?

Question

WE ARE ALWAYS HEARING THAT IT IS NATURAL AND IT IN NOT A CHOICE ETC. IF IT IS SO NATURAL THEN WHY DO THEY FEEL THE NEED TO ADVERTISE IT SO MUCH.
DO YOU SEE "STRAIGHT PRIDE" PARADES? DO STRAIGHT PEOPLE SPORT THEIR "COLORS" ON THEIR CARS AND SO FORTH.

THIS IS JUST A QUESTION, I AM NOT TRYING TO OFFEND ANYONE AND I AM NOT BRINGING RELIGION IN TO THIS. AND I STILL BET THAT THE MOST VIOLENT ANSEWER WILL BE FROM GAYS.

It is my questions and I CAN TYPE IN ALL CAPS IF I WANT TO!!!!

Show mw a law that says I can't?!?!!

And so far the most harsh answers have been from gays.

Not that I owe anyone an explanition, but I am at work and I only type IN CAPS at work and I forget to change it no and then.

I am NOT shouting at anyone.

There have been some very thought out answers here and I thank you for them.

I feel sorry for thoes who still feel that I am "atacking" them, as I am not, and most people here saw that.

A question is asked because someone wants to be educated, and alot of people saw that here, for thoes who felt the need to over react, I am sorry for your prejudice towards straight people. I was not asking anyone to defend temselves. I don't feel at all that gay people need to defend themselves to me. I understant your frustration and desieres, I just do not agree with the lifestyle, just as you may not agree with mine.

Again, thank youto thoes who are giving educated and resonable answers, to the others, lok at your life and try to find out why you are so hostile and learn from thoes who are not.

Answer 1

I agree with you.I have homosexual tendencies..I'm sure as heck not proud of it.I think it's an afflection.....a curse.I don't like being attracted to a nice looking guy....but I do.I think handing it over to Jesus Christ is the answer.Hope this helped.

Answer 2

I think you need to put things in perspective. For centuries and centuries, gay people have been made to feel inferior by straights. Sin, sin, sin...read the bible...the usual quotes from unenlightened people. Now, if you were kept in a closet because you are straight, do you think you might make a statement as to how you have been treated in the past? Probably so. There is strength in numbers. When Gays were made to think they were alone in the world, they were weak. That time has come and gone. Gays are here to stay, and in great number. They display that number to get through to straights that the gay bashing, the derogatory remarks, the ugliness and stupidity will no longer be tolerated by them. Gays have money and spend it..but not with companies that exhibit discrimination. (Have you noticed the changes in advertisements in the last 10 years...big time!) Bigots can no longer be spokespersons for companies, or those companies will loose money big time! Only by coming out and "shoving it in the face of society" will gays make progress, and they are making real progress. They have become adept at politics and excercise that force in elections to the point of making many politicians somewhat wary of offending them. All in all, this is very similar to the black movement in the 60's..and the gay movement began in 1967 in NYC, when a group of bigoted police got bashed by gays when police raided a gay bar for no reason. Gays will no longer stay in the background in a country where they pay a lot of taxes, spend a lot of money, and are good people. When is the last time you heard of a group of gays lynching a straight man? I am sorry to say it, but if things don't turn around soon with bigots, we may well see that happening here. If there is one thing people understand, it is fear. Fear has created more freedom for minorities than any other thing in history. And I certainly do not mean to sound harsh..I do not feel harsh about this..it is just how things are. IN fact, to make a really stupid statement, my best friends are all straight :-)

Answer 3

We are not advertising, we are reaching out to other gays who may have conflicting emotions about who they are. The reason you don't see any straight pride parades is because straight people are the majority and on the whole don't suffer from too much persecution the way gay people do. We have gay pride to rally ourselves and raise our spirits the same way in minority has certain events meant to cater to them. We sport our colors on our car to be out in the open instead of in the closet, where we were all forced to live not that long ago. We are in effect saying this is who i am and theres nothing wrong with it, the same way christians sport crosses or fish on their cars.

I apologize if you felt a gay person has been rude to you for asking this question. But please try to understand where they are coming from, they are used to being opressed by straight people. Up until 1969 we could be placed in an asylum for the rest of our lives just because we were gay. Matthew Shepard was brutally murdered for being gay, less than ten years ago. So we are ready to respond emotionally when we perceive we are being put down. By the same token I have heard many gays express themselves in a logical non-passionate manner and have been percieved as attacking the norm. So I guess in the end its not so much what anyone says but what the person listening too choses to hear.

Answer 4

To answer the first part of your question about advertisement . We do not advertise , we are a minority and we use the flag , gay pride , and the rainbow to get our message of tolerance out there . The flag and rainbow are for tolerance and diversity .The Italian americans have their own flags and colors and display them proudly , the Irish Americans have parades and have St Patricks day one of the biggest celebrations of the year in a lot of places that are primarily Irish . They also have a parade . The Black americans have Martin Luther King day and celibrate his contrabutions as well as winning civil rights . So why is it so diffrent when We have a parade or fly a flag . I will tell you because we are gay Americans and it is a Sin to be gay and a lot of the straight men and women Like to judge us . I am a 47 year old gay male who has for the most part lived a quiet life and have had a partner for the past 20 years , we own a home togeather , worked and built retirement togeather , raised a child togeather . I feel that it is mostly the Straight People who are doing most of the Bashing . Gay men and wormen do not hide in dark alley ways and beat up straight people . We don't shout obsenities at Straight people who are walking down the street minding their own business . We don't preach the bible to straight people and tell them they are going to hell . We don't judge straight people for having affairs , living with their girlfiends out of wedlock , having sex before marrage , or having bastard children out of wedlock . None of what I have said here is said in anger , I am just stating the facts .

Answer 5

Would you really have shouted this at me if we were face to face? I realize that it is your question, but I'm not deaf, and I assume your parents taught you manners.

As a lesbian, I have more straight friends than gay. The biggest issue that I have is, well, why can't we all play nice in the sandbox? Is it really you against me or do we just think it is because that is what we have been taught to believe?

Isn't it kind of like saying, "Why do suburbanites always bash rednecks?" Are they really all that different when it comes down to it? Each of them lives in a house, has goals that they want to reach (although they are different from the other), and wants to enjoy life to the fullest. Yet somewhere along the line they decide to pick on each other instead of working towards fulfillment.

So, you keep yelling and bashing, a rainbow is still a rainbow to me, whether it is on the back of a car or at the end of a storm. Enjoy what you have because you are only going to get one chance at it straight or gay.

Answer 6

I'm straight and i think the reason we don't need a damn parade is because no one has ever had a protest about the people we choose to sleep with!
no one has ever tried to pass a law to FORCE u to b single for the rest of ur life or ban u from adopting children. the fact of the matter is u haven't faced any real hardship over ur sexuality and probably never will! so do us all a favor and stop complaining ! And they have to constantly tell people it's natural because idiots keep telling them it's not and they have to defend themselves. I'm sure that if someone said something untrue about u, u would defend urself as well.

Answer 7

and yeah - why do THEY get the rainbow ? I want the rainbow BACK !


Yes, It's very sad that the gays have taken such a powerful symbol as the rainbow and tried to make it their own. God made the rainbow and defined it as a covenant to ALL people that he would never flood the earth again.
If God felt the need to flood the earth and wipe out all the people and start over again with Noah he must have been very disappointed in the state of the world at that time.
It seems to be a pretty big slap in the face to God then to take a symbol such as the rainbow and use it for something that he is so clearly opposed to. (GENESIS 19)

Answer 8

Didn't your mother ever tell you that if you didn't have anything nice (or constructive) to say, don't say it at all? Well, that's how a lot of us in the gay community feel.

It would be one thing if you expressed your opinions as OPINIONS, and entered into discussion with us, insteasd of telling us we're a)going to he**, b) subhuman c)evil. And that is what we hear, a LOT.

We do tend to be a little defensive, but that's because we have to fight for our very exsistence on a daily basis.

We don't advertise, we just live our lives and feel that we should be free to express our preferences just as you do in the straight community. Straight people advertise every day. In People magazine, TV, Movies, Radio and literature. They just don't see it as advertising, because they are (nominally) the majority.

All that gay people want to do is live in this world with the same laws, rules, regulations and benefits as straight people do. We aren't asking for preferential treatment, we're asking for equal treatment.

We want health care, the right to raise children, the right to be an american citizen... with all that that entails.

And the great thing about our country is that if you don't like it, you don't have to look at it. You are more than free to act like we don't exsist. We enjoy who we are, who we love and so do you. Why does that have to be a big deal? Is it hurting you? Is it infringing on your day to day health? Is it causing you mental distress...well, apparantly it is, but that's your doing.....

Imagine living in a world where you are inferior and/or invisible. You are made to feel on a daily basis that you do not exist. You are not worthy of anything..much less love. You are told to keep quiet and or die. Really, really think about this...and then you'll have the answer to your question.

Answer 9

Dude, disengage your caps key. You're coming off like a total loonie. Maybe you need some Xanex or something...

Gay pride is one day where gay people surround themselves with people who love and support them and where their sexual orientation is not a problem. If straight people need to have a day or weekend to chill in the proximinity of other straight and and straight friendly people because the rest of the world is so unfriendly and hostile to straight people, I would support that unconditionally. However we both know that is not the case.

I put a rainbow on my car because I truely believe in the message. Mine says "celebrate diversity" and I think that we really should. That includes racial diversity, religious diversity, sexual diversity, class diversity, regional diversity, language diversity, and diverse interests. A rainbow of only one color is not a rainbow, it is boring. Diversity is what makes us awesome, interesting, and complex creatures instead of Attack of the Clones.

I also put a rainbow on my car because I "look straight" (whatever that means, but that is not the point here). I like to "advertise" my sexuality to make the point that gay people are everywhere and we look just like you. Similarly, I have a Wiccan pentacle on my car because I don't look like a typical witch (I'm not warty and green, goth, or scary looking). I also have a librarian bumper sticker for the same reason. It is a deliberate move to challenge visual stereotypes and make people think.

I am what a bisexual looks like. I am what a witch looks like. I am what a librarian looks like. I am what a liberal feminist sex-positive queer looks like. And I like the idea that people notice that and it makes them go "hmm". Sorry if you disaprove, but that really is not my f*cking problem dude.

I'm more worried that you're going to get yourself so worked up in an anti-gay frothing frenzy that you'll forget to breathe. Remember to breathe, once you stop breathing, then we really have a problem here. Breathe in, and slowly breathe out man. Repeat as necessary.

Answer 10

Listen hun... gays get so much stick from straight people that they need to have these parades to show them that they are gay and proud. Homosexuality is still in the minority and if straight or religious people didnt fell the need to interfere and judge them all the time, there wouldn't be so much noise about it. But as it is, there are straight people out there who have decided that they dont like it and will stop at nothing to put them down.

Answer 11

Well, I can only speak for myself when I say that I know I never made a choice to like men. Psychological research suggests that sexuality, like many other things in life, is part nature part nurture. In my case, I'd be hard pressed to find the nurture at all.

As for the pride things, you'll see such things around any culture. African-Americans have such things, Native Americans do, and the list goes on. From what I've observed, these are also more common when a particular group is oppressed in some way. For example, see the push for equality for women. And the pride is a way of getting a positive spin on something that so many see as negative. It helps to pull some people up. Think about a teenager having to come to grips with their own sexuality and haing messages from all around telling them that they're weird for such feelings. There's a reason the suicide rate for homosexual adolescents is so high...because of the pressures from society. So to circle back to the point that I'm trying to make (probably not very well, but hopefully it makes sense), we have pride events to let those who are struggling know it's okay and that there are others like them out there.

Granted, some pride events get a bit out of hand, those moments are also more of what the media shows than the bulk of what really goes on.

As for the rainbow, a good explanation is here: http://www.capricornslair.com/whyisrainasw.html

Such gets displayed, again, as a symbol of pride. I have an HRC sticker on my car to show my own support for our cause of equal rights. I wear small hoop earrings with rainbow rings on them also as a symbol of pride in who I am. It's my way of letting society know that I'm not afraid to be me. I find that it also helps avoid the occasional awkward situation in which someone assumes I'm straight. I've had my fair share of women hit on me only to have to tell them I'm not interested. It lets people know without them having to ask and without me having to directly say anything.

Hopefully that addressed some of the questions you had decently. I'm certainly open for more discussion.