We have nearly everything in common, including medical histories! The only downside is I've heard from alot of people she has an STD from her last b/f...:( She says she doesn't but I don't know if she does or if she's just afraid/ebmarassed to tell me. While we get along great and couldn't be more compatible, I don't want to put myself in that type of a situation...HELP...
2006-06-08 08:38:57 · 44 answers · asked by blackwolf917 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've known her most of my life and trust her for the most part...But condoms don't exactly guarantee protection now do they? Not to mention her previous b/f HAS given girls since her STD's!!! I don't think she was with him 3 wks. ago and managed to not get something...
2006-06-08 08:45:59 · update #1
Well, if you really like her, make her feel confortable talking to you. When you know that things could be taken a little farther, talk to her and tell her that you really care for her and that you want nothing to get in the way of you two. Maybe she'll come out and tell you. But you're going to have to be sensitive about it. You don't know how she may have caught it, it may not have even be her choice. She may never have wanted to do something with that guy in the first place.
2006-06-08 08:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by futbolluver09 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her! Why would you believe other people; people make up things all the time about everyone.... Take from me. And if you really like her you will be supportive and work through anything she may have caught. Sex is NOT the only reason people are together you know. That could come later at the right time. So if you really like her talk to her and tell her what you've heard and that you really like her and then see where that takes you.
2006-06-08 08:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by lovebug1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the STD? Makes a BIG difference in what you should do. Is it HIV? Then, forget it. Is it HPV? Well, geez, almost EVERYONE either HAS it, or is a carrier. (That's why the new vaccine against Cervical cancer is such welcome news, because human papilloma virus is massively widespread, and is THE primary cause of cervical cancer - albeit in a relatively small percentage of women who have it. The vaccine should be given before sexual activity begins, however. Just today, newscasts put estimated costs of the three-shot sequence at $300-$500.)
2006-06-08 08:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by ian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should still see her. Think about this: If everyone had STD, and you are to stay away from them, then how are they to experience love? Not sexual love, but companionship. If have sex is a must, then you may want to find another girl, but in the long run, sex should not be your only reason to make or break with someone.
2006-06-08 08:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by ibelieveps911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what i used to do in relationships....
before they got that physical we both went to a clinic and got tested. that way i knew they were the most up to date results and as long as i trusted them, i knew that they weren't sleeping around and the test results were valid.
just be honest with her and tell her how much you like her and that it will not change even if she does have an STD. ensure her that you care for her and will not be upset, but you would like to go get tested together! hopefully, that will ease her mind and you canboth be safe.
if she refuses to be tested, then she doesn't care about you or herself. no one should be afraid of getting tested for STDs in this day and age.
i learned my lesson when i "trusted" someone and believed him when he told me he was recently tested and we started a monogamous relationship. he told me he had only been with a few people...well, when i left him (other reasons) he told me that he had been with over 60 some people and that he lied about being tested.
thank goodness i was fine.....but, i was very lucky.
i'm so happy to married to my husband and one comforting thought is that we don't have to deal with the russian roulette of sex today.
please take care.
2006-06-08 08:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weigh the pro's and cons...is it worth having and STD for the rest of your life?? are you going to marry her? if not, are you willing to be in the same position she is in now if you had to tell your partner you have an STD?
go to the clinic/doctor together..this will give both of you the results.
you have a right to know if she has an STD, I would hope that she has enough courtesy to tell you if she does so you can make your own decision on continuing to see her or not...
2006-06-08 08:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well bro what type of STD does she have?
I'm guessing Herpes of some sort..?
Perhaps you should ask her for some blood work, or say hey I want to take this to the next level lets both get tested because I want us to both be secure. If she’s really as compatible as you say she will agree with your request.
2006-06-08 08:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by Kain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know which STD she contracted?
It may not be a big deal.
It might be treatable and the problem will go away.
Either way, it sounds like it might be worth a little extra effort to protect yourself and give this relationship a try.
2006-06-08 09:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by Ted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friends with someone does Not mean you have to sleep with them... But she does need to get tested some STD will cause infertility and worse... Just be there for both of you
Good Luck
2006-06-08 08:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by stessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uuugh! well if you are really feeling this chick an std should'nt scare you away at least she was honest enough to tell you about it unlike some nasty chicks in the world. what both of you should do is get test ran hiv and all get all cleaned up for one another and start out with a clean slate!!
2006-06-08 08:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by yousexythangyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋