I am not jealous of her trust me, I am excited that she is pregnant but I am tired of every conversation being about how she is pregnant, and around my mother inlaw that's all it is, and now she's by far favored and me and my other sister in law are treated like dirt because we aren't....how do I deal without going crazy the next 9 Months!!!
2006-06-08 08:44:33 · 34 answers · asked by lilronny009 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
To give you my opinion on the question 'Will I hear about It the whole 9 months?' I say..Yes you will, but If theres that kind of conflicts and favortisims to the point you feel that uncomfortable, you may find it easier on you If you distance yourself when you feel like you can't hear anymore about it, that way you don't feel forced to say your feelings and have those 'family conflicts' on which I'm all too familiar with. If there's someone you can vent to who won't tell everyone or make you feel worse than you do, that can help to.
2006-06-08 08:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by dusti2526 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Judging by the last sentence in your post, I would say you're a little jealous. Yes, every conversation for the next nine months will be about her pregnancy and her baby. Well, maybe not ALL of them, but probably 90% of them. I trust you've never been pregnant? If/when you do decide you want to become a parent, I can guarantee you'll be the same way. Try to be patient with her and be understanding. If she keeps going on and on, try to change the subject without hurting her feelings. The further her pregnancy progresses, the more her hormones are going to be out of whack, and trust me...you don't want to be on her bad side. Just humor her and listen to her, then change the subject. If she goes back to babies, change it again. She's very excited and confused and proud and about 100 other emotions right now, and she really can't help herself. Try to put yourself in her shoes.
2006-06-08 08:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be patient and try to avoid her if possible so you do not have to hear so much about it.. I understand what you are saying but after she gives birth, it will be a different conversation, as the actual baby will be there and you will not have to hear her talk and instead spend time with the baby.... Do not make this a big issue, as no matter what you say, people will always look at it as if you were to be jealous, people are just ignorant like that.. So be strong and stick it out, just for the baby's sake... Good Luck..
2006-06-09 01:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
. yes the conversations are all going to be about her, and when the child is born about the baby. I don't know if you have been pregnant before, but believe me they need some attention when the feel fat and unattractive. Plus it will be your turn if and when you decide to have a child. Just bare with it, think about throwing her a baby shower so you can feel in control of some part of this and you will get at least a Little attention from the shower. but remember it is her time and you should be happy for her.
2006-06-08 08:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by lee b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres not much you can really do about it because it's going to be all about baby for the next nine months while shes pregnant and even after the baby's born. I am pregnant now and thats all my mom talks about, even though it is my baby I wish she would talk about something else once in a while. I wouldn't hold it against her she probably isn't trying to play favorites, I think its just because when your getting older and your kids start having kids it's a very touching experience for them... If you don't wanna loose your mind in babyness I would just keep a fair distance from the whole situation for a while..
Good Luck..
2006-06-08 08:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by ashez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL
You are going to be crazy........... Just think after the baby is born??
It's just getting started! Next all she'll talk about is the new baby.
The best thing I can tell you to do is just stay away as much as you can. It's what I do with my in laws. I love them but don't get along with them. Pull away don't talk on the phone to them or be around them so you don't have to hear it. Once you pull away things will get better and you'll get treated better b/c they will find out you could careless what they do or think. It works!
You got to do it in a nice way. Make it look like you don't have time for them.
2006-06-08 08:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your frustration. It may slow down as the pregnancy progresses. Right now it's fresh and new and the excitement is very real. It will probably slow down in the middle months, but as she reaches her due date again, the excitement will rise again. Try to initiate conversations about other things. Remember also that this is the most exciting and happiest thing that she will ever experience. Try to be understanding. God Bless
2006-06-08 09:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably will always be about her pregnancy. Pregnant women are extremely preoccupied with the fact that they are pregnant. Is this her first? If so that is when it is the worst! But try to be patient and understanding no matter how sick of the pregnancy talk you are. This is probably the most lifechanging thing that will ever happen to her and she won't be able to get her mind off of it. If you really don't want to talk about it anymore, I suggest starting different topics of conversation with her. If she is interrupting you to talk about her pregnancy, then maybe she is just too self-absorbed and I would avoid her. But chances are she will welcome other conversations and be happy to talk with you about other things. Overall I would just try to be as supportive and happy for her as you can, and I'm sure your mother in law will be just as happy when if you ever get pregnant.
2006-06-08 08:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Mom of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , for the next 9 months the conversation will be about how big she's getting....how many weeks is she now....how much time is left.....what her cravings are....how much sleep is she getting...how many times she has to pp....is it a boy or a girl....has she got the nursery ready....how cute her maternity clothes are....how swollen her fingers and ankles are.....and the real biggie, how much weight have you gained? But if you think that's bad wait until it's born. I know about this because it happened when I was pregnant. People treated my poor husband like he was invisible. Yeah....go to Hawaii.
2006-06-08 08:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems that very new news, it may wear out a bit.
At one point, the sis in law should get tired of talking about it too, but I would not hope too much :)
It makes it even worse with it's the first grand baby!
2006-06-08 08:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by gargoyle08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋