I've been going out with this great girl for about a month now. we agreed to take it slow and I didn't even kiss her till just recently, but I don't know when to say I Love You to her. I truly do love her, but I don't want to scare her off. It's begining to become awkward at the end of phone conversations just saying bye. should I just tell her? The most helpful answer will get 10 points.
2006-06-08 09:23:39 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If u dont tell her you love her, it doesnt mean you dont love her. it's from your heart that is important. show her that you care. if she really loves you, she'll see it.
2006-06-08 09:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by Honey Gee 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I would wait until you really really mean it. Since it has only been a month, I would wait so you don't freak her out. Maybe wait for her to say it first, or say it on a special occasion, birthday, party, dinner etc. Or wait till the moment when you are about to explode because you want her to know that you love her. In the end it is all up to you. I guess the worst thing that will happen if you say I love you and she doesn't feel the same way, she just wont say it back. Anyway, Good Luck.
2006-06-08 09:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no perfect time to say that you love her! Maybe the word itself is scary but its content no. Next time you go out for a walk, go to a romantic place and express your fellings. Tell her how happy you feel that you are a couple, that you think of her all the day and although you are not so long together, you have strongly feelings for her. Stop talking, touch her hands and wait for your reaction. If she says the same things, you can tell her that you love her. If she says
that is too early for all these, wait when she will be ready to hear that
you love her.
2006-06-08 09:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right time or wrong time to tell someone you love them. It is a feeling and who's to say when the time is right to express how you feel. If you are doubting as to whether or not you think she is "ready" to hear it, then wait. Wait until you are certain the relationship is heading in a committed, monogamous direction. Read her. Read her body language and how she is acting. First of all, don't say it over the phone. Saying "I love you" is a monumental step in a relationship. Don't let the memory of it be on the phone. Ya know? You will know when the time is right. You will feel it.
2006-06-08 09:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by whatshername 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same cituation, I really like this person and we started dating and we were dating for a month didn't really even kiss yet, 2 months alittle kissing nothing to big and 3 months and still no sex and he and I agreed to move slow too; and to tell you the truth the sex we have was the best sex ever because we both waited till we did have strong feelings for each other and we have been together now for 2 years. I really don't regret anything that we agreed to move slow I think it gave us a change to really get to know eachother before the I love you and sex; so that neither one of us would get hurt. (well me, i really didn't want him to hurt me.)
2006-06-08 09:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by lovebug1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to go ahead and tell her how you are feeling. There will always be a risk of scaring someone away when you tell them how you are feeling about them. The whole dating experience is a big risk, but if we don't take that risk, then we end up alone, and that's no way to be - So...take the risk! Tell her. You never know, she may tell you that she loves you too. I have found that it is best to be open and honest with people, and let them know where they stand with you. Guessing games are no fun, so, she will probably appreciate you telling her how you feel.
2006-06-08 09:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by Sally Mae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to love someone within that short of time period but highly unlikely. You may think that you love her, but don't. Give it AT LEAST another month. Then if you still feel that way tell her. That's good that you're taking it slow, so don't rush the L word! That definitely freaks a girl out- trust me!
2006-06-08 09:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by brnzdbeauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that its ok if you go ahead and tell her right now. I ve been with my boyfriend for 3 months now, and I really truely love him. I wanted to tell him like you about a month in our relationship but I to was scared of scaring him! So I didnt say anything. Well I didnt know that he felt the same for me!! Well anyways he told me first that he loved and I told him I loved him the next day because I didnt want him to think that I said I loved him just cause he told me. So I think you should go for it. Tell her you love her, and best of luck!!!
2006-06-08 09:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by Vivica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and tell her, but don't tell her over the phone. Also, don't expect her to respond. She may not be as far along as you are. So, you might even tell her that it's ok if she doesn't feel the same way yet, but that you wanted to let her know how you feel. If you can't tell her to her face, then don't say anything at all.
2006-06-08 09:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never go wrong with sharing your true feelings, I suggest if you say it, don't make a big deal out of it at first. Perhaps work it into the conversation "You're so funny, I love that about you" something along those lines, if you want to gauge her reaction. However, remember that you're def. putting yourself out there. Good luck!
2006-06-08 09:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait longer than a month. Takes longer than that to get to know a person let alone love them. Girls are smarter than boys. She is probably waiting until you are together longer. Even though its hard it is better to wait. Don't want to scare her off.
2006-06-08 09:29:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋