I am completely lost in life. I am 24, have a great job, model swim wear on the side, and so depressed.?

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I keep repeating the same patterns. It is a vicious cycle of drinking to self medicate on top of isolating myself from society. I feel like no one cares for me except family. As you get older, you have a desire to establish relationship with others besides family, but it seems to me that I just can't figure it out. Is this just a bad case of the 2o somethings, or do I really need some kind of serious help? am already seeing a couselor and I feel like that is simply wasting 400/mo. as it doen't seem to be progressive. Can anyone realte to this?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I am 23 years old- 24 at the end of the year. At the moment I feel pretty lost in life too. At the moment I am actually waiting for an operation, so I can't do much about getting a job but I am trying to work out what to do with my life. I am starting to see my friends graduate and get jobs, start thinking about marriage or even getting married and I admit i'm a little scared because I know that I have so far to go- and i'm trying to figure out what life is about. I've had the 9 to 5 job, which quite frankly sucked so i'm trying to decide what I really want. I recently met a guy who wanted everything, which made me realise how so not ready for any of that I really am. I don't think you have a serious problem at all- I think you're just going through some fairly normal stuff for people around our age. Give yourself a break (I don't mean give up your job, just take it easy- maybe take a vacation somewhere you always wanted to go) and find out what really makes you happy, then find a way to make it happen. Don't think that no one cares- just know that the person who will care for you most is waiting out there for you to meet them- just make sure you know what you want when you do!

Answer 3

Yes.Unfortunately drinking alcohol when you are feeling depressed is tantamount to throwing napalm on a match to quench the fire.
Alcohol feeds your depressed feelings. Doesn't mean you are clinically depressed.
As I have several mental health diagnosis' including schizophrenia...I am loath to suggest the seeing of a therapist let alone...and heaven forbid...a psychiatrist. That is one merry-go-round you may not want to climb onto.
If you are finding your counselor a bit impotent...a psychologist might reccommend a regimen for cutting out the alcohol and will ask you to undergo a full fledged medical to rule out physiological causes for how you feel. And a nutritionist may help you with a lifestyle change ion how you eat to repair the damage the alcohol is doing toyour body and brain.
As you ease off the alcohol...you may find your counselor to be less and less impotent. Things have a way of changing...your perspective that is...when you come off the sauce.
Working through alienation takes work too,lots of practice and balls of steel, to defeat the voices within telling you that you can'tdo this or that.or that you merely are not worthy of human company or interaction.Those thoughts are lies. The fact that you are asking these questions about yourself and are brave enough to put them out on the world stage is concrete proof of that.
I write a list periodically of things that I would do if I had a 'better' life and was a better person...and I pick one...and do it.
I also make a gratitude list...listing all the things I do have...a roof over my head...friends that wil llisten to me and who do care about me...my talent for the abstract ...for listening carefully to others...a job that pays the bills...things like that...which I recite out loud when the moods are upon me...
If you have an old hobby that you abandoned years ago because you were too busy or too grown up or anythinglike that...you may want to consider taking it up again. As we grow older we sometimes thing we have outgrown 'childish things' when in fact these things have a way of rejeuvenating us...opening doors we thought long ago locked, the keys thrown away. Sometimes we lock away the spontaneous part of ourselves in order to fit into the 'adult world'..only to stifle our creative side and stunt our dynamic nature.
I do 'Morning Pages'. I write six to eight pages...legal size...both sides of the page...first thing in the morning when I awake.
My psyche is like your computer. First the operating system boots...then the secondary software like winamp and Word and Norton or McCafee. When I awaken my waking awareness boots first...and then comes all the other subroutines tyhat dictate a lot about how I feel, think and act.
Morning pages interferes with the secondary boot process...allows me to write for 20 minutes to an hour without any thought of proper grammar or prose,sentence structure or indentation...I write whatever comes to mind...and it seems that thisprocess takes some of the subroutines...and puts them down on paper. The act of doing so senmdfs a message tomy subconcious. Some of the subroutines that normally load after I awake are edicts fromthe past...family and societal injunctions regarding who I should be and what I cannot do...self defeating scripts that I use to put myself in harm's way or sabaotage my ability to live...or callmyself names etc.
Mornning pages keeps these negative programs from loading after I become aware...and even if they doload...the act of writing them down...like the way you let us know what was going on with you...makesme subliminally aware of them throughout the day. ...lessens the effectiveness of the harm these edicts, scripts and injunctions can cause me...and that awareness of my shortcomings helpsme throughout the day to avoid traps I set formyself toprevent me from living life as opposed tomerelybeing in survivalmode only.
IThe links below takes you to Julia Cameron's web pages...butthe last linkis right up your alley.I have been using her morning pages for years... a wonderful and gentle tool for breaking patterns by first knowing they exist...and exploring inner space by awakeing my creative drive.
Peace and blessings be upon you and Good Luck!



The idea behind Julia Cameron's The Artist's Way is that by writing three pages, longhand and stream-of consciousness, first thing in the morning, you can overcome the obstacles that stop you from becoming your most creative self. This works partly because it forces you to create something (even if it is just a long list of gripes) every single day. It doesn't take much time. You're not even supposed to think. But the act itself gets you past all that self-defeating fretting about why you think you aren't a creative person. Cameron sees her morning pages as "a form of meditation," as "spiritual windshield wipers."

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